Is it inappropriate for a nurse/tech to ask out a resident?

[pepes1lv1a]

Yep...so I'm a tech venturing over from the pre-med side of SDN because they would probably respond to this question by asking me what my stats are.

I work as an ER tech for a big multi-hospital system where residents cycle in and out for about a month at a time. I haven't seen the same ones twice since March, when I started, so I don't think I risk running into any of them again.

There is this resident I am majorly crushing on. We've flirted a little but he has kept it very professional. He did ask me to chaperone a pelvic exam the other day, which definitely means he's interested, right? (Joke.) He doesn't have a wedding ring, but I have been too shy to ask if he's single yet.


I'm not usually very bold but I'm thinking if I don't make some sort of move, I'll probably never see him again, so I was wondering--is it inappropriate to give him my number?

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[colbgw02]

Not at all. It doesn't sound like he is your supervisor, so just keep it professional if/when you two work together again.

The fact that you apparently like Archer should be a bonus for him.

 

[dpmd]

Just make sure your hospital doesn't have a policy against it (don't think they would but alsways wise to check). You should probably wait till near the end of the rotation though, to avoid awkwardness.

 

[pepes1lv1a]

Just make sure your hospital doesn't have a policy against it (don't think they would but alsways wise to check). You should probably wait till near the end of the rotation though, to avoid awkwardness.

Good point. It's a very corporate place so I should have no trouble locating the guidelines. Actually, this is what I was the most concerned about--jeopardizing his residency by making him look unprofessional--but if the hospital itself doesn't have a rule against it, I suppose it's alright.

As far as waiting til the end of this rotation, it's a fairly large ER and techs/residents interact minimally to begin with, so I will stall for another week or so and then hope I don't wuss out.

And yes, I do like Archer. 🙂 Hopefully he has good taste in TV shows as well. Thanks for the replies, and I'll update if anything pans out.

 

[thesauce]

Yep...so I'm a tech venturing over from the pre-med side of SDN because they would probably respond to this question by asking me what my stats are.

I work as an ER tech for a big multi-hospital system where residents cycle in and out for about a month at a time. I haven't seen the same ones twice since March, when I started, so I don't think I risk running into any of them again.

There is this resident I am majorly crushing on. We've flirted a little but he has kept it very professional. He did ask me to chaperone a pelvic exam the other day, which definitely means he's interested, right? (Joke.) He doesn't have a wedding ring, but I have been too shy to ask if he's single yet.


I'm not usually very bold but I'm thinking if I don't make some sort of move, I'll probably never see him again, so I was wondering--is it inappropriate to give him my number?

What are your stats?

 

[Winged Scapula]

Moving back to Pre-Med forums.

 

[pepes1lv1a]

Moving back to Pre-Med forums.

Er...I wasn't asking pre-meds. I posted here because I wanted to ask residents. I don't see how this is relevant to pre-meds in the slightest, except for the fraction that might also be techs.

How do I get a second opinion...

 

[pepes1lv1a]

Well for what it's worth I might as well use this space to provide an update. One of the older registrar ladies is the coolest, and has offered to give him a brief note with my number before he leaves next shift--because apparently that is his last, and I will not be working til then.


She said she thought I was being bold and awesome for putting myself out there, but then went on to hesitantly ask, "Isn't he gay?"

Me: "Why?"
Her: "Well...I've been wrong before. Sometimes we get one and I say 'What do you girls think? Probably right?' and no one else sees it...but he does kind of, you know, talk with his hands" (gesticulates absentmindedly with a limp wrist)

I am now having my doubts. I did live with a guy housemate for 3 months my senior year of college before he finally came out of the closet. I had no idea. So maybe I just shamelessly macked on a gay man--but on the bright side, I'm way less concerned with rejection right now than absolute mortification.

 

[Winged Scapula]

Er...I wasn't asking pre-meds. I posted here because I wanted to ask residents. I don't see how this is relevant to pre-meds in the slightest, except for the fraction that might also be techs.

How do I get a second opinion...

It doesn't matter who your intended audience is.

If you read the SDN terms of service and user rules, The policy always has been that threads are moved if they do not meet the criteria of the forum in which they are posted. Resident and attending physicians often come to the premed forms to answer questions there. The residency forums are for topics related to residency. Therefore your question did not meet those criteria and was appropriately moved.

You are free to ask any other member of the moderater staff for a "second opinion" but I am simply holding your post to the standard that every other user is held to.

 

[Winged Scapula]

At any rate, I see nothing wrong with you making your interest known as he is not in a supervisory position over you. I would generally say that if a man is interested in you, he will ask you out but perhaps that is old school.

As to whether or not your gaydar is defective, there are many heterosexual man who have the feminine characteristics and I've often seen the general public mislabel polished educated metrosexual men as gay erroneously. But either way, if you're interested go ahead and make your move and you'll find out the answer.

 

[Koalafied]

Yep...so I'm a tech venturing over from the pre-med side of SDN because they would probably respond to this question by asking me what my stats are.

I work as an ER tech for a big multi-hospital system where residents cycle in and out for about a month at a time. I haven't seen the same ones twice since March, when I started, so I don't think I risk running into any of them again.

There is this resident I am majorly crushing on. We've flirted a little but he has kept it very professional. He did ask me to chaperone a pelvic exam the other day, which definitely means he's interested, right? (Joke.) He doesn't have a wedding ring, but I have been too shy to ask if he's single yet.


I'm not usually very bold but I'm thinking if I don't make some sort of move, I'll probably never see him again, so I was wondering--is it inappropriate to give him my number?

You'll probably find more relevant answers/responses from nurses' perspectives on an.

 

[Gauss44]

At any rate, I see nothing wrong with you making your interest known as he is not in a supervisory position over you. I would generally say that if a man is interested in you, he will ask you out but perhaps that is old school.

As to whether or not your gaydar is defective, there are many heterosexual man who have the feminine characteristics and I've often seen the general public mislabel polished educated metrosexual men as gay erroneously. But either way, if you're interested go ahead and make your move and you'll find out the answer.

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[TheWeeIceMan]

What are yo stats gurl?

 

[yehhhboiii]

probably wouldn't kill you to go up to him and say hi

 

[487806]

Er...I wasn't asking pre-meds. I posted here because I wanted to ask residents. I don't see how this is relevant to pre-meds in the slightest, except for the fraction that might also be techs.

How do I get a second opinion...

Why would you? You're a premed asking a question that isn't exactly pertaining to residency issues. Now, if you're an MS4 or intern or resident etc., then it wouldn't be a problem.

It doesn't matter who your intended audience is.

If you read the SDN terms of service and user rules, The policy always has been that threads are moved if they do not meet the criteria of the forum in which they are posted. Resident and attending physicians often come to the premed forms to answer questions there. The residency forums are for topics related to residency. Therefore your question did not meet those criteria and was appropriately moved.

You are free to ask any other member of the moderater staff for a "second opinion" but I am simply holding your post to the standard that every other user is held to.

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[Buzz Me]

I don't see how this is relevant to pre-meds in the slightest

(1)

venturing over from the pre-med side of SDN

(2) You're a pre-med.

(3) Residents can answer in Pre-Allo.

 

[Pose]

Didn't read the other replies, but when I was an ED tech I dated a few nurses in my department, and had a fling with a resident from a different service. No issues at my facility.

 

[calvnandhobbs68]

Bet he rejects you for your low stats.

 

[pepes1lv1a]

Bet he rejects you for your low stats.

helpful thx

 

[Law2Doc]

... I would generally say that if a man is interested in you, he will ask you out but perhaps that is old school....

Yeah, just flirt with him without overtly asking him out or giving digits. If he's equally interested he will flirt back. If he keeps it professional he's either not interested, concerned about career implications or playing for the other team.