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I recognize there are areas that I might not be able to see as clearly, and with this supervisor I feel much less comfortable, especially given that she shared the personal details about me with the other student.
She told the student: "I'm working with another woman who works too hard in her sessions, she's too active, she wants her clients to like her too much" etc.
So the details don't matter so much as the fact that I wasn't afforded the privacy I expected, I guess.
I don’t know about all this. I think you need to be very cautious assuming that this stuff is a given. I fall in the camp of thinking that supervisors are responsible for the clinical work and professional growth of the supervisor. They should have an expectation that the supervisee comes to work mentally and emotionally prepared to do the job, despite any clinical training needs that they might have. If there are non-cinical-training related concerns, the supervisor should recommend that the supervisee seek out resources in there training program or through their private mental/medical heart providers. Therapy should only be recommended following a sound clinical evaluation (including detailed assessment of current symptoms, environmental factors, and history) which is well outside of the domain of what a clinical supervisor should do. As for working with difficult populations- yes, it can be emotionally and physically taxing. This should not be conflated as a psychopathology needing therapeutic intervention, but as a somewhat normal reaction to stressful events. It is the supervisors (and agencies’) responsibility to give you the clinical training and professional skills to be better with this. Farming that out some other therapist is, imho, inappropriate and somewhat lazy.Many supervisor's recommend therapy for one reason or another. Before you got defensive, did you ever stop to think that maybe she has a point? I believe all psychologists and psychologists-in-training should engage in therapy at some point, particularly if you're dealing with a difficult patient population. You mentioned a pt with borderline personality, which is a challenging condition to work with and can stir up lots of feelings and emotions in a therapist.
So I'm thinking about the ethics code, 7.04 which seems relevant here.
This is a tricky situation to navigate with a supervisor so I would suggest being pragmatic and trying to figure out what to do to both protect yourself and get the best possible outcome. Also, document - keep a log of supervision sessions, and perhaps consider getting permission to tape them might be helpful - allowing you to review and see if there are things you’re missing when you feel defensive.Ethical principles of psychologists and code of conduct
The American Psychological Association's Ethical Principles of Psychologists and Code of Conduct provides guidance for psychologists in professional, scientific and educational roles. The Ethics Code also outlines standards of professional conduct for APA members and student affiliates.www.apa.org
I don’t know about all this. I think you need to be very cautious assuming that this stuff is a given. I fall in the camp of thinking that supervisors are responsible for the clinical work and professional growth of the supervisor. They should have an expectation that the supervisee comes to work mentally and emotionally prepared to do the job, despite any clinical training needs that they might have. If there are non-cinical-training related concerns, the supervisor should recommend that the supervisee seek out resources in there training program or through their private mental/medical heart providers. Therapy should only be recommended following a sound clinical evaluation (including detailed assessment of current symptoms, environmental factors, and history) which is well outside of the domain of what a clinical supervisor should do. As for working with difficult populations- yes, it can be emotionally and physically taxing. This should not be conflated as a psychopathology needing therapeutic intervention, but as a somewhat normal reaction to stressful events. It is the supervisors (and agencies’) responsibility to give you the clinical training and professional skills to be better with this. Farming that out some other therapist is, imho, inappropriate and somewhat lazy.
I’d say/have said something along the lines of:If/when an issue arises, you're saying you would recommend the supervisee seek out resources from his or her own medical/mental health providers, which I agree is an excellent response. Doesn't it feel reallllly close to implying therapy, as you're essentially saying, "Go see someone for X issue," minus the word therapy? Do you feel that the desire to be liked by patients should ever be discussed in supervision? I'm asking in general terms.
I’d say/have said something along the lines of:
“It’s important for you to show up to work physically and mentally prepared to do the job. If you feel/I currently feel you’re not, as evidenced by x,y, and z. If x,y,and z continue, you may not be able to continue with your current position. The reasons for x, y, and z are not appropriate topics for our supervision. If you feel you need help in addressing x,y, and z, you should consult with (an appropriate professional).”
Note that this is a conversation I’ve also had with employees who aren’t psych students. Do it kindly and carefully, and offer reasonable accommodations As appropriate to the needs of the facility and the training goals of the supervisee.
As to discussions about needing all clients to like you, early career (or early in a new position or with new population), that’s not a pathology needed therapy. It’s a skill deficit that is often within the scope of supervision. I’m not getting into why you have a greater need to be liked, what it means about you as a person, existentially, etc. I’m addressing it along the lines of being liked by the client is not a necessary condition of said client making progress. Heck, I really want to be liked by all my clients and their families. This motivates me to be kind, professional, thoughtful, thorough, and honest. I am bothered when they show signs of not liking me. That motivates me to examine if there is anything I need to do better next time (sometimes there is, sometimes there is not). As hard as it can be to not be liked, I’ve developed strategies for not taking it personally and leaving that stuff at work. I would work with supervises to hone similar techniques.
I’d say/have said something along the lines of:
“It’s important for you to show up to work physically and mentally prepared to do the job. If you feel/I currently feel you’re not, as evidenced by x,y, and z. If x,y,and z continue, you may not be able to continue with your current position. The reasons for x, y, and z are not appropriate topics for our supervision. If you feel you need help in addressing x,y, and z, you should consult with (an appropriate professional).”
Note that this is a conversation I’ve also had with employees who aren’t psych students. Do it kindly and carefully, and offer reasonable accommodations As appropriate to the needs of the facility and the training goals of the supervisee.
As to discussions about needing all clients to like you, early career (or early in a new position or with new population), that’s not a pathology needed therapy. It’s a skill deficit that is often within the scope of supervision. I’m not getting into why you have a greater need to be liked, what it means about you as a person, existentially, etc. I’m addressing it along the lines of being liked by the client is not a necessary condition of said client making progress. Heck, I really want to be liked by all my clients and their families. This motivates me to be kind, professional, thoughtful, thorough, and honest. I am bothered when they show signs of not liking me. That motivates me to examine if there is anything I need to do better next time (sometimes there is, sometimes there is not). As hard as it can be to not be liked, I’ve developed strategies for not taking it personally and leaving that stuff at work. I would work with supervisees to hone similar techniques.