I've always held the belief that University is too good for me.

[Maison]

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It's entirely irrational. I'm currently in the process of transferring to a four year institution, and every day I expect something to happen that makes me realize it just won't happen. It's not as if this is a prestigious school, either. It's a good school, but nowhere near impossible to get into.

I realized lately that all of this negative thinking stems from the belief that I'm just not good enough to succeed in a university. I've made my fair share of mistakes in the past, and even burnt some crucial bridges to success. Furthermore, it stems from the fact that I grew up three hours away in a small town where hardly anyone actually moved away to go to a four-year college. What makes me so different from them, with the tons of mistakes that I've made?

Is there anyone here who has been in a similar situation? Did you ever become "unstuck"?

 

[RelicLTD]

I never really felt that I wasn't good enough, but maybe this will help you.

I started at a CC, moved to a state school, and finally to a private University. I did progressively better as I went, and never really noticed any classes being "more difficult."

If you are there, then you deserve to be there. Just do the work. Don't dwell on the past. Focus on the now. You are here NOW. It doesn't matter how you got here. What makes your chances of success any different from the guy sitting next to you? You are both in the same class, with the same professor, with the same assignments. KICK HIS A** (not literally of course). Friendly competition and all that. 🙂

 

[ridethecliche]

It's entirely irrational. I'm currently in the process of transferring to a four year institution, and every day I expect something to happen that makes me realize it just won't happen. It's not as if this is a prestigious school, either. It's a good school, but nowhere near impossible to get into.

I realized lately that all of this negative thinking stems from the belief that I'm just not good enough to succeed in a university. I've made my fair share of mistakes in the past, and even burnt some crucial bridges to success. Furthermore, it stems from the fact that I grew up three hours away in a small town where hardly anyone actually moved away to go to a four-year college. What makes me so different from them, with the tons of mistakes that I've made?

Is there anyone here who has been in a similar situation? Did you ever become "unstuck"?

I feel like I don't need to worry about this because they'll make the decision for me. If I'm critical of myself, an adcomm is going to be even worse because I'm beating myself up over me and they're comparing me to everyone else.

So for something like this, I wouldn't worry about it and let them make the decision. Trust in them, they know how to do their job.

 

[BadHorse]

It's entirely irrational. I'm currently in the process of transferring to a four year institution, and every day I expect something to happen that makes me realize it just won't happen. It's not as if this is a prestigious school, either. It's a good school, but nowhere near impossible to get into.

I realized lately that all of this negative thinking stems from the belief that I'm just not good enough to succeed in a university. I've made my fair share of mistakes in the past, and even burnt some crucial bridges to success. Furthermore, it stems from the fact that I grew up three hours away in a small town where hardly anyone actually moved away to go to a four-year college. What makes me so different from them, with the tons of mistakes that I've made?

Is there anyone here who has been in a similar situation? Did you ever become "unstuck"?

I transferred to an elite school and I had a similar mentality. I thought, damn, this is (insert prestigious school). I don't belong here. Everyone around me is a genius and I could never have gone to a school this good straight out of high school.

That thinking dragged me down, I was terrified my first semester and I become convinced that I was failing everything and that I'd have to drop out and transfer to a CUNY school. But, very slowly, I realized that people are just people everywhere you go. Someone asks a dumb question in class, you realize you're ahead of the curve in orgo, then suddenly it turns out you're getting straight As.

Trust me, there's nothing special about any of those other students, you'll have to see for yourself for it to really sink in, but try not to stress too much.

 

[StudyShy]

I really didn't notice any differences between my cc and universities. I think that it is a common fear. Like Badhorse said, people are people everywhere.