jealous ppl?

[pocahontas]

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Does anyone ever feel that after getting into medicine, a lot of jealousy came straight at them from other ppl??? I just feel like certain ppl should be acting supportive but instead it seems like they want to see me fall. Is that normal??? I feel like ppl who truly care about me would be supportive, happy for me, and want me to succeed--not so that I would take care of them later but b/c they care about me as a person...Right? I'm starting to see different sides of ppl and now see my self questioning them. Has this ever happened to anyone? I never realized how difficult it was to see how ppl see me or how they really are with this medical thing going.

 

[drguy22]

Does anyone ever feel that after getting into medicine, a lot of jealousy came straight at them from other ppl??? I just feel like certain ppl should be acting supportive but instead it seems like they want to see me fall. Is that normal??? I feel like ppl who truly care about me would be supportive, happy for me, and want me to succeed--not so that I would take care of them later but b/c they care about me as a person...Right? I'm starting to see different sides of ppl and now see my self questioning them. Has this ever happened to anyone? I never realized how difficult it was to see how ppl see me or how they really are with this medical thing going.

i agree....i just was accepted to medical school..and ever since then there are a few people that are going nuts by my acceptance...i just dont get why..... o well...

 

[4 Ever]

NJMS rocks

 

[aj725]

Yes..its normal. A lot of those comments come from people who either didn't get in, are not sure if they'll get in, or haven't figured out what they want to do in life--thus they belittle and make comments about how difficult something will be, how they plan on going to Harvard and the school you're going to is a mere 'safety' for them etc. Its humorous though when those people who think for years that they are a sure admit at Harvard start talking about Univ. of Maryland, Univ of Utah etc--all good schools but calling a top 10 school a safety and then worrying about acceptance to UNC?!?

 

[Ramoray]

I dont see who would actually be jelous of you? I mean these days its not really a big deal to be a doctor, nevermind a med student. Its like those people walking around in their white coats all the time thinking they are badass, when reallly they just look like fools as nobody cares! Also why would anyone be jelous of studyign 24/7 and having a crappy life, mediocore money and a bad lifestyle. Honestly tehse days if you dont love medicine for the sake of medicine its not a great career. Im just saying i dont find many jelous people out there.

 

[Paws]

Yep, I definitely have seen this among a few people. My own brother got a little silent when I told him and I haven't heard much from him for a few months. 🙄

But absolutely, people do seem to get weird sometimes and I am so used to it that I am really selectve in who I tell mostly because I can't deal with any weirdness that might result. But it's not just with school, things like this will happen all our lives: I am in the process of buying a house (by myself!) and most of my friends are totally awesome about it but the woman I consider my closest friend currently, when she first looked at the house she say ANYTHING about it, NOTHING. 😕 Well, she's a stay at home mom who hasn't worked in quite a few years, etc. She then sort of acted like it was a piece of **** house and ignored the whole topic.

Relations are easy, but it's the people who are hard to understand sometimes ... 🙂

 

[twinklz]

I've not had this problem at all. Everyone I know has been supportive. Even one of my best friends who has wanted to go to medical school for years, but is now in nursing schools for a variety of reasons, called me up out of the blue to congratulate me (she had heard from my dad, b/c I was nervous of rubbing it in her face)

While I won't bash the profession as Ramoray did, I do agree that being a doctor does not hold the exalted status that it once did.

I would caution everyone not to unconsciously feel superior to others (cough cough, aj725, UNC is quite difficult to get into from out of state)

 

[MedicinePowder]

I dont see who would actually be jelous of you? I mean these days its not really a big deal to be a doctor, nevermind a med student. Its like those people walking around in their white coats all the time thinking they are badass, when reallly they just look like fools as nobody cares! Also why would anyone be jelous of studyign 24/7 and having a crappy life, mediocore money and a bad lifestyle. Honestly tehse days if you dont love medicine for the sake of medicine its not a great career. Im just saying i dont find many jelous people out there.

ramoray, it's people like you that bring the prestige of a career in medicine down, with comments like that.

the fact is, that there are people out there that envy medical students/doctors. it's a career with high prestige, salaries at the higher end than most careers--and it's all well earned because getting an M.D. comes through a grueling experience.

 

[adrenal_medulla]

I've never had that problem at all. I've never thought anyone should be jealous of me, though. It's always possible that you're attributing jealousy to something else, like people not wanting to talk to you because they're shocked that you actually got in, they're intimidated, they're thinking about the new value meal at McDonald's and missed your request for praise, you're cocky now that you're a big-time 1st year med student, or whatever. I'm not saying anyone posting here is cocky, but just bringing up the fact that the emotions we attribute to others are often tainted with our own feelings about ourselves and how others should react to us, when in fact they may be feeling something entirely different.

Of course it's possible that they really are jealous, but what kind of friend/brother/mother, etc. is that?

In either case, are we ever in a position to definatively state what emotions others are feeling, when we can't always tell how we, ourselves, feel?

 

[Ramoray]

hey dont get me wrong im a medstudent and i think medicine is and should be a very noble proffession and i believe it to be so. It is just annoying alot of times to see some of your classmates and even docs think they are kings cause they are a doctor. They want everyone to know it, they where scrubs and white coats everywhere. I just think that looks silly, we are lucky to practice medicine and should not flaunt it around. And my point was just that i do not really think being a doctor is percieved as being special like the way it used to be. in my head i know it IS something very special and important im just saying the public doesnt really percieve it that way anymore due to alot of factors.

 

[coolness]

It's called human nature. Most do not want you to be better than them (unless it's family).

 

[eurotrash]

I think the original poster is developing schizophrenia. Calm down, no one cares.

 

[aj725]

Addressing a previous post..I totally did not mean to bash UNC, UUtah or any other med school. All I"m saying is that I'm bitter about certain 'friends' bashing any school that I'm interested in, saying that the school is a mere safety school and they won't go to a school ranked lower than Harvard, and then a few yrs later looking at schools far lower ranked than the ones they bashed me about. I'm sorry, but it comes across as jealousy to belittle any school in the top tier because it isn't Harvard and then sending out applications to the lowest ranked school in the nation.

 

[Dr.SpongeBobDDS]

I hope I don't offend anybody. I'm not a med student so I don't really know about the jealousy thing. But I did go to a pre-med factory for undergrad and know a lot of the medical students here at my state school. The one thing I can say is that when some people are accepted they can get a little... well... weird.

A common thing was for people to come and tell you that they were accepted; you congratulate them appropriately and then they act dissappointed. Then they would keep going on and on like they are expecting more from you. You can only express so much excitement for something like that. Sometimes I just wanted to stop the person and say, "Dude, we've been studying together since freshman year. I know you had a 3.75 GPA, a 34 MCAT. This is no surprise to anybody but you. We're all happy for you, but can we talk about girls or football now --- please? "

I think a lot of people tend to psyche themselves out so much over this stuff that when the acceptance finally comes they are so elated that everyone else's reactions seems a little less than enthusiastic. It could be that your friends are really a lot happier for you than you think. I know I was even the same way about getting into dental school. Just a perspective.

 

[MedicinePowder]

hey dont get me wrong im a medstudent and i think medicine is and should be a very noble proffession and i believe it to be so. It is just annoying alot of times to see some of your classmates and even docs think they are kings cause they are a doctor. They want everyone to know it, they where scrubs and white coats everywhere. I just think that looks silly, we are lucky to practice medicine and should not flaunt it around. And my point was just that i do not really think being a doctor is percieved as being special like the way it used to be. in my head i know it IS something very special and important im just saying the public doesnt really percieve it that way anymore due to alot of factors.

yes, maybe the "awe" factor of being a doctor is not as big as before, but i wouldn't know, i do know that doctors, from my experience are extremely well respected and admired by the general population. as a third year, i've seen how differently people treat me when i wear my white coat.

 

[ericdamiansean]

It's part and parcel of medical school, from interviews, acceptance, all the way right up to residency.

There are always these bunch of ppl, under-achievers themselves who do not like to see others achieve more than them. Thus, as a self-satisfactory/defence mechanism, they tend to bitch about others etc.

Just leave them alone, let them be as jealous as they want to, and they'll end up wallowing in their self pity and jealousy.

 

[zzz]

My relatives think physicians are a bunch of thieves. They also think the same about any other professional careers that require more than college degrees. You see, although they are filthy rich but their children couldn't even handle undergraduate studies and had to drop out. Anybody with an inferiority complex will bash on others who are better than they are. It is unevitable.

Does anyone ever feel that after getting into medicine, a lot of jealousy came straight at them from other ppl??? I just feel like certain ppl should be acting supportive but instead it seems like they want to see me fall. Is that normal??? I feel like ppl who truly care about me would be supportive, happy for me, and want me to succeed--not so that I would take care of them later but b/c they care about me as a person...Right? I'm starting to see different sides of ppl and now see my self questioning them. Has this ever happened to anyone? I never realized how difficult it was to see how ppl see me or how they really are with this medical thing going.

 

[Samoa]

All last year I got calls from pharmacy headhunters letting me know that if I ever change my mind about med school, I should consider whatever medical science liaison position they were trying to fill for some pharmaceutical company. Where were these people when I was a pharmacist, I want to know? I'd have jumped at one of those jobs back then.

 

[fdfmn]

hey dont get me wrong im a medstudent and i think medicine is and should be a very noble proffession and i believe it to be so. It is just annoying alot of times to see some of your classmates and even docs think they are kings cause they are a doctor. They want everyone to know it, they where scrubs and white coats everywhere. I just think that looks silly, we are lucky to practice medicine and should not flaunt it around. And my point was just that i do not really think being a doctor is percieved as being special like the way it used to be. in my head i know it IS something very special and important im just saying the public doesnt really percieve it that way anymore due to alot of factors.

Way to come back Ramoray!

 

[Paws]

I was thinking about what I posted about my brother and to be honest, it does bother me that I haven't heard much from him. I know that when I started on my pre-med path (postbacc) we talked about it and he was excited. I think, from what he's said, that he also wanted to go to med school once upon a time but he has been a way underachiever for a long time. So for me there really is something going on. I love him but I have to accept that there might be some feelings going on in him - and the above poster is right, I really can't know for sure what they are. I plan to talk to him about all this when we get together ...

 

[JattMed]

Does anyone ever feel that after getting into medicine, a lot of jealousy came straight at them from other ppl??? I just feel like certain ppl should be acting supportive but instead it seems like they want to see me fall. Is that normal??? I feel like ppl who truly care about me would be supportive, happy for me, and want me to succeed--not so that I would take care of them later but b/c they care about me as a person...Right? I'm starting to see different sides of ppl and now see my self questioning them. Has this ever happened to anyone? I never realized how difficult it was to see how ppl see me or how they really are with this medical thing going.

Welcome to medicine!
Yeah it is pathetic how people become once you get in.
I love it when the 'congratulate' you on acceptance but their body language portrays a different take on things.
The congratulation given with watery eyes and a look of shock on the face.
I almost felt like asking 'Did your mother die?'
Why do people start to turn red/flush in the face when they are supposedly 'happy' for you?
Of course........they are sooooo happy that they cannot help it and are therefore red due to the excessive joy-NOT!
Hahaha one even came up to me and said-'How did you get in!' note the exclamatory nature? Hmmm let me see-perhaps a kickass MCAT whereas you scored a 25!
Note: I dont study very much and these people I mention were always 'hiding' and lying about their studying-they put in 8 hours a day since highschool but would deny it-funny one day the sister mentions 'Bob' studies all day long-why dont you?
It feels good to see how people 'burn-up' when they cannot match your success!
This is the same guy who when watching Jeopardy with my brother and I would have a 'heart attack' when I would almost get every answer.
He would claim I watched the show earlier-despite people telling him I didnt.
You think that is a jealous person??

Anyways, good for you that you got in and screw the haters.
Too bad....the best person for the job was chosen.....get over it!

 

[docmemi]

i agree....i just was accepted to medical school..and ever since then there are a few people that are going nuts by my acceptance...i just dont get why..... o well...

NO F'IN WAY...YOU GOT IN ALREADY!! congrats to the f'in max. thats great! and you are from NJ, so i know you want to stay there. cool!