Living alone vs roommate(s)?

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Thoughts on pos and negs of living alone for MS1? I can't shake the feeling that whoever I room with would potentially be annoying to me. But then I don't want to end up being lonely when I get home from classes every day.

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I like living with someone and it is generally cheaper. We try to do a few group meals a d a monthly event. Next year I am moving in with another student closer to school. I make sure to set boundaries and respect others.
 
Cannot speak enough to living alone. Its more expensive, but 100% worth it IMO.

Off the top of my head:

No chance of a weirdo/realizing you hate this person after living with them for a few weeks
All the mess made is yours and yours alone
More fridge space
Never worry about waking someone else up if up super early/late
Peace and quiet whenever you want
Can walk around naked
 
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Living alone and loving it. But this is a personal thing... I know of a group of five (yes, five!) classmates living in a house a few miles away from campus. That would drive me crazy but they seem to like it.
 
I don't think having a roommate has benefit except cost. You can always do socializing with classmates, or even invite them over, with the benefit of kicking them out by the end of the night.
My roommates are great...we hang out and quiz each other, and one of the guys makes ridiculous puns that keep us relaxed. One of us paid the exorbitant parking fees at school, so we all get a ride in in the mornings before required lectures when it's cold as balls outside. If I want to have a social event, I have 2 other people who help me get ready and clean up afterwards. We split the chores so there's actually less for me to do than if I lived alone (and I say this as the housemate who cares most about things being clean and in order). I had to buy a third as much furniture when I moved in. There's plenty of space, and if I want to not see them, I can...but they are also always around to notice if my life is crap right then, or I'm super busy, or whatever. We don't study together, other than our spontaneous quiz sessions, but having them around definitely makes my life easier and better than if I lived alone right now. It's just nice to have people that you keep up with even when you're super busy. During exam week, I spend 95% of my time with my study group, so it's nice to have a few people who I wouldn't bother to schedule time with that week who are around to just catch up with about life outside of studying, you know?

I'm not saying a roommate is for everyone, but there definitely can be advantages over living alone if you're a people person and you get the right roomies.
 
I'm planning on getting 1 roommate to split a 2 bed/2 bath. I would actually like to have more in a bigger place but the parking for my school is limited so they prefer us to use the metro which means living near the line which = pretty much apartments only. I've lived in the same house with 6-8 other friends from my Christian orginaztion and its one of the best decisions I've ever made. I'm a pretty introverted guy so the forced socialization is critical.

So basically if you're the kinda person who won't go out of their way to be social then I'd recommend finding roommate(s). This is all assuming you have your own room.
 
Really dependent on the individual, but I find this method effective... Live alone year 1, and find an apartment complex that's popular for med students from your school to live there. Gives you a chance to test it out with classmates still being near, but not directly invading your space. Get a roommate year 2 if you want. Helps if you're a minimalist when it comes to moving lol.
 
Really dependent on the individual, but I find this method effective... Live alone year 1, and find an apartment complex that's popular for med students from your school to live there. Gives you a chance to test it out with classmates still being near, but not directly invading your space. Get a roommate year 2 if you want. Helps if you're a minimalist when it comes to moving lol.
You couldn't pay me enough to move when I don't have to...I finally bought furniture and I don't plan on moving until I match!
 
You couldn't pay me enough to move when I don't have to...I finally bought furniture and I don't plan on moving until I match!

Whatever works for you and your situation! Glad to hear you have a good rapport with your roommates haha.
 
Any of you guys go to medical school in a expensive city (eg. NYC or Boston ) and live alone?
 
I live with an M3 (I'm an M1) and I love it. She's barely home because she's at the hospital so much, so it's basically like living alone. And when she is home, I get lots of advice since she's already been through the pre-clinical years.
 
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I think it depends on your personality. Personally, I prefer socializing on my own terms, meaning that if I don't want to be alone, I'll study in the med school or with medical students. If I want to buckle down and study alone, I can. I have 100% control over environment when I'm at home.

There are certainly people who prefer to be around others all the time, and crave social interaction. Also, your roommates are potentially your best friends, but also potentially your greatest stressors.
 
Thoughts on pos and negs of living alone for MS1? I can't shake the feeling that whoever I room with would potentially be annoying to me. But then I don't want to end up being lonely when I get home from classes every day.

It's so easy to find a quiet introvert to share rent with. Do that.


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get a cat if you get lonely, dog is man's best friend, well cat is physician's best friend
But see, my roommates feed themselves and clean up their own piss and crap. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to get a cat and was hoping to before I came here, but...not a substitute, just a different deal altogether.
 
The best roommate is the one that you only live with for one night 😉. Honestly, there's plenty to do these days that needing a roommate for "company" sounds just a little desperate. Meet a friend for dinner, go to a show, see a movie with your boy/girl/they, tinderize, study, yoga/gym/run. I had roommates for a year, but it was so we could live in a ritzy ass building in NYC. It was expensive as hellll, but the visitors appreciated it and the proximity to fun things/people to do was great. 😉
 
The best roommate is the one that you only live with for one night 😉. Honestly, there's plenty to do these days that needing a roommate for "company" sounds just a little desperate. Meet a friend for dinner, go to a show, see a movie with your boy/girl/they, tinderize, study, yoga/gym/run. I had roommates for a year, but it was so we could live in a ritzy ass building in NYC. It was expensive as hellll, but the visitors appreciated it and the proximity to fun things/people to do was great. 😉
Hey man, nothing wrong with wanting to live on your own, but no need to go calling people desperate just because they prefer to live with others.

I DO meet friends for dinner, go to shows, see movies, study, and...well, tbh I never seem to actually make it to the gym because :yawn:. Sometimes we're busy enough that my roommates and I actually don't see each other for a week or so because we're always out. But I also appreciate having cool people around at home; it's an entirely different kind of interaction that I happen to like. It's not desperate, it's just something that I find enjoyable, AND I save money, do fewer chores, and get free rides to school to boot! For me it's a win/win, for others it's more a balance between "dislike having roommates" and "save money" and of those, some will come out on the "there are advantages to roommates but if I could I'd prefer to live alone" side, and others will end up going "not worth it". :shrug:
 
Hey man, nothing wrong with wanting to live on your own, but no need to go calling people desperate just because they prefer to live with others.

I DO meet friends for dinner, go to shows, see movies, study, and...well, tbh I never seem to actually make it to the gym because :yawn:. Sometimes we're busy enough that my roommates and I actually don't see each other for a week or so because we're always out. But I also appreciate having cool people around at home; it's an entirely different kind of interaction that I happen to like. It's not desperate, it's just something that I find enjoyable, AND I save money, do fewer chores, and get free rides to school to boot! For me it's a win/win, for others it's more a balance between "dislike having roommates" and "save money" and of those, some will come out on the "there are advantages to roommates but if I could I'd prefer to live alone" side, and others will end up going "not worth it". :shrug:

This ain't about you, don't care what you do or your reasons for your having a roommate. So cry me a river. Didn't see you asking for an opinion, or are you the op now? Cuz OP actually stated he wants roommates not to feel lonely. Maybe get your roommates to help you read thread better.
 
This ain't about you, don't care what you do or your reasons for your having a roommate. So cry me a river. Didn't see you asking for an opinion, or are you the op now? Cuz OP actually stated he wants roommates not to feel lonely. Maybe get your roommates to help you read thread better.
They thought coming back to an empty apt might feel lonely, yes...that would fall under the "appreciate having people around at home" bit I was talking about.

All I was saying was that you can probably find a way to give YOUR opinion to OP without sh¡tting on everyone else's along the way. I recognize that you were only actively trying to be a dick to OP, but you've gotten so good at it that you very efficiently make yourself out to be a general-purpose arsehole rather than a targeted one.
 
They thought coming back to an empty apt might feel lonely, yes...that would fall under the "appreciate having people around at home" bit I was talking about.

All I was saying was that you can probably find a way to give YOUR opinion to OP without sh¡tting on everyone else's along the way. I recognize that you were only actively trying to be a dick to OP, but you've gotten so good at it that you very efficiently make yourself out to be a general-purpose arsehole rather than a targeted one.

You should see a therapist for how easy you get butt-hurt. Make sure you match into rads or something so no one can see you cry in the dark kid.
 
You should see a therapist for how easy you get butt-hurt. Make sure you match into rads or something so no one can see you cry in the dark kid.
I'm not butt-hurt, I just honestly 100% find you to be a dick. That's not crying, it's just stating an opinion.
Edit: In this post, I was defensive and an arse myself. Sorry...retracting it now but leaving it in white so I'm not trying to look better than I was.
 
Really dependent on the individual, but I find this method effective... Live alone year 1, and find an apartment complex that's popular for med students from your school to live there. Gives you a chance to test it out with classmates still being near, but not directly invading your space. Get a roommate year 2 if you want. Helps if you're a minimalist when it comes to moving lol.

This is my plan. ^

I've had roommates for 5 years; a room to myself sounds like a godsend.

I agree with what multiple people have said too, if you get lonely, you can always have someone over, go out, study in a public place, etc.
 
I know there are solutions if you do get lonely or whatever, but for those who go to schools with non mandatory lectures do you find not going to lectures and living alone has led you to experience loneliness? Or are the mandatory pbls etc enough to get your social itch scratched lol? I know everyone's different blah blah blah but just wondering what the experience has been for folks on here
 
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