Long Distance relationships/school

[beatnik10884]

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I'm wondering if any other students know how I should approach this. I've been accepted to SCO & NOVA and plan on attending SCO. I'm 23 currently live in GA and I have been seeing someone from Miami every other month on avg for a year (He is 27). Recently things have become more serious, do you think its realistic to keep this going since I will be moving even further away for 4 years. Also how do you keep things like romantic relationships from clouding your decision on which school to attend? Thank you in advance for any insights.

 

[JMU07]

I don't know if my answer can really help you because I am only 2 hours away from my fiance, but I was/am engaged all throughout undergrad and we've made it work. When I was looking at colleges, I knew that school was more important than a relationship so I didn't consider staying nearby so I could see him more often. It's hard not to choose schools based on a relationship, but it's an unwise thing to do in my opinion. SCO from Miami is a huge distance, but I'm one of those people that believe that if it's meant to be, it'll work out. I wish I could offer better advice.

 

[beatnik10884]

Thank you for your response. I definitely was not planning to attend a certain school based on our relationship. I will be attending SCO, and I agree that if it was meant to work out it will.

I don't know if my answer can really help you because I am only 2 hours away from my fiance, but I was/am engaged all throughout undergrad and we've made it work. When I was looking at colleges, I knew that school was more important than a relationship so I didn't consider staying nearby so I could see him more often. It's hard not to choose schools based on a relationship, but it's an unwise thing to do in my opinion. SCO from Miami is a huge distance, but I'm one of those people that believe that if it's meant to be, it'll work out. I wish I could offer better advice.

 

[RichardOD]

I'm doing a long distance relationship and its quite difficult. Although mine is inter-country.

Is it because there are so many gorgeous females at NOVA? 😉

 

[vsarge0708]

Is it because there are so many gorgeous females at NOVA? 😉

Nah, it's because fonz lika da dudes!

 

[sniklegem]

Just as a very disappointing FYI...

Most (maybe 65-76%) long distance relationships that people had when they start school end within the first year. The ones in my class who are still together are now either engaged or married (or getting married over Christmas break).

Don't look at generalizations, though... relationships survive because 2 (not 124) people want to make it work. Congrats on deciding on SCO (yay!)! I'm a little biased though.

 

[vsarge0708]

Here's some advice for those that are thinking of making the big hike with his/her partner. I made the decision to move to school with my g/f and I can say that making our relationship work down here at nova has been the toughest feat yet. It's difficult to see eye to eye on alot of decision when you are at two different junctures. My advice, and I wish I could have listened to it last July, move to school without your partner and if the relationship works it works--that's a better situation to be in then to find yourself locked in a 1 year lease miserable with your living situation. School should def. be your primary concern, not someone at home pissed because you've been at the library for 4 hours.

 

[spanisheyes]

i'm also going to SCO and my bf is going to med school next year. he's not sure where he's going yet but the closest school he applied to is a 4 hr drive away. Obviously, we're not choosing schools based on proximity but it is something we've been talking about a lot lately. We are from the same hometown so at least we have christmas and summer breaks. hopefully school keeps us both too busy to worry about it. I think one positive thing about having distance between us is not being a distraction to one another in professional school.

 

[broncos24]

i'm also going to SCO and my bf is going to med school next year. he's not sure where he's going yet but the closest school he applied to is a 4 hr drive away. Obviously, we're not choosing schools based on proximity but it is something we've been talking about a lot lately. We are from the same hometown so at least we have christmas and summer breaks. hopefully school keeps us both too busy to worry about it. I think one positive thing about having distance between us is not being a distraction to one another in professional school.

just a reminder... optometry school AND med schools both have summer session as well once they hit the 2nd or 3rd year. So maybe you will only spent those HOLIDAY breaks.. 🙁 but I agree... DISTRACTIONs! the workload will probably be massive enough for both md and od... even if you guys ended up being really close distance.

 

[spanisheyes]

even with summer sessions, you get at least a week off usually-- but i know it will be tough

 

[odmissy]

Long distance relationships can work, and I know because I've seen it work for some of my friends. I knew I couldn't make it work so my boyfriend moved to FL with me. I have to say, for us it was the best thing we could do. It was comforting to have him around when I was super-stressed but he also offered me necessary distractions. When I do have to take a field trip to the library and spend 8 hours away, it's ok with him. He'd rather I study my day away than cry when I fail an exam. Both scenarios just depend on the people involved.

 

[KHE]

I don't know of a single person in my class who was not married who entered optometry school and graduated with the same girl or boyfriend that they entered with. This was also true of the class ahead of and behind me.

While I'm sure anything's possible...the fact is that you are going to essentially be locked into a room with 75 other people for 4 years, and just like in prison, the tendency is for people to start sleeping with each other.

On a more positive note, we had many optometric couples marry and now almost 8 years later, I know of no one who has divorced as of yet.

 

[Ibabiejae]

Long distance relationships can work 🙂 I am currently going to school in FL, while the boyfriend lives in IL. It's been uber hard, but it can work. As long as you both are not really needy and understand the hecticness of each other's schedules. You'll be fine! Good luck if you try it out!