Married DO students?

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Who out there is married? How has that affected your application process? Is your spouse also in school or will they be working?

Just curious!

My husband has been supportive of the whole process. I didn't apply to any schools in more rural areas because I know he would absolutely hate it. Rural isn't my preference either, but I would've gone to school anywhere! Luckily I got into PCOM so it has worked out well.

He's a teacher and counselor. Luckily he was able to find a good teaching job in Philly. He has made a lot of career connections here in VA, so I feel bad taking him away from that, but hopefully he's able to do the same thing in Philly.
 
I'm married. My husband is super helpful. Without him I'd be lost.
 
It definitely makes things different. All of the nursing positions have dried up in Western VA so my wife and I are going to live on separate coasts for at least the first year. I would have to say that she has been more supportive than I ever imagined she would need to be. As far as how this will affect us is yet to be seen, but when I was in engineering school and she was in nursing school we spend weeks apart so I am sure that we can survive it again. (I like to think of it as going on a business trip or getting temporarily relocated.)
 
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Who out there is married? How has that affected your application process? Is your spouse also in school or will they be working?

Just curious!

My husband has been supportive of the whole process. I didn't apply to any schools in more rural areas because I know he would absolutely hate it. Rural isn't my preference either, but I would've gone to school anywhere! Luckily I got into PCOM so it has worked out well.

He's a teacher and counselor. Luckily he was able to find a good teaching job in Philly. He has made a lot of career connections here in VA, so I feel bad taking him away from that, but hopefully he's able to do the same thing in Philly.

Just finishing first year and my wife has been very supportive and helped to save the day on many occasions. I'm not sure what I would I have done without her!
 
My then fiance (now husband) moved with me at the start of first year. It didn't really affect my application process - he was open to moving wherever I got in. He found a good job in NYC so things have worked out well for us, thank goodness. I really can't imagine having survived the first 2 years of med school without him.
 
I got married about a year ago when I began my preparations for the MCAT and applying to medical school. My wife is finishing her last semester in a Nurse Practioner program so the cost of both our tuitions plus trying to prepare for the cost of applications has been a challenge. Through it all my wife has been a great support and we are both excited to start the application process this year to find out where we will end up. Having a supportive spouse is crucial because without it, it will be a long 4 years.
 
My hubby has been fairly supportive. Although I think he underestimates how much work/time/stress/competition there is in this process. But I'm sure I underestimate how tough it is to start a business.

I have however, decided to apply only to a handful of med schools - areas I know he will be happy in.
 
My hubby has been fairly supportive. Although I think he underestimates how much work/time/stress/competition there is in this process. But I'm sure I underestimate how tough it is to start a business.

I have however, decided to apply only to a handful of med schools - areas I know he will be happy in.


I am getting married in 30 days but I have been with my fiance for 6 years. He has been amazing and helped me stay focused through a failed cycle. He was open to moving wherever and I cannot be appreciative enough. I hope I will have the opportunity to help him achieve a dream as much as he has helped me. I would love some information about med students that have some good advice on how to keep the relationship strong. I keep seeing stats on doctors having high divorce rates. Any success stories or tips??
 
I am getting married in 30 days but I have been with my fiance for 6 years. He has been amazing and helped me stay focused through a failed cycle. He was open to moving wherever and I cannot be appreciative enough. I hope I will have the opportunity to help him achieve a dream as much as he has helped me. I would love some information about med students that have some good advice on how to keep the relationship strong. I keep seeing stats on doctors having high divorce rates. Any success stories or tips??

You have to keep your relationship a priority throughout all of the craziness of med school. Sounds pretty basic, I know, but it really does take work. Have date nights and try to have weeknight dinners together at home, even if it's only a for half hour before you go off to study. My husband and I set aside at least one night a week to spend completely together, minus the books and any other distractions. Communication is also key. If something is bothering you (or your spouse), not talking about it will only compound the issue and it will bubble over along with all the stress of medical school. Encourage your spouse to have friends and hobbies, things to do while you are studying (which will be more often than not).

Good luck. It can definitely be done successfully!
 
My husband is very tolerant of all my stressing about my application, and makes sure I take some time to relax. He goes to school too, but it's his first semester--he only got back from Iraq last May--so we're at very different stages academically. I'm having to look at schools that are near other universities that he might like to transfer to, but he's awesome about being content wherever we end up for the next few years. Husband = doubleplusgood.
 
Married. With two kids. Check out the nontrad forum.

I could not have survived med school without my family. They ground me, support me, and give me a life that isn't med school.
 
Who out there is married? How has that affected your application process? Is your spouse also in school or will they be working?

Just curious!

My husband has been supportive of the whole process. I didn't apply to any schools in more rural areas because I know he would absolutely hate it. Rural isn't my preference either, but I would've gone to school anywhere! Luckily I got into PCOM so it has worked out well.

He's a teacher and counselor. Luckily he was able to find a good teaching job in Philly. He has made a lot of career connections here in VA, so I feel bad taking him away from that, but hopefully he's able to do the same thing in Philly.

Married for 4 years now. We were both in undergrad together but she's done now and working. It's awesome if you have a supportive spouse!
 
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