Mentioning your SO

[Delphium]

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Would you mention your SO in a secondary? I don't think it's kosher to do so but my friend is writing about his GF besides my opinion. 🙄

 

[docmemi]

Would you mention your SO in a secondary?

maybe im a ******, but wtf is a SO??

 

[HollyJ]

SO = significant other.

Depends -- why would you mention them? I would avoid it unless they are really, really relevant to the question you're answering. I would also avoid "I want to come here because my girlfrind/boyfriend lives in this city," because I honestly think it sounds a little flaky unless you're married or engaged. Some people will disagree, but that's my 2 cents.

 

[Blade28]

Agreed, there's no need to mention a SO, unless there's some VERY important reason.

No one wants to hear about moving to a new state to start school there, just because of a girlfriend/boyfriend (a la high school -> college 🙂 ).

 

[dnelsen]

I mentioned my wife because she is in vet school and helping her study helped to remind me how much I love medicine (and don't say vets aren't doctors or she will freak!)

 

[AlternateSome1]

SO = significant other.

Depends -- why would you mention them? I would avoid it unless they are really, really relevant to the question you're answering. I would also avoid "I want to come here because my girlfrind/boyfriend lives in this city," because I honestly think it sounds a little flaky unless you're married or engaged. Some people will disagree, but that's my 2 cents.

I would tend to agree. However, if they are your fiance/spouse, then I would say it is a very respectable reason to want to attend a school. If your family is your priority, don't feel the need to hide it.

 

[45408]

I probably wouldn't.

 

[Luck]

No because it makes you sound weak especially if it's not even a spouse.

 

[Medikit]

Yes, and be sure to include how often you guys have sex.

 

[twinklz]

I wouldn't bring it up in a secondary because there should be much more important reasons why you would like to attend School X.

However, I brought it up in an interview when they asked are there any other reasons you'd like to attend the school (and I'd covered type of curriculum, location, etc., etc.). I just briefly mentioned that my SO was applying to this school as well.

On a rather unrrelated note, don't let your SO unconsciously (and especially not consciously) dictate where you apply. I've heard of people not going on interviews or applying to schools b/c their bfs didn't want them to. When they broke up mere months later, boy did they regret their decision. Keep your chances open and IF you get accepted to multiple schools THEN factor them into the decision.

 

[Xandie]

The UMich secondary asks you if you're part of a couple applying to medical school together.

I wouldn't mention it either--sometimes he came up in my interviews, but I thought it was very important to make it clear that I was willing to do whatever was necessary to get in. I didn't want them to think, "Oh, there's some girl engaged to her high school sweetheart, she'll probably drop out of school to make millions of babies." (or something like that).

 

[jlee9531]

if it is relevant and it is important to you, then yes.

 

[Neuronix]

I agree with some of the other people here. If you're engaged or married, that's one thing. If you're still just steady with a person, it's not going to be a big factor for a school to consider. Alot of people break up after being accepted to or moving to a medical school. I know you probably think that won't happen to you, and maybe it won't, but it's still going to be looked upon differently if you haven't commited to this person you're mentioning.

Now, this doesn't necessarily mean that you shouldn't mention them. I just don't think adcoms are going to think it's a big deal if you aren't engaged/married. Then again this is all complete speculation.

 

[velo]

Well it depends....is he/she hot? If so, write every essay about it and include a picture.

 

[TheRussian]

Maybe it's just me but I though that SO stood for sexual orientation, and I definetely wouldn't mention THAT

 

[Scandal]

My problem is that my girlfriend (for lack of a better term) and I can't legally marry. We've been together over five years and she is a huge influence on many of my decisions. If/when something does come up about significant others, how should I handle that?

 

[choocoman]

Yes, and be sure to include how often you guys have sex.

 

[choocoman]

My problem is that my girlfriend (for lack of a better term) and I can't legally marry. We've been together over five years and she is a huge influence on many of my decisions. If/when something does come up about significant others, how should I handle that?

To answer your question, your sexuality wont be discussed if you dont mention anything about your sex life. Sounds like you want to talk about it, but I'd stay clear from that if I were you. Keep in mind most doctors are right leaning conservative republicans.

 

[Scandal]

I'm not talking about my sex life, I'm talking about my family life. The other posts talk about how it's ok if you're married/engaged, but not if you're just "boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever." And like I said, we can't get married.

 

[choocoman]

I'm not talking about my sex life, I'm talking about my family life. The other posts talk about how it's ok if you're married/engaged, but not if you're just "boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever." And like I said, we can't get married.

If the other posts have discussed how its not ok to talk about "boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever", then whats the point of this post? You can mention your family life without explicitly stating your sexuality.

 

[pinkey]

I mentioned my wife because she is in vet school and helping her study helped to remind me how much I love medicine (and don't say vets aren't doctors or she will freak!)

I think that's a fantastic thing to put in a secondary. It shows you have a tight support network, which is very important in med school. Further, it shows that you are both interested in science, and are kind enough to help your wife.

BTW, props to your wife for going the hard route! Pre-vet/vet school is rough!

 

[choocoman]

I think that's a fantastic thing to put in a secondary. It shows you have a tight support network, which is very important in med school. Further, it shows that you are both interested in science, and are kind enough to help your wife.

BTW, props to your wife for going the hard route! Pre-vet/vet school is rough!

I agree, vet school is much more technically sophisticated than medical school. How many procedures can YOU perform after 4 yrs of med school? Hint: rhymes with zero

 

[stifler]

I'm not talking about my sex life, I'm talking about my family life. The other posts talk about how it's ok if you're married/engaged, but not if you're just "boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever." And like I said, we can't get married.

you are in cali. sure you can 🙂