moving and school for kids

This forum made possible through the generous support of SDN members, donors, and sponsors. Thank you.

phomp

yellow...
10+ Year Member
15+ Year Member
Joined
Apr 16, 2006
Messages
197
Reaction score
1
Points
4,551
  1. Medical Student
So...I am applying. Yay. Anyway, so I have these kids who are going to an incredible, diverse, community-oriented public school (read:free). More than anything I am scared to death of having to move for med school and having my kids end up in some craptastic school.

I am the sole provider for them now..that may or may not change, but in any case I don't think private school is an option. (yes, i know many catholic schools give discounts, but no thanks. i am a devout athiest..i was raised to believe in science and my kids will be too)

Any advice on which med schools are located in good school districts? And even then, any advice on how to get in??

Thanks much. SOrry if this should be posted somewhere else..please feel free to move..
 
My children have always tested a few grade levels above their current grade, are intelligent, inquisitive, and excited about school; so when I moved for medical school, I was apprehensive as well. Our previous school wasn't the best in our area, but we moved to "welfare city" for medical school, where the national exam scores are well below average. Yippee. 🙁

We went and talked to the teachers. They were excited to hear from us, outlined materials they had access to for our children, programs they had in place for those few students who wanted challenge, and promised to work with us as a team. With a few momentary exceptions, we haven't been disappointed. We have noticed that teachers LOVE to teach -- and the biggest obstacle to their goal is the children's home life. It's sad to see how difficult it is to teach children when they don't get enough sleep, their diet is poor, and worst of all, their parents discourage homework and learning. Yes, it's true -- there are many families out there who don't have bedtimes for their children and actively encourage their kids to stay up until 11 pm so the parents can "spend time with their kids". Likewise, there are parents who discourage homework because it "takes time away from my time with my kid." No wonder our nation's children have exam scores in the toilets.

I digress. Even in welfare city we have found extra programs for our children: my daughter is in a galley readers' group. They get advance copies of not-yet-published books for reading, they read the books and send reports back to the publisher and editor about what was good or bad about the book. How it was written, the story line, the flow of the book, what they should change to make it a better book, etc. Currently my daughter voluntarily goes through four or five books a month and writes reports on all of them. There are lots of sports things, extra science gems tucked away in odd places to go see and get involved in, etc. And, of course, there is always some sharing of medical school that can go on. The teachers at their school have been wonderful and are pushing our kids. Their test scores are on track from where they were before and they are in advanced classes, sometimes being placed with higher grades for certain subjects.

All this takes effort on your part at the beginning of the year. Every medical school in the country has good school districts and poor ones nearby, depending on the cost of housing, transportation time, etc. Get into medical school first. Then look at options around the schools (if you are fortunate enough to have a choice) for the best schools for your kids, housing, etc.

Good luck to you. It's quite a ride. 🙂
 
OP: you might get some responses if you first list some med schools you are planning to apply to...give us a list to comment on...
 
Thank you for your reply, shyrem. It is encouraging that you were able to figure out a way to improve your kids' experience. Congrats to you! 🙂 I am curious, though, given the fact that most kids in your school have such circumstances...how have your kids been doing fitting in/making friends/keeping from bad influences?

As to where i am applying, I am a CA resident, so ideally, I would like to stay within a short plane ride's distance from my parents in case I need some drastic help w/ the kids. My list is currently all of the CA schools and OHSU.

I am debating Loma Linda (probably not) and UCSD (cause i've heard it is super unfriendly?)...

Of course I realize that this is a long shot given the competitiveness of CA, so I am looking for other places to apply in areas that are good for kids.

Thanks for suggestions!
 
Actually, it's interesting. when we got here, kids who were "different" were made fun of by other kids, teased, etc. My kids weren't raised like that. They are kind to everyone, walk away when they should, tell other kids their behavior isn't nice, and if necessary they can defend themselves in a fight (and usually win to boot -- gotta love good martial arts training). As a result, my kids are friends with everyone. The girl down the street with CP who wears leg braces is homeschooled because the other kids make fun of her. My daughter makes sure to invite her to play with her and other neighborhood kids, and after my daughter made it clear she wouldn't tolerate other kids being mean, they all got along very well. It's made a world of difference to the girl with CP (I got that from her mother a few months later). My son as well: we taught him to treat others as he wished to be treated. So he's nice to everyone. Most are nice to him, and those that aren't he knows aren't worth his time. They both have a freakin' ton of friends. Everywhere they go in the school - it's "HI! shyrem's kid!!!!"

As for keeping from bad influences, well, I think that was background upbringing too. Daddy/hubby is a cop, so he hears about problems in the schools, but there hasn't been an issue. We meet all the friends' parents before our children can go over there to play (that's ALWAYS been a rule). We talk a lot about how people act and whether that would be something they would like directed at them, whether they think it's appropriate, etc. As a result, they make really good friend choices.
 
Top Bottom