Actually, I think I may have it:
Lithium's valence e- is closer to the nucleus and therefore subject to greater attraction than its other column members, and so it takes two Li for every O to make a bond?
And progressively down the column, it gets easier to lose the valence e-. And at 4s and beyond, the reactivity with O is the same because the distance of the valence e- from the nucleus is no longer that big of a factor.
Let me know what you guys think.