Please, let me know what should I do?

[crieka]

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I have a brother who was diagnosed with a tumor in his brain a few weeks ago. I want to tell my parents, but I promised him not to tell my parents. He wanted to do it himself. However, he said he won't tell my parents any time soon. If you were in my shoes, what will you do? I will be in medical school, but not yet. So I don't really know much about how serious the situation is. I know early treatment is always the best course of action, but a promise is a promise. Please help, thanks.

Edited: He's only 15 years old.

 

[Green6936]

Wow, sorry to hear about your brother. Why doesn't he want to tell your parents? Because they will worry?

 

[prionsRbad]

Edited: He's only 15 years old.

If he's a minor, how do your parents not know about it?

 

[postbacker]

Tell your parents. He is a dumb kid. Give him a deadline (say Saturday, noon) to tell them himself. Tell him after that you are going to tell them.

If he was an adult, a different story.

 

[spicedmanna]

Well, a promise can be changed and given the potential severity of the situation, it is probably warranted. There is no legal implication here and nothing compelling you to agree to keep quiet besides your word; you aren't his healthcare provider and you didn't sign any legal contract. If you think that there is a real danger of him not seeking the appropriate care, urge him to reveal sooner rather than later. If he is considered a minor, then he may need his parent's consent to get the appropriate studies done and for treatment. Get a by-when date from him. Tell him that you feel afraid and want him to get the best care for his condition that he can get. Let him know that you think that he will be best served by informing your parents and bringing them into the loop. Make a new agreement with him that if he doesn't reveal by that date, you may step in and take action to that regard. If he doesn't agree, at least he knows and understands what you might do.

That's my 2 cents.

 

[All4MyDaughter]

I'm a parent myself and I have a lot of sympathy for your situation. It's likely that your parents already know as they would have likely been required to consent to some or all of the diagnostic procedures required to diagnose this condition. I say you should discuss this with your parents if you feel like you need to.

All that said, this really isn't an appropriate topic for this board. I'm going to go ahead and close it with best wishes to your family.