Proper way to decline an acceptance

[dopaminergic]

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I am in the very lucky position of having more than one acceptance and I was wondering what was the etiquette protocol about declining an acceptance. I had a phone interview followed by an email telling me I was accepted. I planned on calling to decline the acceptance, but was wondering whether it would be appropriate to leave a message (if the person does not answer) declining the acceptance. In either case I would follow it up with an email so they have my decline in writing... Thoughts?

 

[clar0780]

Personally, I emailed all of the programs that I declined. In retrospect, I wish I would have called rather than an email. I definitely didnt burn bridges by emailing but I think calling may have been the smartest option. If I were you, I would call and then follow up with an email to make it "official."

 

[ImSkyKid]

I declined two offers and I used the method they informed me of my acceptance (one emailed, one called). Email may seem less awkward and you have the luxury of carefully choosing how you word it. However, afterward I received a very brief "Thanks. Good luck" which felt less than sincere (though who knows what he was thinking since it's difficult to interpret tone in email). On the phone I felt more uncomfortable, but afterwards I was glad I did. My PI was very understanding and sincere when he wished me well in my studies. I doubt I burned any bridges either way, but I felt much better after talking directly to the faculty member over the phone.

 

[Doctor Eliza]

The thing that they will appreciate most is informing them as quickly as possible. They need to move on the someone on the wait list. I don't think phone call or email makes a huge difference, but if you choose to call and get voice mail, certainly leave a message and don't wait until you can talk to a live person.


Dr. E

 

[PsychPhDone]

I don't think it matters. I emailed.

 

[dopaminergic]

thanks everyone! I went with calling (leaving a voicemail) and following up with an email!