Do some reading in Hurst's The Heart. Here's the simplified version. Depolarization is an electrical signal that can be propagated along a conduction system (I think of it in terms of specific wires or circuits in the heart). There is a difference in the depolarization rate, and the conduction rate. The depolarization rate is what comes into play with the automaticity of the SA or AV nodes. The conduction rate is how fast that signal gets from point A to point B. The SA node automatically "fires" on its own at a certain rate faster than the AV node or the purkinji fibers. That signal is then conducted along the wires to the AV node. The AV delays that signal from being conducted at its original speed to the ventricles. (Why might this be important?) Then it lets the signal on through to the ventricles. There is a conduction delay, slowing of the signal yes. So the signal is conducted at different rates, yes. But it is the generation of that signal that is the difference between the SA and AV nodes. The cells in the AV node have to depolarize too to propagate the signal along. But the times we're talking about for depolarization events (60-100 for the SA node) are a lot longer than it takes for the depolarization, conduction, repolarization, etc. to happen. So, the automatic depolarization events in the SA node happen faster than the automatic depolarization events in the AV node, thus it sets the intrinsic rate. Fun fact, the actual intrinsic rate of the SA node is closer to 100 as seen in transplant patients since they have lost their innervation to keep it down.