The irony of it all!

[Cougarblue]

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I just thought that I would share my interesting moment from earlier today. I interviewed at UAB in October, and loved the school. It went from the middle of list to one of my top two schools. Since interviewing, I had not heard a thing. My wife and I mutually agreed that if we had not heard from a school by the first Friday in March we would withdraw, as she has found an excellent opportunity in a city where we already have an acceptance. Anyway, as the medschool fates would have it, I mailed my withdrawal to Alabama on Thursday night and stated, "As I have not heard from you regarding admissions..... Regretfully, I would like to withdraw my application from consideration for admissions to the entering class of 2003." I came in to work this morning, and checked my email as usual, and lo and behold, there in bold letters was my acceptance to UAB. Lovely, is it not!!! We fight so hard for admissions, and then have funny things like this happen. I am not complaining, but the whole situation does seem a bit ironic to me.🙄 😛

 

[relatively prime]

Why didn't you immediately call the school and say it was a mistake?

 

[arana]

🙂 If you really, really want to go to this med school I think you should talk to you wife about the pros and cons of going and why you really want to go. If this happens and you both decide that going to this med school is the right decision then you should call first thing Monday morning and explain the situation. If they gave you an acceptance that means they want you, so if you explain it well enough and even write another letter I am sure they will understand. Also you should really think about how this med school is going to affect you positively in the future, like getting you into a good residency. If it seems like this school is really better and will positively affect your life more then the med school in the other city, I think you should make every effort to go to this med school. Remember four years of sacrifice (ie possibly being away from your significant other) for a life time of potential happiness, that?s what I always think.

 

[Cougarblue]

I'm actually OK with not attending UAB. I'm very happy with my UVA acceptance, and my wife is exstatic about Charlottesville. I think the hardest thing is simply turning down an acceptance. After the stress of the application cycle, the process of whittling down my choices to only one acceptance, while being a huge blessing, has been difficult. Though I feel good about my decisions, my wife virtually had to pry my withdrawal letters to Rochester and UAB out of my hands in order to get them in the mailbox. So as of today, I am UVA bound, that is of course unless I hear from my mythical first choice Baylor. I am in the same boat as Prime. I interviewed on Sept. 13, and have yet to hear anything. At least they never promised anything. I interviewed on Sept. 9 at Tulane and was told no less than five times that I was a definite accept. Thus I can definately understand the "middle finger salute" thread to Tulane.

 

[Mutterkuchen]

Speaking as a married SDNer I think that you are wise to include your wife in the decision making process. I have turned down several interview invites for the sake of my wife and have no regrets. Her happiness will be an important part of my happiness in the next four years.

 

[macdown]

Originally posted by JBJ
Speaking as a married SDNer I think that you are wise to include your wife in the decision making process. I have turned down several interview invites for the sake of my wife and have no regrets. Her happiness will be an important part of my happiness in the next four years.

I completly agree with JBJ. My wife and I talked about where she would be happy and where she would be able to find work and I only applied to those places. It made no sense to me (or rather us) to apply to schools in places we couldn't both be happy, and lets face it, anywhere I go to school I'll be happy. It's better for both of us to make compromises, than to ask my wife to make unilateral ones.

 

[Moskeeto]

Have you guys or has anyone else been bringing their husband/wife/sig other with them to their interviews? well not to the actual interview, but on the trip to be able to see the town and what not? My gf will be moving with me too, but she's just been taking my word on how the places are, but if we could afford it, she would be along for all the trips to be able to give her opinions on the places.

 

[Adcadet]

Originally posted by JBJ
Speaking as a married SDNer I think that you are wise to include your wife in the decision making process. I have turned down several interview invites for the sake of my wife and have no regrets. Her happiness will be an important part of my happiness in the next four years.

My fiance and I reviewed the list of schools I wanted to apply to (20), and she only vetoed one school as a place she was not willing to live. JBJ, I assume the places to which you applied where your fiance would not be happy were backup/safety schools.

 

[jalan2]

Moskeeto,

I think it is a good idea to bring your Sig Other to the places where you're interviewing IF possible. My hubby and I drove to the 8 schools where I interviewed at, and the one time that we really had to drive we flew together with free tickets because of the mileage club thing. That way he could check out the place since where we'll end up being will definitely affect his life as well.

-j2

 

[kaos]

My husband came with me on all my interviews except the in-town ones. He scoped out the city while I handled the med school. Besides, it was fun having a travel partner. 😍

 

[Moskeeto]

Thats cool that you guys could have them go with you. I'm in philly right now, (a long, long, cold way from home) and I've been doing all the sight seeing stuff, but it would be a lot funner with my gf here. not only that, it'd be nice having her input on everything. I actually really liked the city tho. mmmmmmmm, cheesesteaks.........

 

[HouseHead]

My fiance and my dog came with me on all the driving-distance interviews. Made the whole process a lot easier, what with having fuzzy faces to greet me after hours walking around in uncomfortable shoes...