This is so tough. I wouldn't discount the importance of family and SO support though, that could make a huge difference in your mental health. That cost is brutal, but if you anticipate needing to be around for family, it may make life harder to be across the country. I know that price difference can be debilitating though, so I am not discounting that. These are just my thoughts as someone who went to undergrad near my family and was super grateful for that. Wishing you all the best and congrats on these awesome choices!