Vet School Romances :D

[goldengirl90]

Okay, time for a completely pointless and frivolous topic 😉

The vet clinic where I currently work is owned by a husband-and-wife team of vets who met during vet school. I think it's cute and it made me curious -- how common are vet school romances? For those of you currently in vet school, have you ever dated any of your peers? If not, are you aware of very many inter-vet-student romances? It makes sense that vet students would really bond throughout the misery of vet school (haha) but I imagine the downside would be that if you ever break up, there's really no avoiding each other and that could add to the vet school drama 😀 I've also heard there are hardly any guys in vet school which would make it rather difficult for everyone to pair off 😛

Anyway, just randomly thinking about this today and was curious to hear from some current vet students. Do share!

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[orca2011]

I'm dating a classmate and we've been together already like 7 months. We kind of instantly clicked. Sometimes we get annoyed with each other but we always work it out. And when I'm in a bad mood, I just separate myself from him so I don't take anything out on him.

And now that we're in our second semester, like all the single guys that were in my class are dating/seeing someone in our class or other classes. We're definitely the odd class.

 

[Jamr0ckin]

We have at least 5 couples in my class. We had one date and break up, and two of the people that are in separate relationships used to hook up.

Not smart, in my opinion.

But to each their own.

 

[RinTinTin]

We have at least 5 couples in my class. We had one date and break up, and two of the people that are in separate relationships used to hook up.

Not smart, in my opinion.

But to each their own.

This sounds like being in college athletics. Or as we, in the pool, liked to call it... swimcest.

 

[Jamr0ckin]

This sounds like being in college athletics. Or as we, in the pool, liked to call it... swimcest.

 

[BlackDog17]

This sounds like being in college athletics. Or as we, in the pool, liked to call it... swimcest.

👍

Crewcest, for those of us who are rowers. 😉

 

[Emiloo4]

We have a couple that makes out, rub noses, nuzzle necks, and rub arms in front of the class and professors. I only wish this was an exaggeration. I personally think they do it for attention, but

 

[goldengirl90]

This sounds like being in college athletics. Or as we, in the pool, liked to call it... swimcest.

this made me laugh out loud

another thing I wondered is... if two veterinarians end up together, how do they find jobs when they graduate?? It seems hard enough to find a good job for ONE vet student, but to come up with two positions in the same city seems kind of impossible. whatever, I'm probably being entirely too analytical 😳

 

[orca2011]

This sounds like being in college athletics. Or as we, in the pool, liked to call it... swimcest.

Ahhh, swimcest...good times, good times.

 

[Frozenshades]

this made me laugh out loud

another thing I wondered is... if two veterinarians end up together, how do they find jobs when they graduate?? It seems hard enough to find a good job for ONE vet student, but to come up with two positions in the same city seems kind of impossible. whatever, I'm probably being entirely too analytical 😳

Seems to happen often enough though, so people find a way (or deal with a LDR for as long as necessary). I know two couples that met during vet school and got married, each couple owns their own practice now.

We have at least 5 couples in my class. We had one date and break up, and two of the people that are in separate relationships used to hook up.

Not smart, in my opinion.

But to each their own.

I agree. I'm torn between how bad of a choice it might potentially be and how easy it will be to meet girls though. Eh, whatever happens happens I guess 😛

 

[Escalla]

Not in vet school right now, but an older guy I dated in UG that is now at Mizzou just got married to another student in his class.

 

[flyingdachshund]

When I was really little I used to tell people that I wanted to meet my husband in vet school so that I would know he loves animals as much as I do 🙄

 

[ViaBea]

another thing I wondered is... if two veterinarians end up together, how do they find jobs when they graduate?? It seems hard enough to find a good job for ONE vet student, but to come up with two positions in the same city seems kind of impossible. whatever, I'm probably being entirely too analytical 😳

I always wondered that too

I do know of one couple though near me that own a practice together, but they're definitely not recent grads. I'm not sure what they did before they could open their practice though because they're both large animal and the husband is a specialist.

 

[MarxistPreVet]

We have a couple that makes out, rub noses, nuzzle necks, and rub arms in front of the class and professors. I only wish this was an exaggeration. I personally think they do it for attention, but

👎 I could not possibly hate PDAs more. I hope nobody does this in any of my classes or I will find a way to publicly humiliate the offenders.

 

[RinTinTin]

I'm glad you all enjoyed the term "swimcest" so much. 😀

But in all seriousness, it was the source of at least 70% of the drama on the team and I imagine it could be similar in vet school since it's a similar situation (a group of people that spends ALL of their time together, so that you always have to see exes and then they start dating your friends and so on). The only difference was that the ratio of males to females was much closer to 1:1. and the guys all looked good in speedos.

 

[cs5910]

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[Emiloo4]

👎 I could not possibly hate PDAs more. I hope nobody does this in any of my classes or I will find a way to publicly humiliate the offenders.

Many of us have wanted to, but they already do it themselves. Plus they just want attention, it's a long story... but not giving it to them is how our class sticks together

 

[MarxistPreVet]

Emiloo...the sad thing is that relationships like that often die as soon as the couple no longer has such an easy platform/captive audience to broadcast PDAs.

 

[Emiloo4]

Emiloo...the sad thing is that relationships like that often die as soon as the couple no longer has such an easy platform/captive audience to broadcast PDAs.

Oh absolutely. It's all a ridiculous mess anyway. The girl basically homewrecked his 6 year relationship (with another vet student) and now tries to claim her "prize" in front of class everyday. Pathetic, and no one cares. Seriously.

 

[RinTinTin]

LMAO as a fellow college swimmer, I can totally appreciate the term swimcest on collegiate teams... Oh boy...

"Oh boy" is right! I am pretty sure we had more drama than the frats and sororities. 🙄

 

[BlackDog17]

When I was looking at undergrads, one of the schools I seriously considered was University of New England, which has its own med school. My mom REALLY wanted me to go there. She was convinced that I would meet a handsome young doctor and get married. And then we could open a joint veterinary/medical practice together, where people could drop their pets off at the vet to be examined while they were at their own doctor's appointment!

 

[swingnsave]

When I was looking at undergrads, one of the schools I seriously considered was University of New England, which has its own med school. My mom REALLY wanted me to go there. She was convinced that I would meet a handsome young doctor and get married. And then we could open a joint veterinary/medical practice together, where people could drop their pets off at the vet to be examined while they were at their own doctor's appointment!

that sounds awesome. in my dreams!

 

[Easnadh]

another thing I wondered is... if two veterinarians end up together, how do they find jobs when they graduate?? It seems hard enough to find a good job for ONE vet student, but to come up with two positions in the same city seems kind of impossible. whatever, I'm probably being entirely too analytical 😳

At the clinic where I currently work, an intern was hired on as a full time doctor and then they hired his fiancé (now wife) as the reproductive specialist. They dated all through vet school at CSU, and now work together.

Apparently, it is possible 🙂

 

[Lupin21]

It's a married in vet school couple that own the clinic that I'm at now. He does large animal and she does small. They seem quite happy almost 20 years later. It's just like any relationship, there is tension here and there, but they've learned how to work with it and after a long day's work, go home happy.

 

[adams30]

if two veterinarians end up together, how do they find jobs when they graduate?? It seems hard enough to find a good job for ONE vet student, but to come up with two positions in the same city seems kind of impossible. whatever, I'm probably being entirely too analytical 😳

At a large animal practice where I volunteered there was a vet who met her husband in vet school. Both of them are LA vets but decided not to work at the same practice / open their own because she said "then one of us will always have to be on call"

They both were able to find jobs in their area (northern IL)

As for me I did not end up with someone in the veterinary field but rather engineering. My undergrad has a massive population of engineering students and many of them tend get girlfriends from the female dominated areas of school (like pre vet)

 

[Frozenshades]

At a large animal practice where I volunteered there was a vet who met her husband in vet school. Both of them are LA vets but decided not to work at the same practice / open their own because she said "then one of us will always have to be on call"

They both were able to find jobs in their area (northern IL)

As for me I did not end up with someone in the veterinary field but rather engineering. My undergrad has a massive population of engineering students and many of them tend get girlfriends from the female dominated areas of school (like pre vet)

The phenomenon of engineering guys dating vettie girls has definitely been discussed here before. Seems to be a somewhat common occurrence apparently.

 

[WildZoo]

That's so weird...my bf and I started dating at the end of high school, but he's an engineering major now and I'm pre-vet of course.

 

[adams30]

I have two other vet/pre-vet student friends dating engineers as well.

It is funny lol I guess we aren't the only ones.

Sometimes my bf still asks himself "what did I get myself into with this one" lol. even he thinks I study too much haha! we've been together 3.5 years and when we first started dating my gross vet med stories always made him squeamish but now he's totally immune to them - instead he finds them rather amusing most of the time.

 

[bbeventer]

I have two other vet/pre-vet student friends dating engineers as well.

It is funny lol I guess we aren't the only ones.

Sometimes my bf still asks himself "what did I get myself into with this one" lol. even he thinks I study too much haha! we've been together 3.5 years and when we first started dating my gross vet med stories always made him squeamish but now he's totally immune to them - instead he finds them rather amusing most of the time.

We joke all the time here about going and studying in the engineering library to meet a future Mr. Rich.

 

[allieh8607]

I'm not in vet school yet but I dated a fellow pre-vet in undergrad and it was one of the worst mistakes ever. I am a person who needs alone time and it felt like I could never get away from him. He was in all of my classes and then when I wanted to relax with him, he'd always want to be studying. Don't get me wrong, it was awesome having a built in study buddy but things started getting too competitive and eventually it was the demise of our relationship. Since he knew all of my classes, he knew when I should have been studying or working on homework. And when I wasn't, I got criticized for it. He needed to know all of my exam grades and when I didn't score as highly as I anticipated I got "well if you hadn't napped on such and such day then it probably would have been higher." 🙄 Then when we broke up, it was humiliating. Small campus = everyone knew us. And obviously recognized when we all of the sudden weren't sitting next to each other in class. Ohhhh the stares I got that first week.

Needless to say now I'm dating a graphic designer who is clueless about veterinary medicine and it's amazing. I would never date a colleague or a fellow vet student. I need that separation of work and pleasure and it just wouldn't happen that way.

 

[runswithdogs]

I'm just gonna say, I'm glad someone made a thread about this, because I've been curious. And I am going to enjoy lurking as long as people have things to say about it. 🙂

 

[Camelidcrazy]

We have several couples in between classes where the relationship started before one of the parties got into vet school but no new 1st year couples yet (at least ones who will admit it).... Although tons of rumors circulating about who might be secretly involved.

Moral of the story-- try not to drink as much at the class Halloween party as you would have before school started. Your tolerance is probably lower than you expect and you WILL end up awkwardly dancing up on/making out with your single (fe)/male classmates in front of the entire vet school... Just ask about 25% of the first year class.

There's a reason they call it vet school high 😀

 

[pirateyoho]

Oh absolutely. It's all a ridiculous mess anyway. The girl basically homewrecked his 6 year relationship (with another vet student) and now tries to claim her "prize" in front of class everyday. Pathetic, and no one cares. Seriously.

Oh my. Hello, high school. I see you've returned. 🙄

 

[that redhead]

We have two in class couples and one or two dating outside the class (our class is only 60 people, though).

Personally, no no no. You see these people all day every day and I feel like you'd talk about vet school all the time. I need something else completely different. (Funnily enough, my SO isn't even a huge animal person. Yeah he likes dogs and some cats but overall he's just eh.)

 

[EngrSC]

Needless to say now I'm dating a graphic designer who is clueless about veterinary medicine and it's amazing. I would never date a colleague or a fellow vet student. I need that separation of work and pleasure and it just wouldn't happen that way.

👍 👍

I think I've mentioned on the forum before - one of the vets I work for met her now husband when she was in vet school and he was in med school. After graduating, she followed him here and got an internship followed by a job offer pretty easily - however, she's the entire package - crazy smart and super personable.

The husband of the doctor who owns the practice is a business guy. She runs the medical side of the practice while her husband takes care of all the business stuff. Genius

 

[boilermaker713]

My fiance is an IT guy, so I have my own personal computer assistance. He's had cats, dogs, and the like but he had never been around livestock. I love that he is very open to them and willing to learn though because I do plan on having cattle later in life and I'm wanting to go into food animal. It's really fun when he helps out with our show calves. Makes me really happy, especially since the last guy made fun of our hobby and wouldn't even touch our cattle. Glad I moved on!

 

[hygebeorht]

I'm not in vet school yet but I dated a fellow pre-vet in undergrad and it was one of the worst mistakes ever. I am a person who needs alone time and it felt like I could never get away from him. He was in all of my classes and then when I wanted to relax with him, he'd always want to be studying. Don't get me wrong, it was awesome having a built in study buddy but things started getting too competitive and eventually it was the demise of our relationship. Since he knew all of my classes, he knew when I should have been studying or working on homework. And when I wasn't, I got criticized for it. He needed to know all of my exam grades and when I didn't score as highly as I anticipated I got "well if you hadn't napped on such and such day then it probably would have been higher." 🙄 Then when we broke up, it was humiliating. Small campus = everyone knew us. And obviously recognized when we all of the sudden weren't sitting next to each other in class. Ohhhh the stares I got that first week.

Needless to say now I'm dating a graphic designer who is clueless about veterinary medicine and it's amazing. I would never date a colleague or a fellow vet student. I need that separation of work and pleasure and it just wouldn't happen that way.

Your previous relationship sounds pretty hellish to me. I'm in a similar situation as your current relationship, and I feel so glad that my partner is not in the same field! We've been together for six years, and it's great to have someone whose life doesn't revolve around the stuff I study all the time.

Besides, I think it would be pretty hard to find a fellow vet type who wouldn't start getting competitive. I'm good at relaxing my competitive nature, but only if I'm around people who are also non-competitive. If I had an S.O. who was nagging me about my exam grades and being super type A about our classes, it would get ugly - fast. 🙂

My fiance is an IT guy, so I have my own personal computer assistance. He's had cats, dogs, and the like but he had never been around livestock. I love that he is very open to them and willing to learn though because I do plan on having cattle later in life and I'm wanting to go into food animal. It's really fun when he helps out with our show calves. Makes me really happy, especially since the last guy made fun of our hobby and wouldn't even touch our cattle. Glad I moved on!

Wow, sounds like you dodged a bullet :/

 

[CanHardlyWait]

We had one date and break up, and two of the people that are in separate relationships used to hook up.

We have a couple that makes out, rub noses, nuzzle necks, and rub arms in front of the class and professors. I only wish this was an exaggeration. I personally think they do it for attention, but

Ewww, to both of those. Just eww.

 

[StartingoverVet]

I thought this thread said vet school BROMANCES...

<cue SOV-LIS joke>

 

[orca2011]

Besides, I think it would be pretty hard to find a fellow vet type who wouldn't start getting competitive. I'm good at relaxing my competitive nature, but only if I'm around people who are also non-competitive. If I had an S.O. who was nagging me about my exam grades and being super type A about our classes, it would get ugly - fast. 🙂



Wow, sounds like you dodged a bullet :/

This is one of the reasons mine is working well so far. We're competitive but not to the point where we nag on each other. We compliment each other when one does well and support the other when one doesn't. Once you're in vet school, I feel like the majority of the people aren't super cut throat since you've been already achieved the goal of getting into vet school. At least that's how I see the majority of the people in my class.

 

[boilermaker713]

Wow, sounds like you dodged a bullet :/

No kidding. The sad part is that's not even the half of it. Lots of emotional manipulation, controlling behavior, etc. I put up with his crap for 5 years but got smart when I got to college. Found out all my friends and family actually knew what they were talking about 🙄 I just tell myself it was a good learning experience and held me off for my fiance. Everything happens for a reason 🙂

 

[hygebeorht]

No kidding. The sad part is that's not even the half of it. Lots of emotional manipulation, controlling behavior, etc. I put up with his crap for 5 years but got smart when I got to college. Found out all my friends and family actually knew what they were talking about 🙄 I just tell myself it was a good learning experience and held me off for my fiance. Everything happens for a reason 🙂

Nothing like experiential learning 😀 It's not a bad thing to have a terrible relationship as a reference: "Hmm, my honey is treating me like that shady ex did. Time to pull the plug!"

 

[Emiloo4]

I thought this thread said vet school BROMANCES...

<cue SOV-LIS joke>

👍

 

[deleted497320]

Somewhat off-topic, but: I know a *ton* of biomedical labs run by a husband-wife team (including every lab I've ever worked in). It's probably not too difficult for both to find jobs- if the university is trying to court a bigwig, they will often try to find bigwig's spouse a job too, and how convenient if they're in the same lab? It's just weird to me b/c I imagine most of them met in either grad school or post-doc positions, which are similar intense, insular communities as vet school and therefore privy to the same awkwardness and drama. And I don't understand how you to can be w/someone all day at work and then at home w/out going a little crazy. 😕 But tons of people do it!

 

[485501]

Somewhat off-topic, but: I know a *ton* of biomedical labs run by a husband-wife team (including every lab I've ever worked in). It's probably not too difficult for both to find jobs- if the university is trying to court a bigwig, they will often try to find bigwig's spouse a job too, and how convenient if they're in the same lab? It's just weird to me b/c I imagine most of them met in either grad school or post-doc positions, which are similar intense, insular communities as vet school and therefore privy to the same awkwardness and drama. And I don't understand how you to can be w/someone all day at work and then at home w/out going a little crazy. 😕 But tons of people do it!

I don't know any married couples who run a lab together, but at my undergrad there were several married couples in each department and a bunch more where the spouses worked in different departments. It CAN be difficult getting jobs at the same school (or even two nearby schools) but when I asked around I was told that if you're willing to move anywhere, it's usually ok. There were some couples who had worked in different states for a few years while looking for schools that would take both of them though.

 

[T_Rose]

another thing I wondered is... if two veterinarians end up together, how do they find jobs when they graduate?? It seems hard enough to find a good job for ONE vet student, but to come up with two positions in the same city seems kind of impossible. whatever, I'm probably being entirely too analytical 😳

I always wondered that too

I do know of one couple though near me that own a practice together, but they're definitely not recent grads. I'm not sure what they did before they could open their practice though because they're both large animal and the husband is a specialist.

I know of an older couple that also owns a practice together, but they are small animal veterinarians.

Anyway, I know of two recent veterinary school graduates who were able to find jobs at the same clinic. One works during the day, and the other works during emergency hours. I feel so bad for them because they are barely ever working or at home during the same time. I think they've only worked at the same time once since they started working there.

 

[Trilt]

I don't know any married couples who run a lab together, but at my undergrad there were several married couples in each department and a bunch more where the spouses worked in different departments. It CAN be difficult getting jobs at the same school (or even two nearby schools) but when I asked around I was told that if you're willing to move anywhere, it's usually ok. There were some couples who had worked in different states for a few years while looking for schools that would take both of them though.

We have SO MANY married couples here at NC State. I just keep learning of clinicians who are married to each other... a lot have kept their last names different, so I'll be like "Dr. X and Dr. Y have kids!?" I can think of half a dozen couples without even trying. It's ridiculous.

(My SO's a computer engineer who just "sort of" likes cats).

 

[Foxhunter]

Also- TONS of inappropriate relationships (i.e. professors leaving their spouses for vet students when their spouse is also a professor), residents dating (or using) vet students, etc. I know one student met and married a professor over the course of vet school.

 

[StartingoverVet]

Also- TONS of inappropriate relationships (i.e. professors leaving their spouses for vet students when their spouse is also a professor), residents dating (or using) vet students, etc. I know one student met and married a professor over the course of vet school.

Or this "alleged" (just covering my butt -it is true) story. Married prof sleeps with married student. Student breaks it off...prof brings gun to school. Prof fired. Gotta love Penn.

 

[orca2011]

Or this "alleged" (just covering my butt -it is true) story. Married prof sleeps with married student. Student breaks it off...prof brings gun to school. Prof fired. Gotta love Penn.

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