Weird scenario, a professor has a crush on me

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There is a young professor in my department who has a thing for me. I've known this since I was a freshman. I think other professors in the department (his friends) know this too.

All of these professors and the guy who likes me are in my department and I will eventually have to take classes with them, classes that they are the only ones who teach it.

I'm just afraid that none of these professors will take me seriously as a student when I have to take these courses and I need to get recommendation letters from them eventually. Should I consider changing my major to become a part of another department? I am only a sophomore but I've already switched my major 3x!!

What should I do? The prof. hasn't done anything inappropriate, he just likes me. I know this is a strange question, please don't give me crap about it. 🙁
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StayingFocused said:
There is a young professor in my department who has a thing for me. I've known this since I was a freshman. I think other professors in the department (his friends) know this too.

All of these professors and the guy who likes me are in my department and I will eventually have to take classes with them, classes that they are the only ones who teach it.

I'm just afraid that none of these professors will take me seriously as a student when I have to take these courses and I need to get recommendation letters from them eventually. Should I consider changing my major to become a part of another department? I am only a sophomore but I've already switched my major 3x!!

What should I do? The prof. hasn't done anything inappropriate, he just likes me. I know this is a strange question, please don't give me crap about it. 🙁
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If you are your avatar, I see what the problem is...

[/Rico suave]
 
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StayingFocused said:
I'm just afraid that none of these professors will take me seriously as a student when I have to take these courses and I need to get recommendation letters from them eventually. Should I consider changing my major to become a part of another department?
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I think you sound like an idiot. Or another neurotic pre-med.
 
FeralisExtremum said:
I think you sound like an idiot. Or another neurotic pre-med.
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I don't know how to state my scenario in a way that I don't sound like an idiot. I'm just extremely uncomfortable about it. I'm guessing you've never been in a situation like this. My department is very small... I guess I am a neurotic pre-med. It's just been such a distraction...I won't go into too much detail.
 
Seeing how you look just like Megan Fox, I'm sorry to say that this problem will be plaguing you for quite some time. On the flip side, you can probably get drinks for free.
 
StayingFocused said:
My avatar is Megan Fox. I do not look like Megan Fox. lol
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man, I opened this thread in a separate window like 5 minutes ago and I already missed like 5 posts. We'll need to see a picture of you to make a more accurate assessment.
 
docelh said:
+1.

Your other thread didn't help the cause.
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I feel like I have to be super careful and make sure everything is perfect to get into a good medical school. I don't understand how I can relax and be successful!!
 
FeralisExtremum said:
I think you sound like an idiot. Or another neurotic pre-med.
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Hey now...

OP: I don't think you have much to worry about. If you simply don't reciprocate the emotion, he'll probably just lose interest and move on. I don't know many guys that are fixated on only one girl...he probably has many of these "crushes."
 
I think I'm going to delete this thread soon anyway... no one's been helpful.

I guess no one has been in a scenario like this before.... oh well
Maybe I'll ask this on Yahoo Answers, lol
 
That's exactly my point. Your anxiety --> insecurity --> delusion.

Maybe this person does have a crush on you, but maybe, it's all in your head. Either way, I doubt your professor is going to risk his job in this economy....
 
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thesauce said:
Hey now...

OP: I don't think you have much to worry about. If you simply don't reciprocate the emotion, he'll probably just lose interest and move on. I don't know many guys that are fixated on only one girl...he probably has many of these "crushes."
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I really hope so...he's been a bit on the stalker-side
 
StayingFocused said:
I think I'm going to delete this thread soon anyway... no one's been helpful.

I guess no one has been in a scenario like this before.... oh well
Maybe I'll ask this on Yahoo Answers, lol
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Just let it be, and don't do anything stupid. Or you could get into a knife fight and wind up with a scar face?

Edit: But you probably shouldn't get into a knife fight.
 
You're just paranoid. Possibly vain or self-centered, but mostly paranoid.

If he's making you uncomfortable, you can either talk to him about it or talk to his superiors. If you feel like he's treating you differently than other students and may be on the road to putting you in a bad situation, definitely talk to his superiors. And if he really is 'stalking' you, you need to alert campus security.

However, if he's just waving at you when he sees you, knows your name, and occasionally looks at you during lecture, there's nothing wrong.

And for the love of GOD, if you're considering changing your major YET AGAIN for a reason like this, it's obvious you're not serious enough to PICK a major yet. Just finish your general requirements and prereqs until you mature a bit.
 
I've been in a similar situation only the professor was older. I NEVER did anything to encourage it or reciprocate it and he never crossed boundaries, it was just blatantly obvious.

It didn't hinder me at all in the department or other classes. It wasn't me that wasn't taken seriously; it was the professor who looked foolish.

As long as it's not a "2-way" crush, and you don't cross any lines. You're fine. Please don't change your major again.
 
StayingFocused said:
There is a young professor in my department who has a thing for me. I've known this since I was a freshman. I think other professors in the department (his friends) know this too.

All of these professors and the guy who likes me are in my department and I will eventually have to take classes with them, classes that they are the only ones who teach it.

I'm just afraid that none of these professors will take me seriously as a student when I have to take these courses and I need to get recommendation letters from them eventually. Should I consider changing my major to become a part of another department? I am only a sophomore but I've already switched my major 3x!!

What should I do? The prof. hasn't done anything inappropriate, he just likes me. I know this is a strange question, please don't give me crap about it. 🙁
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Hey folks, does't this make your "troll-dar" go into over-drive?? :laugh: You've been had!
 
roseglass6370 said:
I've been in a similar situation only the professor was older. I NEVER did anything to encourage it or reciprocate it and he never crossed boundaries, it was just blatantly obvious.

It didn't hinder me at all in the department or other classes. It wasn't me that wasn't taken seriously; it was the professor who looked foolish.

As long as it's not a "2-way" crush, and you don't cross any lines. You're fine. Please don't change your major again.
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Thank youuuuu....I feel a little bit better now...
 
Seriously people, the OP made a thread earlier today asking if she should retake her B in Calculus to get her 3.9XX GPA back up to a 4.0.

Now this?
:troll::troll::troll:
 
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You're probably being delusional. Girls have the tendency to think that everyone has a crush on them. *sigh*
 
every hot girl's got a prof who's a little too eager to help. it's not uncommon. just dill with it.
 
docelh said:
That's exactly my point. Your anxiety --> insecurity --> delusion.

Maybe this person does have a crush on you, but maybe, it's all in your head. Either way, I doubt your professor is going to risk his job in this economy....
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Good point. Thanks dear...however, I don't think I'm delusional because other people have sensed it too. I think I will just ignore it until I graduate.
 
assuming this is a serious thread, why are you worried about this? Are you concerned that he would somehow hold your grade hostage in order to get a date from you? If it ever became that insane, you could take your case to the higher-ups in the university. If you make enough of a fuss about it, I'm sure you'd get things straightened out. This is the kind of PR a school does not want to be getting.
 
If you don't bang him you will never bring your 3.9 to a 4.0.
 
this thread has the potential to be a multi-pager.
 
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