What do adcoms think of young marriage?

[kangarooo]

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I'm curious what adcoms think of young marriages (21-22) or early long term engagements? I imagine it would depend on the individual but what are your thoughts? I know a select few get married in undergrad. Is this the sort of thing you should even talk about?


I'm not talking about a marriage because of pregnancy, elopement, a fling in vegas, or anything else... I mean when two people have been together for a while and actively make the decision to get married. Let's also say these individuals have been cohabiting for the past 2-3 years. Let's also assume the two families involved were very supportive.

 

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I'm curious what adcoms think of young marriages (21-22) or early long term engagements? I imagine it would depend on the individual but what are your thoughts? I know a select few get married in undergrad. Is this the sort of thing you should even talk about?


I'm not talking about a marriage because of pregnancy, elopement, a fling in vegas, or anything else... I mean when two people have been together for a while and actively make the decision to get married. Let's also say these individuals have been cohabiting for the past 2-3 years. Let's also assume the two families involved were very supportive.

No one cares

 

[darkjedi]

why would they care?

 

[kangarooo]

I just thought that they wanted to know you from a personal standpoint too. If they do marriage certainly would play a large role in someone's personal life.

Not saying they do
Just wondering

 

[DrLeon]

It's illegal to against the rules to ask about it as criteria for an interview... So we don't care much. A married person who isn't a good fit for the school will be rejected as quickly as a single person who isn't fit for the school.

 

[kangarooo]

It's illegal to against the rules to ask about it as criteria for an interview... So we don't care much. A married person who isn't a good fit for the school will be rejected as quickly as a single person who isn't fit for the school.

Is the reverse true too though? A married person who is a good fit will be accepted just as quickly as a non-married person who is a good fit?

What if it's mentioned by the candidate or the candidate is wearing a ring? Will you think "too young" and while it might not play an official role in the evaluation could it make you subconsciously think poorly of the choices the candidate made?

Should it not be mentioned? Should the candidate not wear a ring?

 

[DrLeon]

You're missing the point. We're not allowed to consider it at all. Married, or unmarried, a person who is a good fit well be accepted regardless of their relationship decisions. If you think mentioning your marriage will be relevant to any of the questions you are asked, by all means go ahead. However, don't just force a mention of your marriage to gain an assumed advantage over other candidates.

 

[Heplayer92]

I also assumed it was a slightly positive characteristic, because at least somebody in the world has already decided that they are willing to spend the rest of their lives with you. Must make you a somewhat likeable individual right? At least that's my wishful thinking 🙂

 

[LChristmas]

Other interviewers were the only people who seemed to care that I was wearing a wedding band.

 

[LizzyM]

I just thought that they wanted to know you from a personal standpoint too. If they do marriage certainly would play a large role in someone's personal life.

Not saying they do
Just wondering

Getting to know you from a personal standpoint is more along the lines of "will this person be a team player? will they be pleasant to eat lunch with on a clinical rotation where there is the luxury of a lunch break? can they make small talk is a social situation?" Both married and unmarried people can be personable, or not.

 

[Winged Scapula]

I don't think about it at all in terms of admission. All I care about is whether or not this person can be relied on and will be fun/interesting to be around during the day.

On a personal level, knowing how much I changed from my early 20s, I can't help but think, "gee I hope it works out".

 

[TeddyMeddy]

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