Will you be single when you go to med school?

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What will your relationship status be when you start med school?

  • Single, by choice

    Votes: 95 31.3%

  • Inadvertently single

    Votes: 88 28.9%

  • In a relationship

    Votes: 76 25.0%

  • In a long-distance relationship

    Votes: 38 12.5%

  • Other

    Votes: 7 2.3%
  • Total voters
    304
Single. And old. My friends joke that I'm going to turn into a puma/cougar come fall. 🙁
 
single... in my frat, my brothers who have gf's are almost in chains because of their gf's.... everywhere they go, their gf comes with them... they call like 10x a day... and the gf's (who are in sororities) tell gossip to their friends who tell their friends etc... so gossip spreads fast... i like to be a free bird, and decided against being in a relationship

sure i go to formals and etc, etc... but nothing serious.... i like it this way, and plan to keep it this way throughout med school when I start in August... i may even keep it like this during residency.... and then maybe my whole life... :laugh:...cause honestly i need freedom....
 
nonsciencemajor said:
single... in my frat, my brothers who have gf's are almost in chains because of their gf's.... everywhere they go, their gf comes with them... they call like 10x a day... and the gf's (who are in sororities) tell gossip to their friends who tell their friends etc... so gossip spreads fast... i like to be a free bird, and decided against being in a relationship

sure i go to formals and etc, etc... but nothing serious.... i like it this way, and plan to keep it this way throughout med school when I start in August... i may even keep it like this during residency.... and then maybe my whole life... :laugh:...cause honestly i need freedom....
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i hear you pal
 
Married, and I'm female.

Sorry to burst the single trend :laugh:

Honestly, OP, do whatever works best for you. It's just hard for significant others, but if they go in knowing your priorities, and esp if your s.o. and you are really independent from each other, like my husband and I, you should be fine.

You won't get a lot of time together, but just enjoy the time you do have.
 
I will be single, and hopefully single through med school too.
 
I'm single now and so I plan to still be single going into med school. This is because I won't be going anywhere too close to here. Starting a relationship now wouldn't go well because we'd inevitably be split apart, both physically by distance and by my decrease in free time. I've been in a relationship where I was 90 minutes from my girlfriend in early undergrad, and even that was strained. Unlike then, I won't be able to put nearly as much effort into the relationship so it'd be a pretty doomed situation. Also, I'm just very picky about who I get into a relationship with at all regardless of time and place.

To the OP, if you already have something good going for ya, you might as well stick with it. Of course, there are a lot of factors to consider such as physical distance. To me if you're going into med school and are single you should stay single. If you are in a good relationship already, you shouldn't set out to become single simply because of med school. Just discuss the issue at length with your significant other, and if they're willing to stick with it then stick with it.
 
in a serious relationship.

Seriously though OP? Your mom is still telling you what to do when it comes to your relationships? Time to grow up and do what you want. If you're capable of being a doctor you should be capable of figuring out whether you want to be in your current relationship or not.
 
Single right now, but open for relationship in med school. A relationship with someone in med school is likely to last longer because both of you understand what it takes to succeed and the amount time needed to be spent on work. So neither one will likely get too needy due to their busy schedules and will know their limits. The downside with any relationship is distractions, especially if you hit some rough patches. But hey, if things work out for the long haul, think about all that money both of you will be pulling in.
 
I'm in a pretty serious relationship too. I think it's good that you're taking it as it goes. I don't think you should be thinking about breaking up now. lol. it seems kind of messed up.

med school will probably let you know exactly what the future is for your relationship. I'm trying to stay optimistic. Things will work themselves out and hopefully it'll be for the best.
 
I will be in a serious relationship with someone who is going to dental school. You just gotta do what makes you happy. Don't let your mom tell you what to do though, that will not lead to happiness
 
Married. Seems like there are twenty or fewer married students in my class of 185, plenty more students engaged or in serious relationships, but majority single.
 
I was in a serious relationship for a year but always wasnt sure if we were going to make it through med school so i broke it off with her. If you have any doubts or see any major faults with your girlfriend and your are moving to a different town together, be careful, because people dont change and those faults will intensify.
 
alexlex143 said:
I'm in a pretty serious relationship too. I think it's good that you're taking it as it goes. I don't think you should be thinking about breaking up now. lol. it seems kind of messed up.

med school will probably let you know exactly what the future is for your relationship. I'm trying to stay optimistic. Things will work themselves out and hopefully it'll be for the best.
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I agree, med school should not be the reason for breaking up any relationship. You should just let things take its course and put all efforts into trying to make a long distance relationship work. If it seems like it is getting difficult to maintain it, only then consider breaking it off as it might be in the best interest for both people. I know friends from high school who are still dating the same person despite doing to different colleges, so it is not impossible given how there is skype and everything these days.
 
I was gonna NOT be single once I got accepted, but then I realized that it would not make much sense to get into a relationship without being sure of where I would be, and who I would meet in 4/5months.

So I'm looking around, but not actively.

But then, its not like I've gotten dozens of girls hitting on me, so
Single Inadverently
 
serious relationship. we live together now and he'll be moving with me to the school i choose. 😍
 
Lets stand back and look at this.

You're in a serious relationship...

But your mom says you should be single..

Now you're asking random people on the internet what they plan to do.

I don't think you're in as serious of a relationship as you think.
 
I'll probably keep a main hoe while I pimp others.
 
tinery said:
I'm in a serious relationship now but my mom thinks I should be single in med school.
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Does your mom also help you put on your clothes in the morning? Does she pack you lunch and kiss you goodbye in the morning when you get on the school bus? Does she leave a little light on in your room at night so the monsters under your bed won´t hurt you?

Seriously, what the hell? You're an adult. Tell her to mind her own damn business.

Or do you want to end up being one of those people whose mothers constantly interfere in their relationships?
 
I haven't really been looking to start a relationship since I broke it off with my last... date (we weren't together long enough to really have a relationship), because I don't want a long-distance relationship and I have little idea of where I'll be come fall.

That, and all the guys in this town are idiots. Considering the culture is one where it's relatively normal for a 15 year old girl to be having a baby, that doesn't really surprise me, but my goals are a little higher than that...
 
Unless I meet a girl soon who I date until I go to med school and who is able to move/get a job wherever I go, I will probably be single, either inadvertently or by choice. I don't really believe in extended LTR's.
 
After the last one didn't work out, figured it'd make more sense to be single when I move to this new city and meet all these new people.

I'd have to be head over heels in love with someone to try the long distance thing or to have them move with me. I don't think there's anything at all wrong with that, in fact it's wonderful if you have that.

I just haven't made that type of connection in undergrad--figure no point in pursuing it this close to moving and meeting hundreds of new people.
 
mvenus929 said:
I haven't really been looking to start a relationship since I broke it off with my last... date (we weren't together long enough to really have a relationship), because I don't want a long-distance relationship and I have little idea of where I'll be come fall.

That, and all the guys in this town are idiots. Considering the culture is one where it's relatively normal for a 15 year old girl to be having a baby, that doesn't really surprise me, but my goals are a little higher than that...
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Haha so are you from Greeley? JW you don't actually have to answer that I just thought I'd ask because I'm working in the hospital there right now.........


As for my answer, I'm in a serious relationship. Matter of fact my ring should be here next week........then we're totally going to get married ASAP and she's coming with me 🙂
 
Married. I'm glad I will have my husband's support. 🙂
 
tinery said:
I'm in a serious relationship now but my mom thinks I should be single in med school. I'm just going to take things as they come...

What will your relationship status be when you enter med school?
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I should also add that I am in the same situation as you....KINDA...
My mother doesn't want me to get married before or while in medical school....She says it's because she wants me to focus. However, I actually happen to know it's because I was a severe "momma's boy" up until I graduated college and got the heck out of there. She still thinks I am though and wants to have a say in anything, but I figure since I'll be 25 this year chances are I am old enough to make my own decisions...So I told her that and truth be told I think she might have gotten the idea! Also she got a puppy as well....actually our pug and schnauzer mated to make a schnug...Which looks like it will be hideous someday but hey you have a pug pic so maybe you could do the same with your mom?? 😀
 
ARK013 said:
I should also add that I am in the same situation as you....KINDA...
My mother doesn't want me to get married before or while in medical school....She says it's because she wants me to focus. However, I actually happen to know it's because I was a severe "momma's boy" up until I graduated college and got the heck out of there. She still thinks I am though and wants to have a say in anything, but I figure since I'll be 25 this year chances are I am old enough to make my own decisions...So I told her that and truth be told I think she might have gotten the idea! Also she got a puppy as well....actually our pug and schnauzer mated to make a schnug...Which looks like it will be hideous someday but hey you have a pug pic so maybe you could do the same with your mom?? 😀
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I've never been a mama's boy, but my mom tried to convince me and my wife that we should wait until after medical school to get married. A little over a year ago on my wedding day, she found out what I thought of that advice. I say if you know you are with the right person, then why wait? When you're married, you know you have some one that you can count on during those tough times. Its not like life is going to get magically easier after medical school, because from what I hear residency is tough. Follow my lead and ignore your mother. :meanie:
 
lrkoehle said:
I've never been a mama's boy, but my mom tried to convince me and my wife that we should wait until after medical school to get married. A little over a year ago on my wedding day, she found out what I thought of that advice. I say if you know you are with the right person, then why wait? When you're married, you know you have some one that you can count on during those tough times. Its not like life is going to get magically easier after medical school, because from what I hear residency is tough. Follow my lead and ignore your mother. :meanie:
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Haha no worries! That's what I'm doing for sure! I just need that pesky ring to get in...It's been over a month! And we're already looking at only about a 5 month engagement........
 
can't believe jdub hasn't posted in here yet
 
If they're aren't single going into medical school, they will become single not to long after starting. 😉
 
ARK013 said:
Haha no worries! That's what I'm doing for sure! I just need that pesky ring to get in...It's been over a month! And we're already looking at only about a 5 month engagement........
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Your bride is gonna looooooove that, planning the wedding and what not in 5 months as well as moving... she's gonna be busy and stressed and crazy 🙂

It is really nice having spousal support though... Even if your day sucked, you know you've got someone nice to come home and hug 😍
 
ILikeDrugs said:
If they're aren't single going into medical school, they will become single not to long after starting. 😉
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I'm married, but I heard once you become a doctor you've got to trade up for a younger model. Don't tell my wife.
 
TDX said:
Does your mom also help you put on your clothes in the morning? Does she pack you lunch and kiss you goodbye in the morning when you get on the school bus? Does she leave a little light on in your room at night so the monsters under your bed won´t hurt you?

Seriously, what the hell? You're an adult. Tell her to mind her own damn business.

Or do you want to end up being one of those people whose mothers constantly interfere in their relationships?
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I broke up with my long-term bf recently. He was a momma's boy, and his mother gave him gems of advice such as "You need to find a girl dumber and less attractive than DarwinA so you can control your woman" hahaha

After years of this it gets realllly old. I'll be glad to start med school single, and I will enjoy my pre- med school travelling around the country a lot more now that I'm free!
 
ziggyd0c said:
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don't listen to them. let the haters hate. i wish my boyfriend and i had the option of being in the same city, or even in the same state. but so far the schools i have interviews at and the schools that are showing an interest in him (for phd programs) are nowhere near each other 🙁.
 
The Poet Sings said:
don't listen to them. let the haters hate. i wish my boyfriend and i had the option of being in the same city, or even in the same state. but so far the schools i have interviews at and the schools that are showing an interest in him (for phd programs) are nowhere near each other 🙁.
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:cry:
 
The Poet Sings said:
don't listen to them. let the haters hate. i wish my boyfriend and i had the option of being in the same city, or even in the same state. but so far the schools i have interviews at and the schools that are showing an interest in him (for phd programs) are nowhere near each other 🙁.
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hope you guys end up near each other!
 
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