Would you give up everything to restart?

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You would have to give up your family and everyone you have ever met, but you get to start over knowing everything you know now.

Bonus question: would you still go into/ try to go into medicine?
 
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” ― Soren Kierkegaard

We are mere beasts of very limited knowledge & insight - who am I to jump into the past and attempt to mold it to my liking?
It is the epitome of hubris. The past can stay where it is; its use should be to teach, not to jail.
 
You would have to give up your family and everyone you have ever met ...

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I mean, I can make all the right investments. I would be a genius child and get to skip right through school. I could then use my time and money to travel the world learning languages with my family. I'll meet lots of people that way. Then I could settle down in some country where medicine is a little more enjoyable, go to med school, and practice as many or as few hours a week as I wanted.

Sounds good to me

But why would I have to give up my family? How would I exist?
 
I mean, I can make all the right investments. I would be a genius child and get to skip right through school. I could then use my time and money to travel the world learning languages with my family. I'll meet lots of people that way. Then I could settle down in some country where medicine is a little more enjoyable, go to med school, and practice as many or as few hours a week as I wanted.

Sounds good to me

But why would I have to give up my family? How would I exist?
well the choice would be too easy otherwise
 
well the choice would be too easy otherwise
If I knew about my family in my new life, then no, because I would feel guilty for basically selling my family (also would miss em, which takes away some of the fun of having a new life). If I won't remember them, then I won't notice that they aren't around and would consider starting over
 
In your case it would be, would you go through it again. For someone like me it would be something like, would I still try to get in.
Go through my life again? No, it was fine the first time.
 
Yeah I think I would. I like my life a lot but I wasted a lot of time doubting myself and being unhappy. If I could go back and cut out the moping and letting experiences pass me by, I would.
 
I wouldn't sacrifice my family to do it over. and I definitely have a do-over life.

Classic coping mechanism for trauma is to identify with it. I identify with mine too much to do it over differently, I guess, despite the fact it's a real shame I didn't really understand/was able to put into practice what I know now. There was a lot of needless suffering.

Most of the needless suffering was staying in bad relationships, which for some reason to this day I can't bring myself to wish away, not getting enough mental health help, working too hard, not working hard enough (so I guess balance), and going to medical school.

Check out Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families. Read the Laundry List.
Read some of Thich Nhat Han's writings.
 
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