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I'd like to address an overlooked, yet very serious, issue.
Actually I've never had a patient I particularly wanted to "f"
Just because your psychiatrist has significant boundary issues doesn't mean we all do.My psychiatrist said the only reason psychiatrists do not mess around with attractive and interested (or just interested) patients is because they will lose their license when they are caught.
If all psychiatrists don't have boundary issues they/you would not need the law/rule/sanction to keep them/you in line. If all psychiatrists don't have boundary issues why are the ramifications so serious after the first offense?Just because your psychiatrist has significant boundary issues doesn't mean we all do.
Definitely something I was in until private practice. No I never actually wanted to date a patient, but there's a difference between working at a place where a majority of the patients look 10 years older than they are, smell bad, haven't bathed for days, are missing several teeth, have IVDA track marks on their arms, and a place where almost all of the patients are no different than the people I usually hang out with in terms of SES, and many of them are attractive and intelligent women, just that they're my patient. I can't allow myself to mentally go down the road of even thinking of becoming intimate with a patient. The few times where I started thinking a patient was attractive just for a few seconds, it made me feel like I was violating my professional ethics.
Very different clinical settings yield different types of patients. I worked in one place in residency in outpatient and over 90% of the patients showed up, another place (the place where the hospital referred all the people they thought were malingering for a 3 hots and a cot), hardly any of them showed up. Hey makes sense to me. The outpatient place didn't give out free food. If it did I bet you the attendance rates would've been sky-high.
Actually I've never had a patient I particularly wanted to "f". I suppose it's within the realm of possibility that I may be attracted to a patient one day, but I like to think that I would refrain from doing so. Not because of the legal ramifications, but because boundary violations hurt patients. I believe that's true whether you're "f-ing" them or even "just" meeting them for coffee (though definitely to different degrees). And that the legal/licensing consequences are the correct response to deeply unethical and harmful behavior.
If all psychiatrists don't have boundary issues they/you would not need the law/rule/sanction to keep them/you in line. If all psychiatrists don't have boundary issues why are the ramifications so serious after the first offense?
If all psychiatrists don't have boundary issues they/you would not need the law/rule/sanction to keep them/you in line.
Your cluelessness is awesome.
a) Your psychiatrist's generalization to all psychiatrists demonstrates some fairly alarming lack of mentalization skills on his/her part.
b) Your psychiatrist clearly has boundary issues for sharing this ridiculous and provocative "pearl" with you as a patient.
c) Just because you think you and your psychiatrist will require external pressure to prevent you from rubbing your genitals against your patients' genitals doesn't mean the rest of us didn't, say, develop some ego function during our development.
Beyond losing license, other reasons to not have sex with willing patients include
a) My wife wouldn't appreciate it.
b) I became a psychiatrist instead of a gigolo because presumably I wanted to do things other than just have sex. Having sex with a patient undermines your ability to help them. How would a woman possibly feel safe and be able to trust me in a therapeutic relationship if we were having more than a therapeutic relationship?
c) As a male, the chances of a patient who would want to sleep with me (their psychiatrist) having pretty significant personality pathology is pretty tremendous. If you go to a bar, and somebody says, hey that hot chick wants to do you, but there's a really good chance she will become a stalker, bash your car with a golf club, and call you up at 3 in the morning threatening to kill herself, you'd probably pass, even with a few drinks in you. It's even easier to avoid these traps when the piece of paper in front of you has a psychiatric diagnosis on it, you're sober, and it's 10AM.
d) I'm probably better at psychotherapy than I am in bed. (Of course, maybe that's why I became a psychiatrist instead of a gigolo).
No one here is saying "all psychiatrists" don't have boundary issues. Psychiatrists are human beings. We, like all human beings, exist on a spectrum with some good, some bad. This sounds to me like classic black and white thinking.
Any profession will have the chance that there will be those that will exploit and corrupt what it's about. When the profession has several people in it, it become something where it will happen, just hopefully less often than not.
Police, politicians, clergy, physicians, teachers, what have you are not spotless.
If you want to go on a tirade and condemn a profession because the terrible acts of a few, go right on ahead. It's a waste or your time and ours. If you are angry at psychiatrists due to something that happened to you in the past where your anger is justified, then I would sympathize with you, but this forum is not the right place to address that anger-the state medical board is. Lodge a complaint.
From here on, unless there's a change, I'd recommend there be a ban on the poster because this is either classic trolling or anger that's better directed to other avenues other than this one.
...d) I'm probably better at psychotherapy than I am in bed...
If all psychiatrists don't have boundary issues they/you would not need the law/rule/sanction to keep them/you in line. If all psychiatrists don't have boundary issues why are the ramifications so serious after the first offense?
That's what she said.
That's what she free associated?