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I looked at a few threads from last year on this topic, but most are referring to having children or being visably pregnant while in the interview/acceptance process.
I'm coming around the corner to 30 years old (gulp) and my fiance has legitimate questions on family life while I (hopefully) get my PhD.
We've actually worked through the early apprehension on just maintaining a healthy relationship during the stressful period, but now he poses another question that I never put too much thought into until very recently (and no, its not my biological clock ticking! haha).
We've always had the agreement that "kids would wait" until after I had fully completed my PhD. When I discussed this topic with several friends at a dinner party, I was shocked by most of the responses since everyone in attendance were currently in a grad program or had recently graduated. The debate was drastically biased to NOT necessarily waiting and doing what is best for yourself and your future family. I even had one mom tell me that she SPECIFICALLY waited until the final years of her PhD to have her child because it afforded her the ability to stay at home with her baby AND do research.
So my question really is, how do schools handle a student becoming pregnant (not necessarily the spouse)? Obviously they are not going to banish you to a remote island, but do they "work with you"? Allow a semester off? etc...
I don't plan to get accepted (the first step to reaching my life goals) and then try to have enough kids to fill a baseball team, but things DO happen... be it an "accident" or a well thought-out change of plans!
Any insight would be great... TIA!
I'm coming around the corner to 30 years old (gulp) and my fiance has legitimate questions on family life while I (hopefully) get my PhD.
We've actually worked through the early apprehension on just maintaining a healthy relationship during the stressful period, but now he poses another question that I never put too much thought into until very recently (and no, its not my biological clock ticking! haha).
We've always had the agreement that "kids would wait" until after I had fully completed my PhD. When I discussed this topic with several friends at a dinner party, I was shocked by most of the responses since everyone in attendance were currently in a grad program or had recently graduated. The debate was drastically biased to NOT necessarily waiting and doing what is best for yourself and your future family. I even had one mom tell me that she SPECIFICALLY waited until the final years of her PhD to have her child because it afforded her the ability to stay at home with her baby AND do research.
So my question really is, how do schools handle a student becoming pregnant (not necessarily the spouse)? Obviously they are not going to banish you to a remote island, but do they "work with you"? Allow a semester off? etc...
I don't plan to get accepted (the first step to reaching my life goals) and then try to have enough kids to fill a baseball team, but things DO happen... be it an "accident" or a well thought-out change of plans!
Any insight would be great... TIA!
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