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As medical students, we have to suffer through delayed gratification as we watch friends buy homes and start families while we dig ourselves deeper in debt.
As non traditionals, that feeling of being left behind is made even worse since many of us have friends who are even further ahead in the game of life.
I know that some nontrads already have mortgages and kids, but for those of us that had a career before med school but not homes/kids, med school becomes an extended purgatory. While our friends march on with their lives, we are stepping back into school, putting our economic and family dreams back on hold.
I truly feel this disconnect on some days when I see my old friends getting married off and buying homes, and I'm still living at my parents' house (to save money) and too busy to date. Of course, this isn't just a problem that med students have. But the educational process makes it particularly onerous to start families, or even to meet people.
I recently got back in touch with a few friends. While it's always joy to reunite with friends, it isn't without pitfalls.
Does anyone feel a tad bit of regret when we see our friends moving so far ahead of us economically and otherwise? Especially during a bad rotation and you're post-call, do you wonder, "Is this worth it?".
Don't get me wrong, I love medicine. I can't imagine doing anything else.
But the personal cost has been higher than I anticipated. I can't even begin to tally the economic losses I've sustained. Does anyone feel that small tinge of regret come up? How do you deal with it?
As non traditionals, that feeling of being left behind is made even worse since many of us have friends who are even further ahead in the game of life.
I know that some nontrads already have mortgages and kids, but for those of us that had a career before med school but not homes/kids, med school becomes an extended purgatory. While our friends march on with their lives, we are stepping back into school, putting our economic and family dreams back on hold.
I truly feel this disconnect on some days when I see my old friends getting married off and buying homes, and I'm still living at my parents' house (to save money) and too busy to date. Of course, this isn't just a problem that med students have. But the educational process makes it particularly onerous to start families, or even to meet people.
I recently got back in touch with a few friends. While it's always joy to reunite with friends, it isn't without pitfalls.
Does anyone feel a tad bit of regret when we see our friends moving so far ahead of us economically and otherwise? Especially during a bad rotation and you're post-call, do you wonder, "Is this worth it?".
Don't get me wrong, I love medicine. I can't imagine doing anything else.
But the personal cost has been higher than I anticipated. I can't even begin to tally the economic losses I've sustained. Does anyone feel that small tinge of regret come up? How do you deal with it?