This is probably indeed how most people do it. But my posts were aimed at what you would do if you want to stand out. You have to create all of those things anyway, why not just put them in a folder and hand them to your instructor all at once? If you do it like you described, and like most people do, you communicate that you have never done this before and you want them to show you how it's done, i.e., hold your hand. Many professors will probably be ok with that. That doesn't change the fact that they will probably be impressed if you hand them a well organized LOR packet from the beginning. You then communicate that you know what you're doing, it's important to you, and they get everything they need from the beginning without having to ask. I guarantee they will be impressed if you give them all that stuff. This is not a totally painless process for them either. It takes them time and energy. You also communicate to them that you respect their time and you aren't going to waste theirs because you don't know what you're doing and need help.