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Are there any introverted/shy grad students out there? What is graduate school like for you? What sort of challenges have you faced and how have you overcome them? I'm a pretty quiet person in general, and know that I'm going to have to step it up in grad school, with classes being almost completely discussion based. Any tools or tricks that people can suggest for doing so?
Hey There,
I am now in college and taking up BS in Psychology.
I am also having trouble with me being shy, in most of my classes, my professors would always ask me questions about the topic we're discussing, I can answer their questions but I'm having trouble in expressing myself well...
Is there some tips you guys here can give me, to lessen my shyness?
Thanks in advance.
op,
go to therapy, get some help.
you might be able to squeak by in classes with not talking. if you are unable to speak with a patient, you won't be able to do the job.
there is not a day in my work that i don't have to ask complete strangers highly embarrassing questions (e.g., are you incontinent, are you impotent, have you ever had an STD, have you been sexually abused, etc). you will have to do the same.
Yes, but the answer wouldn't be politically correct.
Mark
What answer wouldn't be politically correct? Please elaborate. I can take it!
Are there any introverted/shy grad students out there? What is graduate school like for you? What sort of challenges have you faced and how have you overcome them? I'm a pretty quiet person in general, and know that I'm going to have to step it up in grad school, with classes being almost completely discussion based. Any tools or tricks that people can suggest for doing so?
pick up smoking
My politically incorrect answer was both cheaper than a clinic and healthier than smoking!
Mark
though I think depending on the degree of shyness, the exposure one gets through training may be enough to increase comfort levels with discussing intimate issues.
I think cardamom's point was more that people shouldn't avoid the field because they think they might find it a little awkward to talk with someone their grandmother's age about their sex practices. There's a big difference between someone who won't talk to their client about an important, clinically relevant issue related to sex, and someone who just felt a little nervous the first time they had to do so. The former needs to think long and hard about whether clinical training is appropriate for them. The latter probably make up the vast majority of people in the field.
I am good in one to one situations and not really afraid to ask people personal questions, in fact I have more trouble with small talk so to speak then I guess what would be termed deep talk? It's more that I get really nervous in group settings and stuff or like even talking to professors and stuff like that \.
Yea I guess there is a distiniction between shy and introverted. I can't totally tell which one I am, probably leaning toward shy because I do get nervous around people. However I don't really think it would effect me as a therapist because I am good in one to one situations and not really afraid to ask people personal questions, in fact I have more trouble with small talk so to speak then I guess what would be termed deep talk? It's more that I get really nervous in group settings and stuff or like even talking to professors and stuff like that so I guess that aspect of graduate school (presentations, interviews, developing connections etc) scares me.
What you will learn, is that everything (or nearly so) effects you as a therapist. You are the product of your experience and you are also the instrument through which therapy is delivered.
You will be helping people with anxiety issues, depression, mania, PD's like borderline PD... some of which may hit close to home with you and others that will be completely alien to you. To think that your personality and style of interaction won't affect your ability to deliver therapy is completely off base. No two therapists are the same, and while we may be intending to take our clients to the same place and deliver them the same treatment, it is our delivery of the treatment that is one of the great variables. Never forget that what happens in therapy is the unique interaction of you, your issues, your patient, and their issues. Being able to tease this all apart and deliver effective treatment is the part you are getting paid for.
None the less, being shy or introverted will only make your path different... not impossible.
Mark
Yea I would imagine being introverted or any personality trait would affect your therapuetic style and approach. However I don't see why it would necessairly effect it in a negative way unless you were too shy to even talk to the people but thats something you would probably be find out pretty quickly.