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My SO and I have been together for four years. We've been long distance before, and it actually has suited us generally well (we're both relatively low maintenance). I moved out of state to be with him six months ago, and to take a much deserved break from school and work. Next month, however, I'll be moving back to our home state alone to start M1. He will be taking a post-doc which is a three hour drive from my school. Of course, it could be way worse.
So perhaps, internet, you can settle our debate. He insists that being apart for the first year is an ADVANTAGE: That it will force me to form effective and efficient study habits without being distracted. He thinks I will prepare well with the incentive of getting enough done to spend time together on occasional weekends.
I however, think it will suck. I worry about feeling lonely, and managing my apartment by myself. I'm afraid I'll start to stress about being apart, or use the distance as a scapegoat for doing poorly.
I find his optimism reassuring, but I refuse to admit that the situation is ideal.
Is he right? Does anyone else in a long distance relationship find that the distance inspires better discipline? Or did you experience setbacks in performance because no one is holding you accountable except yourself?
So perhaps, internet, you can settle our debate. He insists that being apart for the first year is an ADVANTAGE: That it will force me to form effective and efficient study habits without being distracted. He thinks I will prepare well with the incentive of getting enough done to spend time together on occasional weekends.
I however, think it will suck. I worry about feeling lonely, and managing my apartment by myself. I'm afraid I'll start to stress about being apart, or use the distance as a scapegoat for doing poorly.
I find his optimism reassuring, but I refuse to admit that the situation is ideal.
Is he right? Does anyone else in a long distance relationship find that the distance inspires better discipline? Or did you experience setbacks in performance because no one is holding you accountable except yourself?