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So I have a question about LoR.
I worked in a lab a few years ago and took care of the animals there. While there, I began dating one of my coworkers and we are still together. There was also the manager who I worked under but rarely saw and didn't really know, maybe one time per week. Then there was the supervisor who I worked directly under and became close with. Towards the end of my time there a horrible accident happened and the supervisor was fired. It wasn't his fault, it wasn't anybody's fault in the least. It was an accident and management wanted someone fired over it.
I kept in contact with him for a while after, but eventually he stopped responding to everybody. I guess he wanted a fresh start and to forget what happened. He would have been the ideal person to write me a letter, and I'm going to try to get ahold of him a few more times before giving up.
My two choices besides him are the manager, who will write me a nice but not personal letter, or the current supervisor. The current supervisor is my SO- she was promoted a year or so after I quit that job. Would it be unethical to have her write me a letter? We worked together for a while, and she is in charge and I know would write me an excellent letter. I know you can't have family write you letters..but is she technically considered family?
I'm not sure what the correct thing to do is here and would appreciate some input.
I worked in a lab a few years ago and took care of the animals there. While there, I began dating one of my coworkers and we are still together. There was also the manager who I worked under but rarely saw and didn't really know, maybe one time per week. Then there was the supervisor who I worked directly under and became close with. Towards the end of my time there a horrible accident happened and the supervisor was fired. It wasn't his fault, it wasn't anybody's fault in the least. It was an accident and management wanted someone fired over it.
I kept in contact with him for a while after, but eventually he stopped responding to everybody. I guess he wanted a fresh start and to forget what happened. He would have been the ideal person to write me a letter, and I'm going to try to get ahold of him a few more times before giving up.
My two choices besides him are the manager, who will write me a nice but not personal letter, or the current supervisor. The current supervisor is my SO- she was promoted a year or so after I quit that job. Would it be unethical to have her write me a letter? We worked together for a while, and she is in charge and I know would write me an excellent letter. I know you can't have family write you letters..but is she technically considered family?
I'm not sure what the correct thing to do is here and would appreciate some input.
