Hi everyone. I’m new here. I'm not sure if this is the correct forum for this, but i'll give it a shot.
I'm a potential pre-med student who is thinking long and hard about whether or not I want to go down this road. It is something I really want, yet my main concern with moving forward is my daughter. I am a 28-year old single mother of a 3-year old. Many of the posts I’ve been able to find about mothers in the medical field are about how to do it—how to find childcare, what the hours are like, finding balance, etc.
I have the support I need to go to med school if I choose this route. I already work full-time and my parents watch my daughter during the day. They are willing to see it through medical school/residency, with the understanding of the increase in hours in certain years. My daughter is accustomed to me being away 45-55 hours a week already, so it wouldn’t be a complete shock for her. Her father is also around in some capacity and knows about medical school being a possibility for me. His mother is also potentially available.
My question is about my actual child. Depending on how things go, she will 5/6 years old when I begin medical school. She’ll be 9/10 when I begin my residency, and let’s say 15 when I finish. She will be in school, which will alleviate a lot of childcare stress. But I guess want to know is how children deal with a parent in med school/residency. If you are in medical school, residency, or have finished it all, how are your kids? How is your relationship with them? Did it suffer to the point that you regret your decision?
I really want this, but I don’t my relationship with my daughter to be ruined because of it. I know that it requires sacrifices, and many of them, but I want to know that we can come out of it with our relationship intact, that we can still be close, that she won’t resent me. I know there are no guarantees, and that this varies from family to family, but I guess what I’m really looking for are stories from other mothers who have done it. Do you regret your choice? Are your kids okay?
I'm a potential pre-med student who is thinking long and hard about whether or not I want to go down this road. It is something I really want, yet my main concern with moving forward is my daughter. I am a 28-year old single mother of a 3-year old. Many of the posts I’ve been able to find about mothers in the medical field are about how to do it—how to find childcare, what the hours are like, finding balance, etc.
I have the support I need to go to med school if I choose this route. I already work full-time and my parents watch my daughter during the day. They are willing to see it through medical school/residency, with the understanding of the increase in hours in certain years. My daughter is accustomed to me being away 45-55 hours a week already, so it wouldn’t be a complete shock for her. Her father is also around in some capacity and knows about medical school being a possibility for me. His mother is also potentially available.
My question is about my actual child. Depending on how things go, she will 5/6 years old when I begin medical school. She’ll be 9/10 when I begin my residency, and let’s say 15 when I finish. She will be in school, which will alleviate a lot of childcare stress. But I guess want to know is how children deal with a parent in med school/residency. If you are in medical school, residency, or have finished it all, how are your kids? How is your relationship with them? Did it suffer to the point that you regret your decision?
I really want this, but I don’t my relationship with my daughter to be ruined because of it. I know that it requires sacrifices, and many of them, but I want to know that we can come out of it with our relationship intact, that we can still be close, that she won’t resent me. I know there are no guarantees, and that this varies from family to family, but I guess what I’m really looking for are stories from other mothers who have done it. Do you regret your choice? Are your kids okay?