You owe your parents from the moment you're born. Wow!
I have to disagree. Debt theory is false. Only Special goods theory can be true.
Having just finished Philosophy up (with an A), I'm aware of the four theories:
1. Debt Theory: Your parents have done so much for you. You owe them.
-Okay and what is the measure of goods in this situation? Debt does not change. Why should a struggling artist help their parents out less, than say a lawyer? Why is it only reasonable? It is a debt. Furthermore, why can I never pay it all off? In relation to what debtors have to pay creditors it just isn't the same. (think about your credit cards)
2. Gratitude Theory: Someone does something for you and you (should) respond with an act of gratitude.
-A better theory than the garbage that is debt theory.
-By definition gratitude is not a filial duty. So your awesome mom has surgery and doesn't like to be thanked all the time (finds it embarrassing)..... So rather than be by her side you go play a round of golf. If you believe in filial duties than this just doesn't work.
-Level of sacrifice....... One parent had to sacrifice less (they enjoyed being a parent) so the level of gratitude owed to them is less. Or is it? Why would that be? It would for gratitude in any other case though.
-Demand of gratitude: If you believe in filial duties.... a long term open-ended commitment vs. ??? substantially less in gratitude? Also, an act of benevolence isn't done with the belief of long term permanent return.
In the end though..... if I accept any (
of the three classical theories) it's this one. The gratitude is dependent upon the parents (good, not as good, etc.). Also, it isn't a debt. Anyone parent who believes that should meet with the department of families and children.
3. Friendship Theory: For adult children and parents. The filial duties are on par w/ that of friends.
-Okay that is due on mutuality, not reciprocity.
-Being a friend is a choice, you're not born into it.
-Shared values.... what if you have none with your parents?
-Say you drift apart..... and they need financial help and you're rich. But you choose not to. After all it's been years and you've both gone your own ways. That's how it is with friends is it not?
-Just a weird theory in my opinion.
4. Special goods Theory: Young children receive "special goods" from parents. Old parents then receive "special goods" from children. Can't receive any other way. Not being able to be a parent can't be satisfied in some other way (lessened but not fulfilled). Just as not having good relations with your parents can't be satisfied by great friends. Only you can provide these special goods, so you have special, filial, duties.
-This theory went so far as to put limitations on itself: Healthy parent-child relationship and natural attachment of child to parent.
Dang, bad parents deserve nothing... Still a question on individual autonomy but.......
Okay, I guess I might have to agree with this theory.
-----So, as you can see. You do not owe your parents from the moment your born. Unless you believe in debt theory, which I believe I've disproved here.
Now back to some reading, in quiet.