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I have dated many men, in fact, I have never had a problem attracting men wherever I live. But the moment most men find out that I've had a history of depression or am a bit "sensitive" when I have PMS, a large number of them tend to back out . Nearly all of them except one, who I'll call Ryan, for the sake of anonymity, have not exactly been sympathetic or understanding.
Ryan understands me because he's had a history of depression as well and is currently being treated for it. We dated for about a year about 5 years ago but when I had this "nervous breakdown" because of a series of bad events that occured in my life, he broke up with me and told me he needed time to think about our relationship. Ryan didn't contact me in the months that ensued. It took me about 6 months to get over him. Just when I thought I was over him, he suddenly popped back into the picture and wanted to get back together but I politely declined his offer.
Long story short - I moved away for three years and have recently returned to my hometown. I recently met an interesting fellow called Jack who as far as I know, has not had depression. Jack doesn't know that I have struggled with depression in my past. I am stable now so I don't feel a need to tell him.
Chance brought Ryan and I together again when I bumped into him a few days ago in the downtown area of this city. We talked for a good while and it seems like he is pretty happy now and his depression has been stabilized by his medications. He is still interested in getting back together. As a matter of fact, he's been quite persistent. I feel tempted to go back into his arms.
My question is, should I get back together with Ryan ? Should I continue dating Jack ? Should I date both? Does a woman with a history of depression have a chance at having a stable relationship with a man who has no depressive illness or can she only date a man who has had depression as well and can commiserate with her condition ?
Ryan understands me because he's had a history of depression as well and is currently being treated for it. We dated for about a year about 5 years ago but when I had this "nervous breakdown" because of a series of bad events that occured in my life, he broke up with me and told me he needed time to think about our relationship. Ryan didn't contact me in the months that ensued. It took me about 6 months to get over him. Just when I thought I was over him, he suddenly popped back into the picture and wanted to get back together but I politely declined his offer.
Long story short - I moved away for three years and have recently returned to my hometown. I recently met an interesting fellow called Jack who as far as I know, has not had depression. Jack doesn't know that I have struggled with depression in my past. I am stable now so I don't feel a need to tell him.
Chance brought Ryan and I together again when I bumped into him a few days ago in the downtown area of this city. We talked for a good while and it seems like he is pretty happy now and his depression has been stabilized by his medications. He is still interested in getting back together. As a matter of fact, he's been quite persistent. I feel tempted to go back into his arms.
My question is, should I get back together with Ryan ? Should I continue dating Jack ? Should I date both? Does a woman with a history of depression have a chance at having a stable relationship with a man who has no depressive illness or can she only date a man who has had depression as well and can commiserate with her condition ?