As far as having a responsibility to my family, I couldn't agree more. But what is more important to my family in the long term... being physically present for the majority of the infancy, or acquiring a stable carreer with which I can provide for my family financially and set a positive example for my children?
First off, I am 26, married for 2 years, and do not have kids. So I understand, at least a bit, where you are coming from. You have been tossed into a situation I would not wish upon my enemy b/c I too understand what it means to follow a dream and sacrifice for it. But in this case, I can't justify sacrificing my family - to this extent - for medical school (I understand that I will, but to a lesser degree). I am glad that you are seriously considering applying for next year b/c I think leaving your wife and kid, especially with your wife in school, for you to pursue your interests, would be kind of selfish. Sorry, but I could leave my wife 1000's of miles away with my child, even if her mother lived with her. There is always next year for medical school, especially if you believe that this is what you are supposed to be doing with your life. Patience!!!!!!!
As for your "being a man" comments quoted above, I have an issue with those. I do not believe that the only or best way for a man to provide for his family is through finances. A man is NOT defined by the amount of money he makes or how prestigous his job his. Is a man who makes $40,000 busting his a$$ for his family a lesser man than one who becomes a doctor making 6 figures? I think not and I can think of many examples in my own life. I can think of nothing more inspiring to both men and your future child, then showing the sacrifice you made by putting your family first. Imagine, years from now, looking into your childs eyes and telling him/her, "Because I loved you and your mom so much, I turned down this opportunity because it is my responsibilty to take care of you. I sacrificed my dreams, even just by a year or two, and put that on hold so that I can fulfill my true duty as a man and take care of you and your mom."
I believe that this is more of a positive example and shows your child how much you love them, and money has nothing to do with that. That is true sacrifice.
Sorry for being a bit blunt, but this kind of hit a nerve with me. I truly wish you the best because I do understand what it means to want to be a doctor and doing everything you can to fulfill that goal. May God bless you and your family during this decision and future and I hope that your dreams are realized, along with your family's.
I think all of the previous posters have given you a lot of great wisdom, except for one...viostorm. I HIGHLY doubt he wants his wife to miscarry.
to you for even bringing that up, idiot.