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My boyfriend is having a crisis. Bear with me, because this is going to be as detailed as I can manage.
Prior to this, my boyfriend was excited about EM. He has a lot of experience with it and seemed pretty confident about his choice. He started his intern year two weeks ago. Over the last few days he's come home and said he chose the wrong specialty, that he hates EM, he's ruined his life...blah de blah woecakes. You get the gist. He tends to have a flair for the dramatic and be a bit pessimistic, so it's been difficult to determine if this is just new resident woe or if he actually HAS chosen the wrong specialty.
Some background on why he chose EM: Wide variety of complaints, trauma, critical care component, procedures, not taking call, good money while still having time off to enjoy things outside of medicine. He's smarter than any of the residents I've ever met, but he's a bit arrogant and likes to feel like he's the one that can fix people.
Reasons he's given for not liking EM (so far):
- Having to call consultants and/or Consultants treating him like he's a ******* (Told him that they think every intern his a *******)
- Being considered pond scum by other specialties (Personally I believe this is in his head, and that once he develops/proves his skill as a doc he will be given respect)
- EM doesn't get a ton of respect from the rest of the medical community
- Thinks the residency isn't long enough.
- Didn't get into his 1st pick program - I think it's more about this than anything else. He matched into a VERY good program in a nice area, but it still wasn't his first choice.
In the last 48 hours he's said that he should have went into Urology, which he later followed by saying he would hate only being focused on the bladder, would miss working with heart/lungs, HATED tumor conferences, that it was monotonous BUT that at least he would feel more important. He thinks that Urology would be too competitive for him to switch into, but he definitely could have matched into a Urology residency during med school. Personally I don't think that he would become bored with this specialty.
I don't know if this is a normal Holy **** I'm A Resident What Have I Done reaction that will ease once he finds his stride or if he actually did choose the wrong specialty. Due to the program structure, he's had hardly any time in the ED and is spending more time in lectures, sim lab, etc.
I imagine a lot of new residents have this feeling at some point. It's still so early that I don't want to encourage him to switch into another specialty, but I do want to help. Has anyone else gone through this? What would you have/did you find helpful?
Prior to this, my boyfriend was excited about EM. He has a lot of experience with it and seemed pretty confident about his choice. He started his intern year two weeks ago. Over the last few days he's come home and said he chose the wrong specialty, that he hates EM, he's ruined his life...blah de blah woecakes. You get the gist. He tends to have a flair for the dramatic and be a bit pessimistic, so it's been difficult to determine if this is just new resident woe or if he actually HAS chosen the wrong specialty.
Some background on why he chose EM: Wide variety of complaints, trauma, critical care component, procedures, not taking call, good money while still having time off to enjoy things outside of medicine. He's smarter than any of the residents I've ever met, but he's a bit arrogant and likes to feel like he's the one that can fix people.
Reasons he's given for not liking EM (so far):
- Having to call consultants and/or Consultants treating him like he's a ******* (Told him that they think every intern his a *******)
- Being considered pond scum by other specialties (Personally I believe this is in his head, and that once he develops/proves his skill as a doc he will be given respect)
- EM doesn't get a ton of respect from the rest of the medical community
- Thinks the residency isn't long enough.
- Didn't get into his 1st pick program - I think it's more about this than anything else. He matched into a VERY good program in a nice area, but it still wasn't his first choice.
In the last 48 hours he's said that he should have went into Urology, which he later followed by saying he would hate only being focused on the bladder, would miss working with heart/lungs, HATED tumor conferences, that it was monotonous BUT that at least he would feel more important. He thinks that Urology would be too competitive for him to switch into, but he definitely could have matched into a Urology residency during med school. Personally I don't think that he would become bored with this specialty.
I don't know if this is a normal Holy **** I'm A Resident What Have I Done reaction that will ease once he finds his stride or if he actually did choose the wrong specialty. Due to the program structure, he's had hardly any time in the ED and is spending more time in lectures, sim lab, etc.
I imagine a lot of new residents have this feeling at some point. It's still so early that I don't want to encourage him to switch into another specialty, but I do want to help. Has anyone else gone through this? What would you have/did you find helpful?