Hey SDN Forums,
What are your thoughts/experiences with or being a stay at home parent?
I've been seriously dating a girl for about two years now and am seriously considering marriage, but she is very adamant on being a stay at home Mom. Although she has had a previous job in finance, she strongly dislikes the work. It also has to do with the fact that her father was a physician and was able to provide for her and two other sisters on one salary while her Mom stayed at home, and that her older sister also married a physician and is also staying at home with their two kids. Naturally she feels that a SAHM is her calling.
I see a lot of cons with being a SAHM:
What if I get laid off? It's a LOT of pressure being the sole breadwinner.
Retirement- I feel like to will be difficult, if not impossible, to raise a family and still save for retirement and college all on one salary. My parents were very lucky and I was able to graduate from pharmacy school with minimal debt, and I'd like to pass that along to my kids
What happens after the kids are old in enough for pre-school? It'll be difficult to find another similar job after you've been off the market for 2-3 years.
To be honest, I don't think I can support a whole family on one pharmacist salary in this day & age and it's definitely something we need to talk about before we move forward with anything more serious. She has stated that she'd be ok to work part-time while raising kids, but again difficult to find part-time jobs in her field.
I wanted to get your opinion or if you had any experiences with or being a stay at home parent.
What are your thoughts/experiences with or being a stay at home parent?
I've been seriously dating a girl for about two years now and am seriously considering marriage, but she is very adamant on being a stay at home Mom. Although she has had a previous job in finance, she strongly dislikes the work. It also has to do with the fact that her father was a physician and was able to provide for her and two other sisters on one salary while her Mom stayed at home, and that her older sister also married a physician and is also staying at home with their two kids. Naturally she feels that a SAHM is her calling.
I see a lot of cons with being a SAHM:
What if I get laid off? It's a LOT of pressure being the sole breadwinner.
Retirement- I feel like to will be difficult, if not impossible, to raise a family and still save for retirement and college all on one salary. My parents were very lucky and I was able to graduate from pharmacy school with minimal debt, and I'd like to pass that along to my kids
What happens after the kids are old in enough for pre-school? It'll be difficult to find another similar job after you've been off the market for 2-3 years.
To be honest, I don't think I can support a whole family on one pharmacist salary in this day & age and it's definitely something we need to talk about before we move forward with anything more serious. She has stated that she'd be ok to work part-time while raising kids, but again difficult to find part-time jobs in her field.
I wanted to get your opinion or if you had any experiences with or being a stay at home parent.
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