Man, you need to find a better job too.
Or just recalibrate your ego and choose to be happy making gobs of money doing an interesting job.
I'm only ~7 years out of residency, still at my .mil job, but over the years I've moonlighted at 6 different places. Exactly one of them was rotten - a surgicenter where a couple of the surgeons were arrogant prima donnas, and sick insane non-ASC type patients were routinely booked for the militant shoulder chippy CRNAs to do whatever the hell they wanted while I just signed charts like a monkey in preop. I did a grand total of four days there and I didn't go back.
You don't have to be miserable. Move. That office building, clinical practice, and panel of patients you lament not owning makes you mobile. Move.
You're whining about missing your 3rd grader's school musical? What, did it get scheduled the day before? Have you zero interest or ability to plan your life? 8-12+ weeks of vacation per year not enough? Do what sane people do and scheduled the day off a month ahead of time.
You envy surgeons for their ability to schedule their lives? Come on. We're essentially shift workers. They own their patients and complications; I see surgeons do cases on Fridays that bring them back Friday night and/or Saturday for take backs for one reason or another ... but I'm not there with them. When I'm working I'm working, when I'm not I'm not. Sane people don't get pissy when they're working during times they scheduled themselves to work.
So much angst about CRNAs calling themselves Dr and patients who don't fully appreciate what an anesthesiology residency is. It must be hell being so insecure.
It's hard to live beneath your means, when those means are easily $250-300K on the low end?
That's not a problem with anesthesia; that's a problem with you! Same goes for marrying some whiny materialistic demanding wife, and then putting up with her or divorcing her and marrying another. That's you, not the job.
I'll stop now.