Social and emotional intelligence can be developed. I have treated (and been friends with in high school and even currently TBH) a number of people with high IQ and relatively lower social and emotional intelligence. I personally think that the autism label is somewhat ludicrous when applied to people with normal communication and cognition. When we pathologize relatively normal cognitive variations and give it the same label as someone who is non-verbal and intellectually disabled, I think we show our own deficiencies as a young science and do a great disservice. Oh, and when i say treated, mainly it was to deal with the emotional effects of being labelled, bullied, ostracized, etc and also to help them understand that they can learn this stuff just like anyone else does. It just didn't come naturally for them. Kind of like me and music or art. Not a natural, but I can do it.