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OK, so I have known this girl since last year. We were both juniors and she just all of a sudden asked for my number. I am slightly below average on the attractive scale; however, she is without a doubt the most attractive female in my life. So at first I thought it was the usual "hot girl convinces class nerd to give answers and write papers", I was wrong. She genuinely wanted to be friends and it was just a matter of days before we were together at least 3/4 of the day. It was a great friendship and I realized that I was at least somewhat "in love" with this girl, but she went through some major stuff right before I was about to confess (this incident involved a court hearing) and I realized she needed a friend more than a lover for the time being so I pushed my emotions to the side to support her 100%. All that is over now, we have both been accepted to great schools and are currently enjoying the summer (though we do not see as much of each other now that high school is over); in addition to, I confessed my emotions and she is giving it a chance. The only issue is, the relationship is being obstructed and not going anywhere. I offer to take her out every week, I buy her items she wants, I always have time for her, etc... yet her work and family schedule constantly get in the way of us spending time together. For example, yesterday she needed to borrow $25 for gas and we were able to talk for 15 minutes before her dad bombarded her phone with "where are you" texts; this was the first face to face conversation we have had in 2 weeks. And I honestly do not help matters all the time because I tried to make a lame joke to ease some stress she was having and somehow it ended with her eyes staring at me as I said, "...you see a seizure is a disruption of the normal electrical activity in the brain...", she is far from dumb, just not a biology nerd (like me). We are both packing our weekdays with school and work related activities for college so we can have our weekends free and hopefully see each other every week; however, I understand this will not be happening if I do not get past the "Friend zone" by late August. Are these the signs of something that is bound to fail? Or is there a way to show her my commitment without putting too much pressure on her to move further?
Thanks, and sorry if this thread wreaks of Pre-Med immaturity, but I really need the advice of like minded people here.
Thanks, and sorry if this thread wreaks of Pre-Med immaturity, but I really need the advice of like minded people here.