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I told a staff member that she was more beautiful in person that over the phone (we had talked a lot and she told me quite a bit about herself before we met, including where she lived, her future plans and other things) when I first met her I made the comment followed by a hug (she pulled her hair all the way back so I could see her entire face); when we sat down to speak I asked her age (which she responded by saying it wasn't important). I asked if I offended her with the question; she stated no and then lied to me about scheduling classes.During our second meeting she knew what she did and began acting weird; I asked if I made her uncomfortable and she said the firs time we met she was (liar), I apologized. Most of the time she avoided me while other times she became confrontational.
She screwed up a bunch of things related to my Academic track continuously that I didn't report to the school because it could cause me more issues (and she began making smart remarks that I would still be able to go to med school despite her carelessness and lies), creating a trail of mistakes that I have to clear up because she didn't check pre-reqs when registering my classes at the school. She then transferred me to another adviser with no explanation; when I attempted to make an appointment with her through my new adviser, she reported me to the schools Judiciary board (roughly 3 weeks after the beautiful and age comment) and I received an emailed warning stating that a staff member reported that I made inappropriate comments. It asked that I reference the student code of conduct and advised that this was a 'warning' and would not go on my permanent record. I've seen her as few times since but haven't spoken to her. Should I be worried about this at all? Since its not going on my record it should not be able to hurt me right? I decided to leave the situation alone. Any thoughts?
Your question is "should I be worried about this"?
From your description it sounds like this will only be a warning, and as such won't cause you any problems.
However, it also seems from your description that you feel this is all blown out of proportion. IMHO, it is not. The comment you made is completely inappropriate. So "leaving the situation alone" isn't a great answer, unless by that you mean that you've learned your lesson. You need to be professional at all times. If you make similar comments to colleagues -- other students, faculty, nurses, etc -- expect the hammer of doom to fall the next time.