Serious Dating Poll for Males.

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my preference for a female is

  • A doctor like me

    Votes: 71 31.6%
  • An RN, assistant

    Votes: 19 8.4%
  • different feild

    Votes: 126 56.0%
  • i'm not sure (please don't pick this, just think about your ideal choice, ok?!)

    Votes: 9 4.0%

  • Total voters
    225
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BeatrixKiddo

This is an important issue which I would really appreciate your input on.

For the male residents, do you picture yourself marrying another female doctor, a nurse/assistant, or someone totally out of the health field? I've been wondering this for a while, and I'm posting here because I don't care what the dental and premed guys think. Thanks for your time!

BK
 
The "Ideal" for me is someone in the medical field who understands my work requirements and weird hours, but not necessarily a physician.

But again, the MOST important thing for me is her PERSONALITY. I would take a "sweet heart" surgeon over a bitchy nurse anytime.

Good Luck!
 
Oh ok, but personality aside, you would prefer someone with a less demanding job?
 
my ideal person has NOTHING to do with the medical field. they are like a teacher/writer kinda deal 🙂
 
Oh ok, but personality aside, you would prefer someone with a less demanding job?

What a man looks for in a partner is very very different from a woman's outlook.

The average doctor woman has less time than the average non-doctor woman. When a guy looks for a partner, he want someone who pays attention to him and wants to spend time with him and share some of his tasks in his life. Woman doctors on average have less time to pay attention, have less time to spend with the guys and have their own set of problems (like work hours) and so have less time to help out with life tasks like (calling for bills, picking up kids, help cleaning the house...) I am not saying that men don't have the same problems as women... and I am not saying that women dont want the same thing as men.... but what I am saying is that at home... a guy needs to feel like a guy.. else he will find someone else who will make him feel like a guy..... this is even worse for male doctors cause the majority of them have dominant personality and have a need to feel like the king of the house at home.

The role of being assertive at work and not-so-assertive at home is a hard role to play for women doctors and can be a huge deterant for the male doctors who need to feel dominant at home.

There is also the minor point that men are more visual than women with their turn ons and what not and lets face it... women docs are at a disadvantage when it comes to that.. it's hard to keep the looks with the stress of the career.

Just my two cents.. you asked for the average joe-doc's opinion.
 
What a man looks for in a partner is very very different from a woman's outlook.

The average doctor woman has less time than the average non-doctor woman. When a guy looks for a partner, he want someone who pays attention to him and wants to spend time with him and share some of his tasks in his life. Woman doctors on average have less time to pay attention, have less time to spend with the guys and have their own set of problems (like work hours) and so have less time to help out with life tasks like (calling for bills, picking up kids, help cleaning the house...) I am not saying that men don't have the same problems as women... and I am not saying that women dont want the same thing as men.... but what I am saying is that at home... a guy needs to feel like a guy.. else he will find someone else who will make him feel like a guy..... this is even worse for male doctors cause the majority of them have dominant personality and have a need to feel like the king of the house at home.

The role of being assertive at work and not-so-assertive at home is a hard role to play for women doctors and can be a huge deterant for the male doctors who need to feel dominant at home.

There is also the minor point that men are more visual than women with their turn ons and what not and lets face it... women docs are at a disadvantage when it comes to that.. it's hard to keep the looks with the stress of the career.

Just my two cents.. you asked for the average joe-doc's opinion.

You're a guy, right? Just checking. I agree with all that. Do you think it's too uncommon for a female doctor to just want to work less hours, maybe just 2 or 3 days a week so she can stay in her field, but cut down on the stress of a full time job? Or is this something you would never expect?
 
You're a guy, right? Just checking. I agree with all that. Do you think it's too uncommon for a female doctor to just want to work less hours, maybe just 2 or 3 days a week so she can stay in her field, but cut down on the stress of a full time job? Or is this something you would never expect?

I think the majority say that... but very few end up doing that... It's hard to work 2-3 days a week when you got 200k+ loans.
 
I dont pick or go looking for a female base on my profession and her profession. If we click and there's good chemistry I wont worried about her profession.
 
I always thought a doctor and an internist and an occupational therapist would make a good couple.
 
doctor+doctor = HUGE DEBT, hence I will say different profession.
 
I ended up with a total non-medical guy... and it's great. He takes care of me and I help support him. We listen to each other, but by and large his career is secondary to mine. Not that he isn't important, he just doesn't care as much about his job.

I also know that I'll never give up my job. I've flat out told him that if one parent has to give up his/her job for a kiddo - it won't be me. My identity is so wrapped up with being a doctor that I could not tolerate staying at home. I've been under-employed for a while now, while waiting for my TX license, and my unhappiness has only underlined my need to work.

He's great and we work hard to make sure both of us are as happy as possible. That means I work. We wouldn't be able to function as a couple if he was a driven MD guy. Instead, he's a laid back software dude working at a job he likes, but doesn't need.

So it works. And we've been together for nearly 12 years.
 
I ended up with a total non-medical guy... and it's great. He takes care of me and I help support him. We listen to each other, but by and large his career is secondary to mine. Not that he isn't important, he just doesn't care as much about his job.

I also know that I'll never give up my job. I've flat out told him that if one parent has to give up his/her job for a kiddo - it won't be me. My identity is so wrapped up with being a doctor that I could not tolerate staying at home. I've been under-employed for a while now, while waiting for my TX license, and my unhappiness has only underlined my need to work.

He's great and we work hard to make sure both of us are as happy as possible. That means I work. We wouldn't be able to function as a couple if he was a driven MD guy. Instead, he's a laid back software dude working at a job he likes, but doesn't need.

So it works. And we've been together for nearly 12 years.

Oh.
I want to be a doctor but I don't want to end up like you.
 
doctor+doctor = HUGE DEBT, hence I will say different profession.

Debt is nothing but a four letter word. If I have debt: I have debt, it all ends when I die.

Anyway, in case you guys haven't figured out by now, this thread is about me. As a recap, twice as many doctors would rather marry a librarian than another doctor. I know what this suggests, but I also know what it doesn't suggest... I only have to marry one individual man, not an average consensus of the whole population. God speed. To myself.

Oh! I just thought of another poll question. Brilliant.
 
Sorry to intrude on your males-only poll, but I just couldn't resist.

What a man looks for in a partner is very very different from a woman's outlook.

The average doctor woman has less time than the average non-doctor woman. When a guy looks for a partner, he want someone who pays attention to him and wants to spend time with him and share some of his tasks in his life. Woman doctors on average have less time to pay attention, have less time to spend with the guys and have their own set of problems (like work hours) and so have less time to help out with life tasks like (calling for bills, picking up kids, help cleaning the house...) I am not saying that men don't have the same problems as women... and I am not saying that women dont want the same thing as men.... but what I am saying is that at home... a guy needs to feel like a guy.. else he will find someone else who will make him feel like a guy..... this is even worse for male doctors cause the majority of them have dominant personality and have a need to feel like the king of the house at home.

The role of being assertive at work and not-so-assertive at home is a hard role to play for women doctors and can be a huge deterant for the male doctors who need to feel dominant at home.

There is also the minor point that men are more visual than women with their turn ons and what not and lets face it... women docs are at a disadvantage when it comes to that.. it's hard to keep the looks with the stress of the career.

Just my two cents.. you asked for the average joe-doc's opinion.

Faebinder does have a point. There have been numerous studies indicating that marriages tend to be more successful (less likely to end in divorce, greater "happiness"), if the woman in the relationship is less educated, earns less money, and is generally dumber than the man. See http://agreatnotion.livejournal.com/553587.html
for a somewhat controversial article on Forbes.com.
As a female physician, you are (statistically speaking, at least) much less likely to be happily married to a doctor than a non-physician. I can't recall the study for that, but I do remember reading that doctor-doctor relationships are more likely to end in divorce than (male)doctor-(female)nondoctor relationships. Finding a partner who is understanding and compatible can be unusually difficult for female physicians, and sometimes requires a somewhat unconventional division of labor. That is why I find it odd that you are sort of critical of doctawife:

Oh.
I want to be a doctor but I don't want to end up like you.

Please clarify what it is about her passage that bothers you. It sounds to me like she is very happy (as long as she's working😉 )and has found something that works very well for her and her partner.

If your primary goal in life is to marry a doctor (and stay married), clearly you should go the teacher route. Study at the local medical school library. Make friends with female med students so you can get to know their classmates. Go to bars near the hospital. And remember who was the first to be eliminated on the last season of the Bachelor.
 
Sorry to intrude on your males-only poll, but I just couldn't resist.



Faebinder does have a point. There have been numerous studies indicating that marriages tend to be more successful (less likely to end in divorce, greater "happiness"), if the woman in the relationship is less educated, earns less money, and is generally dumber than the man. See http://agreatnotion.livejournal.com/553587.html
for a somewhat controversial article on Forbes.com.
As a female physician, you are (statistically speaking, at least) much less likely to be happily married to a doctor than a non-physician. I can't recall the study for that, but I do remember reading that doctor-doctor relationships are more likely to end in divorce than (male)doctor-(female)nondoctor relationships. Finding a partner who is understanding and compatible can be unusually difficult for female physicians, and sometimes requires a somewhat unconventional division of labor. That is why I find it odd that you are sort of critical of doctawife:



Please clarify what it is about her passage that bothers you. It sounds to me like she is very happy (as long as she's working😉 )and has found something that works very well for her and her partner.

If your primary goal in life is to marry a doctor (and stay married), clearly you should go the teacher route. Study at the local medical school library. Make friends with female med students so you can get to know their classmates. Go to bars near the hospital. And remember who was the first to be eliminated on the last season of the Bachelor.

Holy smokes!!
 
I ended up with a total non-medical guy... and it's great. He takes care of me and I help support him. We listen to each other, but by and large his career is secondary to mine. Not that he isn't important, he just doesn't care as much about his job.

I also know that I'll never give up my job. I've flat out told him that if one parent has to give up his/her job for a kiddo - it won't be me. My identity is so wrapped up with being a doctor that I could not tolerate staying at home. I've been under-employed for a while now, while waiting for my TX license, and my unhappiness has only underlined my need to work.

He's great and we work hard to make sure both of us are as happy as possible. That means I work. We wouldn't be able to function as a couple if he was a driven MD guy. Instead, he's a laid back software dude working at a job he likes, but doesn't need.

So it works. And we've been together for nearly 12 years.

A-freaking-men. this is the kinda match I recommend to all my female counterparts that cant figure out why Dr. so-and-so just doesn't want a relationship with them. The problem is that ALL (or almost all, you seem to have overcome years of evolution in the name of logic and common sense) women are attracted to men in high power positions....and a relationship with two people in high power positions is much more prone to having problems. Luckily most men are attracted to a nice rack and a pretty face who isnt so dumb its annoying. I myself went for another type of doctor. Get yourselves a PhD chick boys, smart enough to keep up, and the nice schedule of lab/teaching work.👍
 
Sorry to intrude on your males-only poll, but I just couldn't resist.

Please clarify what it is about her passage that bothers you. It sounds to me like she is very happy (as long as she's working😉 )and has found something that works very well for her and her partner.

If your primary goal in life is to marry a doctor (and stay married), clearly you should go the teacher route. Study at the local medical school library. Make friends with female med students so you can get to know their classmates. Go to bars near the hospital. And remember who was the first to be eliminated on the last season of the Bachelor.
Brilliant. I won't lie, I only watch the last few episodes of The Bachelor so please refresh my memory. What I didn't like about her situ was that her job was too critical to the relationship, I want to be able to take time off and not worry about my household depending on my income.
 
I know what this suggests, but I also know what it doesn't suggest... I only have to marry one individual man, not an average consensus of the whole population. God speed. To myself.

You get divorced enough times you just might build up a consensus of your own. But go ahead and beat your head against that brick wall anyway.

here's the major problem with your poll: you assume all the respondants are equally good looking/socially sophisticated. Has it occured to you that the minority of Dr's that say they are willing to marry another doctor are hopeless losers that will take whatever they can get? My guess is the ones that you are attracted to are good looking, in more competative fields and even MORE prone to running, fast, from other female physicians. But good luck, let us know how it works out.
 
You get divorced enough times you just might build up a consensus of your own. But go ahead and beat your head against that brick wall anyway.

here's the major problem with your poll: you assume all the respondants are equally good looking/socially sophisticated. Has it occured to you that the minority of Dr's that say they are willing to marry another doctor are hopeless losers that will take whatever they can get? My guess is the ones that you are attracted to are good looking, in more competative fields and even MORE prone to running, fast, from other female physicians. But good luck, let us know how it works out.

Great point. Lord knows the medical profession has it's own fair share of hideous looking people.
 
Definitely prefer women from a different field. Mainly cause I want to have a life outside of medicine. It's nice to be able to talk to your girlfriend about something your not involved in all day. It keeps things much more interesting. Plus, I'm more of a calculated introvert, so I like women that are much more extroverted and sponatneous. They are much easier to find outside of medicine/science. Then you have the looks. Most science chicks I've met were dragged through the ugly tree forrest and hung on a 200 ft sequoia. Ok, well not that bad, but pretty much every guy knows what I'm talking about. It just seems like most medical people tend to be overly focussed on their career to the point where they don't take care of themselves or do much else outside of medicine. I really want to be able to come home and leave all the crap from work behind.

As for the female success thing, all the better. I would much prefer a woman who is more successful and driven than me at whatever she enjoys. After all, looks fade eventually, so in the end there better be a lot more to the other person.
 
I picked up a woman in a different field who has more time off. I deal with medicine all day long. The last thing I want to do is come home to talk about more medicine. This may just be me. When I'm at work, I like to work hard. When I'm off of work, I like to forget that work even exists. I am not one of these people that think medicine is a calling and I did not get into medical school by pulling a stethoscope out of a stone with light shining on it (king arthur reference for those of you who will be scratching your heads and looking for stones with stethoscopes in them).
 
I have noticed that most of the women residents I have met are married/in a serious relationship. I was sort of surprised by that, but there it is. Alot of them are married to doctors. Pretty cool.

I think many met as students and stayed together. Most women I know are involved/married to equally professional men, altho some are married to more creative types. I think it's pretty neat that women docs can also have normal lives outside of medicine, totally doable from what I am seeing. 👍
 
Brilliant. I won't lie, I only watch the last few episodes of The Bachelor so please refresh my memory. What I didn't like about her situ was that her job was too critical to the relationship, I want to be able to take time off and not worry about my household depending on my income.

When The Bachelor was an ER doc, the first woman eliminated was an oncologist. (Granted, she was a bit goofy, but I still thought she was a sympathetic character and actually epitomized some of the conflicts that woman doctors face and the ideas that are expressed in this thread). The other women doctors followed quickly. I believe the Chosen Woman was a teacher or something similar.

I don't think there was anything in her post to suggest that her household depended on her income. I got the impression that she loved her job and wanted to work. Am I missing something?
 
I picked up a woman in a different field who has more time off. I deal with medicine all day long. The last thing I want to do is come home to talk about more medicine. This may just be me. When I'm at work, I like to work hard. When I'm off of work, I like to forget that work even exists. I am not one of these people that think medicine is a calling and I did not get into medical school by pulling a stethoscope out of a stone with light shining on it (king arthur reference for those of you who will be scratching your heads and looking for stones with stethoscopes in them).

👍 I picked a girl in Allied Health, whatever the hell that means, which I have found to be perfect. She knows just enough to understand what I am saying, but not enough to truly care. Hence we usually talk about other stuff, thank god.

And I thought it was a Clash of the Titans reference. Guess I should have read books instead of watching basic cable as a child. 🙁
 
I've dated fellow residents (in my field and others), nurses, and a PT. I think I'd like to branch out a little.
 
There is also the minor point that men are more visual than women with their turn ons and what not and lets face it... women docs are at a disadvantage when it comes to that.. it's hard to keep the looks with the stress of the career.


You're kidding right?

As a matter of fact, now that I earn more and have better hours post-residency, the upkeep is even easier. I can afford and have the time to have manicures and pedicures, my hair cut regularly, buy cute clothes, work-out, and even...should the need arise, afford to have a little "work done".

Stress doesn't kill someone's looks - lack of attention and lack of good genes does.
 
for all those female medical students/resident etc. who might be getting a little depressed reading this thread, consider the following-

(donning the frame-******ant suit)

would you rather be married to a boring/less intelligent guy whose best quality is that he can "deal" with the fact you are smarter and more successful, or would you rather stay single, maintain your social life, focus on your career, and find a cute/smart, uh hem, "sperm donor" to have cute/smart children. think of it as "the hollywood way". and remember, the "MD" is the ultimately transportable/versatile type of high level training out there. if you want to take time off/cut down on working hours because you are a single parent, there is always a way to make this happen. it might require a pay cut, but we are talking about a doctor's salary.

now don't everyone get too pissed that i am advocating a less than ideal lifestyle. i just wholeheartely believe that marrying for fear of becoming a spinster is a guaranteed way to make yourself, and that poor young man, really miserable.
 
People! You only need ONE spouse, and to make such stereotypical statements only further the idea that YOU ARE NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO MARRY! Finding a mate isn't about her career or her looks: these things CHANGE! It is finding someone that you want to talk to when you're most angry/hurt/disappointed/happy/thrilled...etc. It is about wanting to see how this person will change in the next fifty years!
Just to dispute that female physicians don't have time to take care of their spouses: back in med school, my husband was in b-school, and he became known as the guy "most likely to eat gourmet out of a tupperware." He still gets envious looks at lunch time when his collegues are getting take out and he has delicious home made meals. During residency, I made our baby son's first foods. After work today, I went Christmas gift shopping for his family, came home and cooked a roast chicken, home made dressing, roasted bell peppers, and then went and picked up our son from daycare. So don't tell me that lady docs are all neglecting their families.
It is true, that I have made decisions to not work full-time, that I don't want an academic career, but there are also nurses/aids/whatever else who want to take over the world and choose that over families.
Bottom line, each woman is different, don't judge her on what she does for a living, assuming what she does for a living is legal...
 
You're kidding right?

As a matter of fact, now that I earn more and have better hours post-residency, the upkeep is even easier. I can afford and have the time to have manicures and pedicures, my hair cut regularly, buy cute clothes, work-out, and even...should the need arise, afford to have a little "work done".

Stress doesn't kill someone's looks - lack of attention and lack of good genes does.

I disagree and mostly because you address a different issue.

You claim money helps looks and we 100% agree there... more money will make you more beautiful and the reason why is just as you stated.....

But this is not the topic...

Let us take a female doc making $200k a year and a female owner of multiple rental appartment making a net of $200k a year.

Hmm... chances are the female appartment rental owner is a lot pretties because she is not as killer stressed as a doc. She definitely doesnt do call on weekends at 12 midnight and definitely didn't go through residency and med school hell that destroys looks and money pockets.

I will further argue your own point by saying... docs go through med school and residency, which are a period of time where they are crunched by money issues... and as we stated.. lack of money destroys beauty and it will be hard to catch up on what other women have upkept for a while. Taking off the wrinkles/weights/stretch marks is not that easy without "work".

No need to be offended... don't worry.. I still think smart surgeons can look beautiful.... just like they do on scrubs.. hehehehe. :meanie:
 
People! You only need ONE spouse, and to make such stereotypical statements only further the idea that YOU ARE NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO MARRY! Finding a mate isn't about her career or her looks: these things CHANGE! It is finding someone that you want to talk to when you're most angry/hurt/disappointed/happy/thrilled...etc. It is about wanting to see how this person will change in the next fifty years!
Just to dispute that female physicians don't have time to take care of their spouses: back in med school, my husband was in b-school, and he became known as the guy "most likely to eat gourmet out of a tupperware." He still gets envious looks at lunch time when his collegues are getting take out and he has delicious home made meals. During residency, I made our baby son's first foods. After work today, I went Christmas gift shopping for his family, came home and cooked a roast chicken, home made dressing, roasted bell peppers, and then went and picked up our son from daycare. So don't tell me that lady docs are all neglecting their families.
It is true, that I have made decisions to not work full-time, that I don't want an academic career, but there are also nurses/aids/whatever else who want to take over the world and choose that over families.
Bottom line, each woman is different, don't judge her on what she does for a living, assuming what she does for a living is legal...

You're my hero, that's awesome. A woman's priorities are what she makes them. There are hair dressors that neglect their families and use their free time selfishly. And I agree you can't generalize this by career, I did want to know if there was a stereotype about female doctors, but in the real world you have to talk to the woman to see what she thinks is most important in her life.
 
I disagree and mostly because you address a different issue.

You claim money helps looks and we 100% agree there... more money will make you more beautiful and the reason why is just as you stated.....

But this is not the topic...

Let us take a female doc making $200k a year and a female owner of multiple rental appartment making a net of $200k a year.

Hmm... chances are the female appartment rental owner is a lot pretties because she is not as killer stressed as a doc. She definitely doesnt do call on weekends at 12 midnight and definitely didn't go through residency and med school hell that destroys looks and money pockets.

I will further argue your own point by saying... docs go through med school and residency, which are a period of time where they are crunched by money issues... and as we stated.. lack of money destroys beauty and it will be hard to catch up on what other women have upkept for a while. Taking off the wrinkles/weights/stretch marks is not that easy without "work".

No need to be offended... don't worry.. I still think smart surgeons can look beautiful.... just like they do on scrubs.. hehehehe. :meanie:


Not offended, just disagree.

The apartment owner may not take call, but then again, neither do I, nor do many female physicians in low-call specialties.

I don't necessarily buy it that being an "apartment owner" is less stressful - real estate is a pretty stressful field, after all.

However, for the sake of argument, it could be any field for comparison. I don't think the issue of upkeep for most female residents/physicains has to do with money, but rather either:

a) a general lack of interest in the area, which will not change - this is true for many females in every area of business. Just as there are homemakers with no interest in wearing make-up or doing something to enhance their beauty, there are physicians who feel the same

b) the money paid during residency is not so little that one cannot purchase some sunblock, a little lipgloss and mascara. I would counter that a lack of attention to physical enhancement during residency is more a function of time and concern over one's appearance (or lack thereof) rather than cost of make-up and clothes.

c) since residency is generally over during the early to mid 30s (or later for some of us), this isn't "too late" to re move wrinkles - either via surgery or some other restorative procdure, lose weight, etc.

Now I will accept that compared to the general public, BOTH male and female, tend to be average looking. There are obvious exceptions - we've all seen drop dead gorgeous male and female med stuidents and physicians. In our society, the beautiful female has less impetus and encouragement to pursue higher education, but to say this means that only the unattractive study medicine or that the study in and of itself makes one unattractive, is a bit of a reach, IMHO. And while you may see more of the drop dead gorgeous types in the 'real world", you are unlikely to find a physician, male or female, who is as unattractive as some patients - ie, teeth missing, dirty clothes, etc.

At any rate, I'm not sure where I am going with this but save it to say that it appears to me that male and female physicians are just as attractive as the general population and that training is no harder on females than it is males. Do you think male residents escape the weight gain, wrinkles, chronic fatigue which you associate with residency training?
 
I can afford and have the time to have manicures and pedicures, my hair cut regularly, buy cute clothes, work-out, and even...should the need arise, afford to have a little "work done".

What?!? You told me they were real! :laugh:

(Just kidding! Don't ban me. 😉)
 
Do you think male residents escape the weight gain, wrinkles, chronic fatigue which you associate with residency training?

Of course we do! 😀

We come out looking better than when we started. :laugh:
 
So basically you all lost the poll. Thanks for voting.

😕

You made this poll, and asked us for our opinion...and now because you do not like the results, you are telling us "you all lost"?!🙄
 
God, what a depressing thread.

Hopefully the male replies on here are at least somewhat self-selecting.

I actually use the "I'm a doctor line" to run off losers at bars, but most of the quality, educated men I've met like that I have something to contribute to conversations, if that means anything to other women reading this.
 
The immaturity displayed by some of the females in this thread is amazing.

Just because you do not like the results of this poll, you resort to poking fun, name calling, and acting out.

Wow..so if a male CHOOSES to marry a female who is not a doctor, then he is a "loser"?!!!🙄

So what do you call a female who chooses to marry a male who is not a doctor?.....Would you call her "stupid/******" just because she chooses not to marry a doctor?🙄
 
I ended up with a total non-medical guy... and it's great. He takes care of me and I help support him. We listen to each other, but by and large his career is secondary to mine. Not that he isn't important, he just doesn't care as much about his job.

I also know that I'll never give up my job. I've flat out told him that if one parent has to give up his/her job for a kiddo - it won't be me. My identity is so wrapped up with being a doctor that I could not tolerate staying at home. I've been under-employed for a while now, while waiting for my TX license, and my unhappiness has only underlined my need to work.

He's great and we work hard to make sure both of us are as happy as possible. That means I work. We wouldn't be able to function as a couple if he was a driven MD guy. Instead, he's a laid back software dude working at a job he likes, but doesn't need.

So it works. And we've been together for nearly 12 years.

I can relate to a lot of this. [I think I'm a little less wrapped up in the whole doctor thing than you imply you are--although I get the impression you've been doing this longer and it kind of weaves it's way in a little more each year I agree.] This is pretty close to what S & I had before his death however, I also admit there are certain aspects of childrearing I at least right now think I will not give up even for medicine. The important thing is that it works for both of you and it sounds like it totally does so kudos to both you and your husband.
 
The immaturity displayed by some of the females in this thread is amazing.

Just because you do not like the results of this poll, you resort to poking fun, name calling, and acting out.

Wow..so if a male CHOOSES to marry a female who is not a doctor, then he is a "loser"?!!!🙄

So what do you call a female who chooses to marry a male who is not a doctor?.....Would you call her "stupid/******" just because she chooses not to marry a doctor?🙄

I would hope that we would all work to build lives with people we loved and respected because of who they are and how they treat us and the world. There are jerks in every profession, medicine included (perhaps statistically more even) and today's trash collector may also be the mother or the father of the next nobel peace winner, the one who finds a cure for ALS or HIV etc. We all have the potential to make the world a better place or to bring those around us down.

I'd marry a maintenance man if I loved him and I'd marry a surgeon if I loved him (and I'd realize that this would have logistical consequences on some aspects of our family but I believe that if we loved, respected, and communicated somehow we and our family would survive and thrive).
 
The immaturity displayed by some of the females in this thread is amazing.

Just because you do not like the results of this poll, you resort to poking fun, name calling, and acting out.

Wow..so if a male CHOOSES to marry a female who is not a doctor, then he is a "loser"?!!!🙄

I've reread this thread and perhaps I am missing or just didn't see that - can you point out the response in which males who don't marry female doctors are called losers or someone has called others names?😕

My only objection was to the comment which implied that the reason male doctors don't marry female colleagues is that we are (paraphrasing here) haggard and worn out looking by the end of residency.
 
I've reread this thread and perhaps I am missing or just didn't see that - can you point out the response in which males who don't marry female doctors are called losers or someone has called others names?😕

My only objection was to the comment which implied that the reason male doctors don't marry female colleagues is that we are (paraphrasing here) haggard and worn out looking by the end of residency.

I think perhaps he was referring to the post he quoted by the OP where she stated that everyone lost....I'm not really sure otherwise though. Also for what it's worth some of my male colleagues looked a little "haggard and worn" by the end of residency as well. 😉
 
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