did my mom ruin my chances off a waitlist?

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0987 said:
I was recently placed on a waitlist, and my mom went behind my back, and sent an email to the admissions office, basically saying that 'I' have multiple acceptances, so tell me my "chance ie % of acceptance so I can move on to other choices and not put my future on standby"

English is not her first language, so there was a TON of grammar, punctuation, and spelling errors. I dont have any acceptances either, and the email she sent it from has my last name, so if they looked it up, they would think it was me.

what should I do?
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Wow

I would call them ASAP and be honest about the situation. Every med school KNOWS if you have or haven't been accepted to medical school. They also know which medical schools you have already been accepted to. If they check and see that you have blatantly lied, I wouldn't be surprised if your chances of coming off the waitlist are shot.

Call ASAP and explain the situation thoroughly and you should be fine. Keep us updated.
 
Helicopter parenting to that extent is just terrible news; it will make you look like you're not in control of your own life. From what you've described, that message your mom sent can only draw negative attention toward you. Personally, I would sit down and have a serious discussion with your mom about the ramifications of her actions.

As for the damage, what's done is done. I feel like trying to do additional damage control would just fan the flames at this point.> Then again, you might not have much to lose at this point by contacting the admissions office...

0987 said:
I was recently placed on a waitlist, and my mom went behind my back, and sent an email to the admissions office, basically saying that 'I' have multiple acceptances, so tell me my "chance ie % of acceptance so I can move on to other choices and not put my future on standby"

English is not her first language, so there was a TON of grammar, punctuation, and spelling errors. I dont have any acceptances either, and the email she sent it from has my last name, so if they looked it up, they would think it was me.

what should I do?
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Yeah, that's pretty bad. I agree with Cali, you have to call them and explain it. Everybody knows that this process is incredibly stressful, for both applicants and their families. I don't think it'll end up having too much of an effect.

Then, you need to set your mom straight.

GL!
 
0987 said:
I was recently placed on a waitlist, and my mom went behind my back, and sent an email to the admissions office, basically saying that I have multiple acceptances, and asked them "do you know what are my chance ie % of acceptance so I can move on to other choices and not put my future on standby"

English is not her first language, so there was a TON of grammar, punctuation, and spelling errors. I dont have any acceptances either, and the email she sent it from has my last name, so if they looked it up, they would think it was me.

what should I do?
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First - You basically send the schools an email they want to get in contact with over the internet. So, unless you used THAT email, they would probably not consider it yours.

Second - I would still try to contact one of the admissions office people and just say that you found out someone prank emailed them recently and to disregard that email.

However, considering you have your own email for them to contact you, I wouldn't honestly sweat it terribly.
 
:scared: wow.

This is just so wrong in so many ways. If I was in your shoes, I would have sent an e-mail out apologizing stating that I had no part in it and my mom just wanted the best for me, but because she doesn't necessarily understand the nuances of what goes into the medical school application, or how exactly the waitlist works, she made a poor decision by herself and she didn't mean to offend anyone.
 
Kaustikos said:
First - You basically send the schools an email they want to get in contact with over the internet. So, unless you used THAT email, they would probably not consider it yours.
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Maybe I misunderstood. I thought that the mom had used her own email but mentioned that the applicant had multiple acceptances and wanted to know their chances? Or did the mom pretend to be some other random applicant and asked this question just to get some info about general chances of coming off the waitlist?
 
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reminds me of an old thread in the mcat forum where the mom emailed the aamc demanding they be given more frequently etc... also terrible grammar.
 
I'm so glad my parents have their own lives.
 
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Kaustikos said:
First - You basically send the schools an email they want to get in contact with over the internet. So, unless you used THAT email, they would probably not consider it yours.

Second - I would still try to contact one of the admissions office people and just say that you found out someone prank emailed them recently and to disregard that email.

However, considering you have your own email for them to contact you, I wouldn't honestly sweat it terribly.
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i'd say this is the best action you can take.
 
I don't think I'd draw any more attention to it than necessary. If she didn't send it out from your email account, they probably won't consider it yours. But I would definitely sit down and have a serious talk with your mom...wow. It's bad enough when parents do things like this to kids applying to college, but to medical school? Parents should play a supportive role and nothing more. I'm lucky that my parents have been fantastic about the whole process. Neither of them would even think to do something like this.
 
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0987 said:
I was recently placed on a waitlist, and my mom went behind my back, and sent an email to the admissions office, basically saying that I have multiple acceptances, and asked them "do you know what are my chance ie % of acceptance so I can move on to other choices and not put my future on standby"

English is not her first language, so there was a TON of grammar, punctuation, and spelling errors. I dont have any acceptances either, and the email she sent it from has my last name, so if they looked it up, they would think it was me.

what should I do?
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😱A serious talk with her is definitely in order. I'm sure that this is not the first time a school has recieved an email from someones parents asking them to admit their son/daughter. Are you sure she just sent this email to one school or did she send it to multiple schools? I would just email them apologizing and say that you did not send that email and you were not aware of it being sent until you discovered it in your outbox after your alternate email address was broken into. You don't even have to say it was your mom who sent it. I would follow this up with a letter of intent also.

Is your dad around? Could he talk to her and make sure she won't do something like this again?
 
0987 said:
I was recently placed on a waitlist, and my mom went behind my back, and sent an email to the admissions office, basically saying that I have multiple acceptances, and asked them "do you know what are my chance ie % of acceptance so I can move on to other choices and not put my future on standby"

English is not her first language, so there was a TON of grammar, punctuation, and spelling errors. I dont have any acceptances either, and the email she sent it from has my last name, so if they looked it up, they would think it was me.

what should I do?
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Well first of all, I think you should talk to your mom and tell her it's NOT OK to do things like this. This is probably in the top 5 of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard on SDN.
 
I definitely don't think OP can just ignore this. Sure, the office replied with the generic email brushing it off, but lack of a correspondance from OP might suggest his/her tacit approval of mom's methods
 
Chops369 said:
Well first of all, I think you should talk to your mom and tell her it's NOT OK to do things like this. This is probably in the top 5 of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard on SDN.
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i have to agree. and that's saying a lot.. we should actually have a thread to archive these gems.
 
Lol this incident is so outrageous. I agree with others- you should call them.
 
Believe it or not this happens all the time. The school will not pay any attention to it unless it came from your email. People try and sabotage each other all the time.

(source: adcom member relative).
 
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theWUbear said:
I definitely don't think OP can just ignore this. Sure, the office replied with the generic email brushing it off, but lack of a correspondance from OP might suggest his/her tacit approval of mom's methods
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I also wouldn't ignore it, for mental health reasons. If it was just sent to the admissions office and not from you then it probably wasn't placed in your file. HOWEVER, do you want to constantly worry about it???? Find out.
 
Did she say you have other MD acceptances or osteopathic? Because they cant find out if you have osteopathic acceptances or not, but if she said MD and lied, you are kind of screwed..hopefully they will not notice this.
 
theWUbear said:
I definitely don't think OP can just ignore this. Sure, the office replied with the generic email brushing it off, but lack of a correspondance from OP might suggest his/her tacit approval of mom's methods
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110% agree with this. It could turn into a "maturity" issue if you don't call and address this. Adcoms run on whatever information they have, and that often leads to assumptions. This is not something you want them to make assumptions about. Call right now. AND DONT LIE. Don't come up with some BS excuse about a prank email. Just tell them the truth! Let them know you had nothing to do with it. It's completely understandable, and you shouldn't be scared to just call. Dealing with your mom...that's a whole different story.
 
That is what you get for having a nosy mom (i have one, too 😀). If I were you, I would have done everything secretly, not mentioning the particular schools that you interviewed at. I would make a trip (if you can) to the admissions office and apologize in person. If not, just send a brief e-mail and a card and a peppermint in the mail.....
 
RookTookIt said:
Maybe I misunderstood. I thought that the mom had used her own email but mentioned that the applicant had multiple acceptances and wanted to know their chances? Or did the mom pretend to be some other random applicant and asked this question just to get some info about general chances of coming off the waitlist?
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She pretended to be him.

And OP, after you told me that info, I wouldn't try anything to pressing. Like I said, you should've included your primary email/phone number for them to get in contact with you about these situations. Adcoms will use this email to let you know what's up!
 
Play it off as what it is: send a note to the admissions office asking them to ignore that email because it was not authorized by you. As others mentioned, it shouldn't really be a problem because it wasn't your email account that was used to send the message.
 
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Your mommy just loves you...that's all...
 
Sit your mom down and have a talk. A very serious talk.
 
In some ways, I feel your pain, my parents have made crazy and preposterous suggestions to me for this application cycle. Luckily for me they know that I would flip my lid on them if they ever actually tried to take action into their own hands.

Call the school and explain your situation, it was a huge blunder on her part to try to pull something like this. I think you should be OK though just as long as you clarify what happened.
 
Honestly, even if you did explain the situation fully...they'd still probably hold it somewhat against you
 
I actually just got accepted 🙂 NYMC class of 2015!
 
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lol did mommy's email actually get you in?
 
Now people are going to read this thread and think that in order to get off of a school's waitlist, they should have their parents email the admissions office.

I'm so sorry LizzyM/Catalystik/other adcoms.
 
Slowpoke said:
:scared: wow.

This is just so wrong in so many ways. If I was in your shoes, I would have sent an e-mail out apologizing stating that I had no part in it and my mom just wanted the best for me, but because she doesn't necessarily understand the nuances of what goes into the medical school application, or how exactly the waitlist works, she made a poor decision by herself and she didn't mean to offend anyone.
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This is the best advice, except I would call them and tell them this over the phone. Multiple emails with different content might get confusing...and email is notorious for being misconstrued. Don't put this off.
 
Alright, first of all this is not a terrible thing. More people than not have an overbearing and overprotective mother. A mother will do crazy and irrational things when it comes to their children. Also, a large portion of us have parents that are uneducated. If you spin this the right way, I could see this turning into a plus as everyone in the adcom dept. can have a little chuckle at your expense.

I would definitely contact them and apologize for crazy, immigrant mom. Almost have like a, "here she goes again" kind of vibe, and apologize. Make a joke about it even by telling a story of something really crazy that she did (as if this wasn't really crazy, lol). Sometimes being the butt of a joke can be a good thing.
 
Whatyousay said:
Now people are going to read this thread and think that in order to get off of a school's waitlist, they should have their parents email the admissions office.

I'm so sorry LizzyM/Catalystik/other adcoms.
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Yep, I'm betting that this is going to happen as well. Just for a future note everyone, I heard that the more arrogant and self-deserving your parent's email, the quicker you get off the waitlist! :meanie:
 
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