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- Mar 14, 2017
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It literally cant get worse than it is now. You're completely ****ed over.but if I do that, wouldn't it make things worse? She might never endorse me through the school for fellowships...or what if she purposely gives me bad advice or doesn't even look at my personal statements? I wish there was a way to get through it without complaining
You're an adult.. walk to your advisors office and talk it out like normal people.
Or request a new advisor
I had a similar situation. I applied for a fellowship on my own (without knowing that our school had a fellowship coordinator lol), was the only one in my university to get that particular fellowship, and after that, the coordinator absolutely despised me and refused to do anything to help me. It's a shame that these grown adults can be so petty, but that's life. Look, you've only got two options. Either do nothing (and miss out on all those scholarships you want to apply for), or report her. You say you're afraid of making the situation worse, but how can it get worse? She's already giving you bad advice, and if you asked her to review your personal statements, she sounds like she would refuse.
Are you going to be a victim here, or are you going to do something about this? Complain to her dept' Chair and/or Dean, and state that you feel that you can't get unbiased treatment from her, based upon her erroneous beliefs about you.I would, but it's summer and I can't until school starts. That's what I'll do as my next step. And there's only one fellowship advisor on campus unfortunately :/
In addition to this (since it's the right thing to do), bring concrete evidence of what you're saying otherwise you are going to start way behind.Are you going to be a victim here, or are you going to do something about this? Complain to her dept' Chair and/or Dean, and state that you feel that you can't get unbiased treatment from her, based upon her erroneous beliefs about you.
Do you really need this person? Can't you just apply?
I can apply, but I wanted to use the PS editor's help with all the essays. She does back and forth editing and is pretty knowledgable. Unfortunately, I can't talk to the PS advisor until this fellowship coordinator approves the work. But once I get the approval, I don't have to work with her anymore. The PS specialist is much nicer of a person.
I just heard back from her and I am not sure how to respond to her new email; it is very vague. Is there anyone I can PM about this? I need some help crafting my response, and want to know if I am going out of any boundaries here. Trying to do this in the most civil way possible, but she is really starting to annoy me