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but if I do that, wouldn't it make things worse? She might never endorse me through the school for fellowships...or what if she purposely gives me bad advice or doesn't even look at my personal statements? I wish there was a way to get through it without complaining :(
It literally cant get worse than it is now. You're completely ****ed over.
 
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You're an adult.. walk to your advisors office and talk it out like normal people.

Or request a new advisor
I would, but it's summer and I can't until school starts. That's what I'll do as my next step. And there's only one fellowship advisor on campus unfortunately :/
 
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I had a similar situation. I applied for a fellowship on my own (without knowing that our school had a fellowship coordinator lol), was the only one in my university to get that particular fellowship, and after that, the coordinator absolutely despised me and refused to do anything to help me. It's a shame that these grown adults can be so petty, but that's life. Look, you've only got two options. Either do nothing (and miss out on all those scholarships you want to apply for), or report her. You say you're afraid of making the situation worse, but how can it get worse? She's already giving you bad advice, and if you asked her to review your personal statements, she sounds like she would refuse.
Wow...I'd think that the coordinator would be really happy for you. Yeah, it's a tough situation. I think I'll try once more to talk to her in person (I'll just go without an appointment during her office hours). If that doesn't work out, then I'll have no choice but to report. This is just silly that she won't talk to me. I can't even use the university PS editor's help because that's also under the coordinator's supervision:bullcrap:after paying for my uni's tuition and fees, I think I can demand some resources lol
 

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I would, but it's summer and I can't until school starts. That's what I'll do as my next step. And there's only one fellowship advisor on campus unfortunately :/
Are you going to be a victim here, or are you going to do something about this? Complain to her dept' Chair and/or Dean, and state that you feel that you can't get unbiased treatment from her, based upon her erroneous beliefs about you.
 

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Are you going to be a victim here, or are you going to do something about this? Complain to her dept' Chair and/or Dean, and state that you feel that you can't get unbiased treatment from her, based upon her erroneous beliefs about you.
In addition to this (since it's the right thing to do), bring concrete evidence of what you're saying otherwise you are going to start way behind.
 
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In addition to this (since it's the right thing to do), bring concrete evidence of what you're saying otherwise you are going to start way behind.
Definitely this. Make sure you print out all the relevant email chains that you can.
 
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Do you really need this person? Can't you just apply?
I can apply, but I wanted to use the PS editor's help with all the essays. She does back and forth editing and is pretty knowledgable. Unfortunately, I can't talk to the PS advisor until this fellowship coordinator approves the work. But once I get the approval, I don't have to work with her anymore. The PS specialist is much nicer of a person.
 

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I can apply, but I wanted to use the PS editor's help with all the essays. She does back and forth editing and is pretty knowledgable. Unfortunately, I can't talk to the PS advisor until this fellowship coordinator approves the work. But once I get the approval, I don't have to work with her anymore. The PS specialist is much nicer of a person.
Honestly the gains don't seem worth the effort
 
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Sounds like she is mixing you up with someone else. And she sounds like a wack job as well.
You need a face to face to clear things up and make her realize you're not the person she's apparently merging you with.
People don't like to be wrong, but when they're wrong, they're wrong and she needs to be shown that and get over it.


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This. Her behavior is unprofessonal
You gotta wonder how many other students are being shafted by this adviser. She may very well be the actual problem. She sounds unstable.
 

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You can PM me. I've worked at universities and do a lot of career coaching.

I just heard back from her and I am not sure how to respond to her new email; it is very vague. Is there anyone I can PM about this? I need some help crafting my response, and want to know if I am going out of any boundaries here. Trying to do this in the most civil way possible, but she is really starting to annoy me :annoyed:
 
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