YesMan123G
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What about the family? They are used to metropolitan living. I don’t want them to despise the change and new life.
What about the family? They are used to metropolitan living. I don’t want them to despise the change and new life.
Do you think a clinic retail pharmacy would be any different?
I want to be in hospital in 5-10 years and hopefully further up in administration. But I have to tell you I am really not looking forward to the area. I hear the people can be unwelcoming to people not from the area. My wife who is biracial is scared of living in an area not diverse. I want them to be happy. I work to give them a better life. How long did you stay in each role for the 2.5 years of moving? Thank you for your advice. I’m really torn. My wife does not understand pharmacy and she doesn’t understand the difference between the practice settings.
I want to be in hospital in 5-10 years and hopefully further up in administration. But I have to tell you I am really not looking forward to the area. I hear the people can be unwelcoming to people not from the area. My wife who is biracial is scared of living in an area not diverse. I want them to be happy. I work to give them a better life. How long did you stay in each role for the 2.5 years of moving? Thank you for your advice. I’m really torn. My wife does not understand pharmacy and she doesn’t understand the difference between the practice settings.
This terrifies me. I did retail early on in my career and it was not easy by any means and I also did not increase my learning. I love hospital. But I love my location. It seems like the easy option is to stay locally...plus the pay. The hospital admin role is offering $150K, the retail clinic start up is offering $175k. I want to do what’s best for my family while still trying to do a job that I enjoy.
I agree with sacrifices...the only thing is my wife and kids have to make sacrifices as well. I want them to be happy too and I wish I could find a way to make all of us happy. And I ageee every role you take should lead you somewhere. Did you ever hesitate at all in your moves? Would you still make the same moves if your kids were in school?
Congrats on your role. It’s sounds very niche! It’s big accomplishment for sure. I hope your enjoying Europe.
I’m not a fan of rural living. My wife and kids are minorities. My wife is kind of nervous....but I don’t like retail. I’m a hospital person. But I wonder if they are paying me enough, to do a job I don’t like so that I can make my family happy in the end?
I wish I just had my old job back.
Very good points and I have to admit it sounds very enjoyable. I like living outside of the city in the surburbs but having close and convenient access to the city amenities.
The kids and I frequently go for dinner after work. My wife and I go for happy hour sometimes and when I’m on PTO and the weekends we enjoy so many amenities....but yes it costs so much more money and is not as healthy.
My wife’s primary concern is that she is biracial...she has concerns for diversity and inclusivity. She’s nervous she won’t be welcomed. She is also nervous that the kids and her will struggle with hair salons etc.
How many minorities roughly live in your rural area?
That’s a really good idea actually....but reality...the cost is massive
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My wife’s primary concern is that she is biracial...she has concerns for diversity and inclusivity. She’s nervous she won’t be welcomed. She is also nervous that the kids and her will struggle with hair salons etc.
Your post has some really great points. My kids are 5,7,9 and 11. I’ve taken some time visited the area...the houses are more expensive than the house I currently have...which I found very surprising, they said that land is pretty expensive over at the rural area because all the docs drive the prices up.
My gut tells me that the hospital job provides more stability. They have the cash flow and are a large institution, I also think the schedule would mostly be days.
With the start-up the schedule would be rotating...they say they want to grow and open more clinic pharmacies but I’m not sure if they have the cash flow....I don’t think the job is secure maybe that’s why they are offering a larger salary. Either way the money doesn’t make a difference. I would rather practice somewhere I enjoy and can continue learning
Wow, I love how decisive you are...I’m so scared of messing up the family...I wish I could just make a call on something so deep like this and go....I just really don’t want to see my family suffer all because of my career....my wife is really hesitant and I’m not sure if the Environent will be great for our biracial children
I am leaning to retail clinic....unfortunately....because the kids and my wife can continue to live in the city, go to the same schools, not sell the house and be closer to extended family to give a wife a break or assistance..though the hospital would still not be too far from extended family either...I feel like the retail option is least inconveniencing to the family’s life and I can still be around after work to spend time and have dinner and attend soccer and football games
Exactly...but I keep asking myself should I be making short term moves or long term moves...which one is better to make in this economic climate?....my passion is hospital management, that’s consistent...however rural living does not sit well with my wife and has legitimate fears and concerns...though I did ask her can allievate some of the concerns, and if so how....she really wants family stability
Take the retail start up job and apply to hospital admin jobs close to where you live, including the hospital job you work for. There has to be more than one hospital close to where you live.That would be my suggestionExactly...but I keep asking myself should I be making short term moves or long term moves...which one is better to make in this economic climate?....my passion is hospital management, that’s consistent...however rural living does not sit well with my wife and has legitimate fears and concerns...though I did ask her can allievate some of the concerns, and if so how....she really wants family stability
Have you told her that the retail start up might not be stable and that you can end up unemployed. Definitely explore the rural area. And what if there are minorities in the rural part of town. You never know. The Hospital Admin is safer in my opinion. I know I changed opinions, but I am also questioning whether the retail job will be stable enough for your family.Wow. Thank you so much for incredible advice here. I actually went to the town, but went to one of their nicer resteraunt and not everyday places.
There is a small college town area that I can look into living.
I am going to take a drive and go there. You so right. See how my wife feels.
You have shared so much it’s touching. Thank you helping a fellow pharmacist in dire time of need. I am sending you a profound thank you.
I just had a heart to heart with my wife on the kitchen table - she is really scared. She said she thinks the clinic is less risky and is better for the kids and she doesn’t have to worry about exclusion. She said -imagine we are there for 5 years. What impact will that have on me and the kids if they are not welcomed or accepted. What if our middle child who looks like her is bullied? She says we will be in a bind and will have to move because there are no other employment opportunities for me in the area.
I’m biracial. Idaho around Boise is ok. Lots of Californians moving there too. Tons of Mormons. I liked the small city that’s growing, and there’s lots of outdoorsy things to do there. It’s beautiful. You can see antelopes on the hills and can check out Lake Tahoe from there n check out the gold mines in Elko. It is all white though. Kkk is in the northeast, and I did get an unpleasant look from a white guy in line at a supermarket in Boise.There is a large population of a particular minority which is unusual for the section of the state. But by in large it's white folks. I think it would depend on the state as to whether the rural area. Maybe the rural ne ie new Hampshire would be better than the se, Indiana, Idaho.
I feel sorry for your wife. Who wants to be judged based on their appearance especially race and ethnicity. There are a lot of ignorant and hateful people out there.
All - I’m very painfully and reluctantly leaning to the local retail opportunity. Closing my eyes while typing this but the location is just to hard to overcome especially with my wife’s resistance - I will still make a stop at the rural location regular spots and see if it makes any impact
Ultimately, go with your gut. Logically, you can reason pros and cons until you drive yourself nuts, but if you are unhappy with the choice you make, you will only make yourself and everyone around you miserable. Life is not a math class, there are no right or wrong choices (except some obvious dumb ones). Ten years from now you will likely look back and think 'it was the right choice' no matter which option you choose. I speak from experience, out of four major moves (as in, not moving within the same state or metro area) only once I really *wanted* to move and was excited about the area I was moving to. Every other time I believed it was the right thing to do. It was. And I ended up liking every place thus far, with the exception of the most recent one (I moved to Boston inn May, but then I know I am not getting a real Boston experience with the whole coronavirus thing and I keep reminding myself that I used to love visiting it, for work or just for a long weekend getaway).All - I’m very painfully and reluctantly leaning to the local retail opportunity. Closing my eyes while typing this but the location is just to hard to overcome especially with my wife’s resistance - I will still make a stop at the rural location regular spots and see if it makes any impact
That's one way to look at it, the other way is to think that without flexibility, one day, these choices will break you. Op needs to restructure work and family to be more versatile as stable employment is not likely for retail (and even hospital as budgets are facing dark red).There’s no wrong decision, everything has tradeoffs. You’ll be rewarded in different ways either way, enjoy the 4hrs/day extra with your family. Career is important, but in the end, it’s just work.
That's one way to look at it, the other way is to think that without flexibility, one day, these choices will break you. Op needs to restructure work and family to be more versatile as stable employment is not likely for retail (and even hospital as budgets are facing dark red).
Op now that you know it's family first, the family needs to make sacrifices to prevent a 0 option choice. Your spouse needs to go to the labor market. You need another part-time job because 175 is suspicious in this labor market. Your lifestyle needs to adjust to the idea of uncertainty. That's the cost of your family's preferences to remain urban.
I have my own suspicions on the business model for why an above market salary for a HHS grant run pharmacy exists, and I wish you the best of luck and hope I'm wrong. If I am right though, it will prove the point on your talent for pharmacy administration suitably.
I pointedly disagree with the comments that this is a choice as it is only a choice if you give both consideration. I think you have framed the question wrong based on circumstances and preferences rather than viability. You reveal your choice as there isn't one in the way you frame the question. FWIW, I think your magical thinking (as is for many), that it's going to be all right, is going to seriously put you in a no-win situation. It's more that you don't have a right decision.
I pm'd you more details - I did make the move with a spouse - not a family. I have a family now, and I could see myself doing it - I pm'd you more on the racial aspect - not necessary for me to share publicly.Would you have made this move if you had family? If you had a child that needs to be in school 8-10 hours a day by themselves? How about if you had a biracial wife and kids?
I feel like I have to sacrifice for them. It would crush me if anyone tried to harm them psychologically or physically.....sometimes I wonder if I would even be thinking about things like this, if I had married a woman the same race as myself...I don’t want to get bitter. I love my wife. She’s given me an amazing family and she is the kindest person on earth...but imagine if I didn’t have to worry about her or my kids being welcomed, accepted or fitting in. Would I be able to grow my career better? ....I’m just sad today. I’m angry too...coming to terms with letting go an amazing opportunity
Work with a trained counselor?Thank you for your feedback. How do you suggest I do that?