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I am sorry to hear that.
I don't know how TMDSAS would keep such records. I don't think AMCAS does... just matriculants.
I don't know how TMDSAS would keep such records. I don't think AMCAS does... just matriculants.
I don’t think you will be hassled over this withdrawal when you reapply. You will need to answer reapplicant-related questions on the TMDSAS form this year.
Are you on any WLs for other schools?
Are you on any WLs for other schools?
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Probably too late since you declined but you could have asked to defer for a year or two so that you would be less likely to run into the ex. Or you could have advised them of the history of abuse (hopefully documented with police reports) and seen if they would retract his admission. Would think most med schools wouldn't want to admit a person with domestic violence recent history
interesting idea, @dpmd but that would involve getting re-entangled with the ex again, if not in person then on paper for the purposes of getting them ejected. I think the repercussions this would have for @Texango12345 would be far too heavy.
I'm a more vindictive sort of person so that was where my mind went but yeah not everyone would be down for that (especially if it was never reported at the time so it would just be he said she said after the fact stuff).
The only hope for this ex getting found out is if they lied about their history on the application but a background check reveals a record. We could hope for vengeance via official channels!
I had a hard time thinking what would happen if the OP disclosed the reasoning. I don't think anyone wants to be retraumatized, but I don't know how long ago this happened or if there actually was a criminal conviction involved. I suspect not if the ex was accepted... so many abuse cases get settled specifically to avoid having something on the record. This also could have been an incident with student conduct, and such settlements would not necessarily be reported as an IA (that is not something I have insight on, though I am sure it happens). If I believe statistics about acquaintance violence in college, I would have to wonder why more problems don't appear during application deliberations.
This will not prevent bumping into this person in the future, but I don't blame the OP. I would suggest the OP talk with a counselor before contacting the admissions office to explain the circumstances. Or perhaps the officer in charge of Title IX.
Policies on granting deferrals don't usually include this type of circumstance. Such a request needs to be carefully handled by the school leadership because they have to investigate from the home university (applicant institution), and I don't know all the legal nuances to get this information from the office of student conduct.
Basically one can hope there is a quick showing of karma (it gets reported in the most recent requests for background checks or a Conduct Dean's letter, assuming policy requires it). Justice (assignment of guilt) however tends to be deferred because of how things are structured in such cases of violence.
This will not prevent bumping into this person in the future, but I don't blame the OP. I would suggest the OP talk with a counselor before contacting the admissions office to explain the circumstances. Or perhaps the officer in charge of Title IX.
Policies on granting deferrals don't usually include this type of circumstance. Such a request needs to be carefully handled by the school leadership because they have to investigate from the home university (applicant institution), and I don't know all the legal nuances to get this information from the office of student conduct.
Basically one can hope there is a quick showing of karma (it gets reported in the most recent requests for background checks or a Conduct Dean's letter, assuming policy requires it). Justice (assignment of guilt) however tends to be deferred because of how things are structured in such cases of violence.
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You will fill out the blanks on the TMDSAS application which ask
Did you apply before?
Did you have any acceptances? where?
Did you ever enroll? (matriculate)
You do not have to discuss your past experiences any place on the application.
If ever asked in an interview, say "I wasn't able to enroll that year"
And of course, omit the school in question from your list.
I agree with your decision, but I highly suggest you seek therapy for what has happened. If it’s severe enough to turn down acceptance to a medical school, I would recommend you see a therapist who can help you move past this phase of your life. It will only get more stressful med school and beyond, and having to live with these experiences without a positive outlet for them will only be detrimental to your ability to become the best version of yourself as a physician.
Also, I’m very sorry to hear about what happened. Ideally you could have asked for some sort of accommodations or a deferral for a year if a case couldn’t be made against him as an abuser. But you have made your choice and it is understandable. I hope you have the opportunity to get accepted to another school next year!
