Accepted to med school but mom doesn't approve?

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OP, what did your mother think the whole time you were a pre-med? Did she think you just wanted to take hard classes and study your ass off for nothing?

You should definitely help her understand. But, envision yourself at old age and think about what occupation would make you happier.
 
fifty bucks says this is stayclassys mom herself.

amiright or amiright?!
 
stayclassy said:
I love my mother very much and she has supported me my whole life.
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Well she should keep on supporting you for the rest of your life! Emotionally, of course. Why should things change now after all you've been through?
 
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I will keep you in my prayers stayclassy.

Go to medical school. If you are telling the truth, I see no reason for you having gone this far to get an acceptance only to confront the mother conflict. What did you think you were going to do if you got an acceptance in the months prior?

I'm going to assume you thought you wouldn't get into a school, and alas you have. Take the acceptance, or dump it asap so someone else can have the opportunity.
 
stayclassy said:
Hey everyone,

I got accepted to medical school for fall 2010. I am obviously excited. However, my mother does not approve at all, she says that I should not waste my time and just become a PT. I love my mother very much and she has supported me my whole life.

What should I do?
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I haven't read any of the responses to this post, but I would imagine the majority saying something along the lines of....

Your mom fails
 
zetabetazeta said:
Hey, Classy and BlueElmo, since you guys got accepted already, do you mind taking a look at my profile and telling me what you think? Thank you!
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No way! I just watched the first season in the past 24 hours and skipped all my classes...that's awesome!
 
I hope this is fake! If so good play sir. If not, MAN UP.
 
Looks like a new breed of troll to me... a highly advanced breed.
 
brooklynblunder said:
wow, thats a little insensitive little richard, you should understand circumstances better


stayclassy, i think you need to consider both sides of the coin here buddy
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It was not harsh. It is the OP's career and if becoming a doctor is what he wants to do, then he should do it regardless of what other people think, including his mother.
 
Is this thread serious? I don't care how close you and your mom are, why would you let someone else live your life for you? I mean c'mon, you went through undergrad, MCAT, interviews, and finally got accepted and you're seriously considering declining because of your mom's opinion. Unless she went to med school, she probably has no idea what she's talking about anyway.
 
I'm going to say it quite bluntly, your mother is going to go eventually, and you will be left. Will you be happy being an PT, when every day you realize that I could have been a doctor? Will you ever regret the decision to turn down medical school?

I think we all understand you love your mother and she is your best friend, but the point here is at some point in your life you have to make your own decisions. This is honestly your decision not your mothers, this is probably going to be one of the biggest decision's of your life.

Step up and make your own choice, the way your original post sounded you really want to go to Med school, don't let anyone stop you. This is something you really want to do, you said your mother loves you, and is supportive, she will support you and continue to love you if you go to medical school.

The question here isn't what your mother wants you to do, the question is what do you want to do with your life?
 
Take the acceptance and run! Just because she's your mom doesn't mean she can't be wrong.

The later posts in this thread by the OP sound so unrealistic they might be trolling.

stayclassy said:
my dad thinks my mom is having an affair with her PT, that might have something to do with it but dad's drinking again
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stayclassy said:
I think I'm going to tell my mom im going to PT school and just go to med school behind her back
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OP, your mother is right. Medicine is going to **** and there is no reason for you to compromise her future potential for happy grandchildren to have a career where you hand out Percocet and Zithromax prescriptions like candy and do dictations all day. Besides, your mother loves you very much and she thinks you're a very handsome boy. How can that mean nothing to you?
 
stayclassy said:
BC doctors have a bad lifestyle she thinks. she wants lots of grandkids and wants me to be a PT so i can work short hours and spend time with my kids.
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This is a valid point, but ONLY if you want kids. Do you?
 
i bet she just doesn't want you to move to Vermont. If you were accepted to a Florida school, she'd change her tune.
 
This reminds me of that one House episode with the gypsy kid who swallowed a toothpick ><
 
Please don't go to medical school. Because once you would become a doctor you would have to call mom every time you saw a patient to see what she thought the best course of action would be.

Do us all a favor troll!
 
brooklynblunder said:
why doesnt other peoples happiness affect your happiness

have you even seen the movie the pursuit of happyness? will was looking out for his kid, not himself

plenty of pre-meds get caught up in US news ranking to appease their parents, why cant this situation hold any weight
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Sometimes, you need to decide what you want to do with your life instead of living out the expectations of others.
 
stayclassy said:
Hey everyone,

I got accepted to medical school for fall 2010. I am obviously excited. However, my mother does not approve at all, she says that I should not waste my time and just become a PT. I love my mother very much and she has supported me my whole life.

What should I do?
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WTF IS UP with grown people worrying about their parents "approval?" I know people are gonna whine about me over-reacting, but I see these annoying posts all the time. OMFG this is so maddening. You're gonna be a physician one day, yet you can't even make your own freaking decisions? Grow up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 👎

PS: Even if OP is a troll, I feel I needed to make this post. There are way too many "children" on these forums that are going to professional schools who ask ridiculous questions like this.
 
Oh calm down.. I was 16 when I graduated high school. That means when I make this choice two years from now I will be 18. I am not dependent on my family but there are many that are sheltered or have come from traditional ethnic families. There is a much larger emphasis on family in some situations. Maybe his dad left them a long time ago and his mom and him have a very very tight bond.

To be honest OP you need to make the decision yourself, and if you want us to make it for you, your bond with your mom is not as tight as you might think it is. A good friend is someone you can talk to in all situations, not only when things are going good. Talk to your mom.. not us. Explain why its important to you. If she still doesnt see things your way, then you may need to reconsider her interests.

So far they seem very shallow. She wants more grandchildren. She wants you to get out and make money faster. Where do your wants fit in in this relationship?
 
Medmon said:
Oh calm down.. I was 16 when I graduated high school. That means when I make this choice two years from now I will be 18. I am not dependent on my family but there are many that are sheltered or have come from traditional ethnic families. There is a much larger emphasis on family in some situations. Maybe his dad left them a long time ago and his mom and him have a very very tight bond.

To be honest OP you need to make the decision yourself, and if you want us to make it for you, your bond with your mom is not as tight as you might think it is. A good friend is someone you can talk to in all situations, not only when things are going good. Talk to your mom.. not us. Explain why its important to you. If she still doesnt see things your way, then you may need to reconsider her interests.

So far they seem very shallow. She wants more grandchildren. She wants you to get out and make money faster. Where do your wants fit in in this relationship?
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Stop feeding the troll....unless you enjoy members of the class of 2014 openly laughing at you. :smack:
 
Medmon said:
Oh calm down..
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Saw that one coming.

I was 16 when I graduated high school. That means when I make this choice two years from now I will be 18.
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Great for you! But, irrelevant.
I am not dependent on my family but there are many that are sheltered or have come from traditional ethnic families. There is a much larger emphasis on family in some situations. Maybe his dad left them a long time ago and his mom and him have a very very tight bond.
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That's totally irrelevant to the OP's ability to make adult decisions.

To be honest OP you need to make the decision yourself, and if you want us to make it for you, your bond with your mom is not as tight as you might think it is. A good friend is someone you can talk to in all situations, not only when things are going good. Talk to your mom.. not us. Explain why its important to you. If she still doesnt see things your way, then you may need to reconsider her interests.

So far they seem very shallow. She wants more grandchildren. She wants you to get out and make money faster. Where do your wants fit in in this relationship?
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And, we're back to sanity. You've redeemed yourself with the last two paragraphs here. OP, please pay attention to the underlined sentence.

Note: highest likelihood = OP is a troll. But, significance of discussion still stands.
 
Yes redemption! And I like the class of 2014 thread. Gotta keep my boredom away with something 😀

PS: family traditions has a lot to do with what he said AND so does age -> maturity. I was throwing out things that might affect him. Troll or not this might affect other people right?

Troll away though 😡😡
 
osumc2014 said:
No way! I just watched the first season in the past 24 hours and skipped all my classes...that's awesome!
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I know! Seriously, sometimes I wish I were a sorority girl.

But yeah, "I'm not anti-social, I'm just pre-med"...lol
 
OP, call Dr. Laura's radio talk show and run your scenario by Dr. Laura. I suspect that she will laugh derisively at you and call you a "Mamma's boy" but sometimes she gives good advice. She will probably tell you to forget med school and PT school and advise you to join the Marines and go to Afghanistan like her son.
 
tncekm said:
WTF IS UP with grown people worrying about their parents "approval?"
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Did you grow up in an Asian community? Parents' approval can be really important to individuals in these communities. I think it's a cultural thing. I've heard that many Italian families are the same. (must.. resist.. urge.. to.. make.. Mafia.. joke..)
 
Tell your mom how hard you've worked for this, and that you don't want to turn back now. Tell her that you want her continued support. If she really wants the best for you then she'll understand.
 
don't listen to your mom!!!!


you will regret it for the rest of your life.
 
Its nice that your mom is giving you advice and that you care what she things, but I'm pretty sure that if y'all are as tight as you say she'll understand if you make your own decision on this. Its the rest of your life we're talking about here. It might be uncomfortable for her to face the reality that you're an adult know and will make decisions on your own (while taking her advice into account, but still on your own) but that's an important step for the two of you to continue to have a great relationship into your adult years. Deciding your career should be about YOU, not anyone else. You're the one who has to live with that decision every day.
 
Why did not she tell that before starting all this pre med battle?
 
strummin said:
Did you grow up in an Asian community? Parents' approval can be really important to individuals in these communities. I think it's a cultural thing. I've heard that many Italian families are the same. (must.. resist.. urge.. to.. make.. Mafia.. joke..)
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I did.

And I don't interact with my parents very much anymore because of this.
 
stayclassy said:
Hey everyone,

I got accepted to medical school for fall 2010. I am obviously excited. However, my mother does not approve at all, she says that I should not waste my time and just become a PT. I love my mother very much and she has supported me my whole life.

What should I do?
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Listen to your mama, classy, medical school is the DEVIL!
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strummin said:
Did you grow up in an Asian community? Parents' approval can be really important to individuals in these communities. I think it's a cultural thing. I've heard that many Italian families are the same. (must.. resist.. urge.. to.. make.. Mafia.. joke..)
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Well, I'm kind of different. I grew up in an Asian community but my stepdad is white, so...It's funny that my mom becomes more Americanized (open-minded) and my stepdad becomes more Chinese (conservative and Asian style). But I totally understand what you mean. I'm the only child in my family, and my parents have super high expectations from me. We are pretty close and they are AWESOME!
 
Go to med school man. You have the oppurtunity that some people spend years doing at your fingertips and you won't accept it. Tell your mom how doctors are more respectable and recieve more pay than PT's.
 
Wow, this whole parents dictating your career choices and who you marry, and how you live your adult life, seems pretty weird to me, but, hey, I am from Oregon, love the folks, but I would never allow my parents to determine my adult life. Trying to be respectful, but ok, I do not get it.
 
stayclassy said:
Um scoreboard buddy... I think you're the troll. Obviously you didn't have a good relationship with your mom and you're just jealous.

honestly though, im starting to think she's right. One of my interviewers literally told me she wouldn't be a physician if she was my age because the field of medicine is going down the toilet
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Your mom is right, doctors are lame anyway, too boring of conversation with everyone standing around saying,"Doctor, Doctor, Doctor." Do something more respectable and better for this country, like law school.😀
 
I Know stayclassy's mom.... she told me in confidence that she would rather him be a PT, even though he decided on MD.... just food for thought
 
hey everyone,

just told update you, i've decided to go to medical school and told my mother that I was just going to get my M.D. degree and then go to P.T. school after so I would be more prepared for the PT coursework... she fully supports my decision...
 
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