As I understand it, alkali metals are generally very reactive due to how close they are to noble gas configuration, hence "wanting" to react in order to go to noble gas config. It's sort of like how halogens are also very reactive, but stuff in the middle (carbon, for example) is less so. All the alkali metals need to do is lose their single, unpaired electron and they're good to go. They're more reactive than other metals because other metals are all farther from noble gas config, and thus a little more stable where they are. Also, other metal can get stability from half-filled orbitals, etc.
If you drop a chunk of sodium into water, it'll blow the flask up 😉