Any couples applying to the same schools together ?

[UES Girl]

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So, this isn't exactly a typical pre-pharm thread and I sincerely apologize to the moderators beforehand, but I had no idea where to post this.

I am wondering: for those of you that are in relationships and both into science/health care field, has any of you actually applied to the same schools and have gotten in ?


I am applying to 17 pharms schools for 09, while my boyfriend was supposed to apply to the same schools ( or schools in the same area that we specifically selected ) for a Ph. D in biochemistry program. He is currently pursuing an MS in biochemistry, but won't finish his research untill about 2 years from now.

Yesterday, he basically shocked me by saying he decided not to apply. He says our chances of getting into the same school are atsronomically low - even though he is an outstanding candidate due to his background and I am an ok one. He has now decided not to apply altogether and just follow me wherever I get accepted.

I feel terrible about, because I am not really comfortable with him sacrificing his educational goals just so he could be with me. School is my priority and I thought it was his too. 😕

So, I am wondering, should I try to persuade him to apply ? Has anyone amongst pre-pharmers actually gotten into the same schools together or is no one else in this position and this is something unheard of ?

 

[mrblah]

there are people who are couples at my pharmd school that applied together and got in together, although to be honest...they keep to themselves.

We also have people who were friends/roommates prior to applying and they both got in.

So your boyfriend needs to be a bit more optomistic. You might even mention it in your interview, and you can play it to your advantage.

 

[AsianGuy26]

My girlfriend and I will be applying to some of the same schools, but she will do so a year after me. However we both realize that if we can't get into the same school then... well it happens.

Educational needs should not be sacraficed atm.

 

[lastmagus]

PhD admissions are completely different from applications to pharmacy school. There are no seats to fill on a yearly basis, it's more like applying for a job. He needs a lab that uses methods similar to whatever techniques he is familiar with. He also needs that lab that has an opening. Most groups I have worked with only look for students every other year (the idea is more senior students mentor new students creating a trickle down effect). Given that you are applying to an insane number of schools I'd imagine those criteria would be met somewhere (maybe this would be a good way to reduce your number of applications). I would:

Go to the bio chem site of each school
See what each faculty member does
See if he can be useful there- If so both apply and have him get in touch with whoever he wants to work with.
If not don't apply

Don't let him quit for you because down the road he will probably hold it against you on some level.

 

[CrazyFox]

I have no idea how admission in PhD works, but I think you should try to persuade your boyfriend to apply.It's nice that he wants to follow you wherever you go BUT in the long run you both are better off by pursuing and reaching your educational goals.

 

[BacardiGirl]

I couldn't get my bfriend to open up a textbook even if I paid him LOL

 

[tharper14]

Totally agree with 311fighters. Ultimately it's his choice but if your relationship is strong it can survive a long distance relationship, it might even strengthen it. Anyway, you'll be so busy in pharm school you won't have time for your boyfriend anyway. I'm actually kind of glad my husband isn't around to distract me right now. I'm like insanely busy right now and exams haven't even started yet. It's admirable that you both want to be together but you have a lifetime to be together... what's 4 years, it's nothing. Having said that, if you really want him to be with you, ask him what schools he really wants to do his phd at and apply to those schools only. (Hopefully they have a pharm school😳)

 

[confettiflyer]

I have several couples in my class now, one couple got in together, another couple got separated. You'll have to consider the distinct possibility of the both of you going to different schools.

My sig. other moved out here with me on the proviso she had something to do (ie job, school, etc...)

Perhaps your sig. other who needs an additional academic boost can apply to a SMP in the area of your PS? Even then, they might be admitted elsewhere when the next admit cycle comes around.

 

[jyw003]

kinda pertaining to topic =p

i hope to find myself a gf in pharm school ^___^ look out*** hahahha

 

[confettiflyer]

funny, my buddy was complaining to me everyone in our class is either with someone else, married, or engaged. haha, maybe it's just my school.

 

[UES Girl]

funny, my buddy was complaining to me everyone in our class is either with someone else, married, or engaged. haha, maybe it's just my school.

Thanks for all responses in this thread.👍 🙂 😍


They made me feel better but I am still uneasy about it.🙁 The way it is right now is that I actually want my boyfriend to apply and pursue his dreams, he is the one who is holding back and doesn't want to do it any longer.


I am hoping that once I get into school and we get settled down, maybe then he'll change his mind. 🙂

 

[Snake Doctor]

Well he can also look to work in a lab at the school you'll be at for a year or so and then apply. Someone in the lab I used to work in served as a lab manager for awhile before applying to the Ph.D. program and was accepted. This is also great option because he'll then know which P.I.'s to avoid if there's a mandatory lab rotation for his Ph.D. program.

 

[brclho]

personally, i think it might be beneficial for the both of you to not be in the same school. first, you would have friends or social groups that are not necessarily the same as your girlfriends, so it would broaden your view and number of people you know. secondly, the ability to focus while u are on campus would be better since u wont have to find your significant other if they are there.

of course, whatever happens happens. but i agree with many others, education should come before relationship at this stage. being in the same university is not like being underneath the same roof in the future. you arent going to be in university for the rest of your life (at least i dont want to) but God willing you are going to be living under the same roof for the rest of your life.

 

[ImDaStyle]

My boyfriend and I are planning to apply to the same pharmacy school...It would be great if we both get accepted at the same school... xD he could be my personal tutor since he's way smarter than me..lol..

 

[bananaface]

Thanks for all responses in this thread.👍 🙂 😍


They made me feel better but I am still uneasy about it.🙁 The way it is right now is that I actually want my boyfriend to apply and pursue his dreams, he is the one who is holding back and doesn't want to do it any longer.


I am hoping that once I get into school and we get settled down, maybe then he'll change his mind. 🙂

It makes you wonder if those are really his dreams? Maybe he's not applying b/c he isn't sure he wants to spend his time on the degree.

 

[GatorRxGirl]

There's a married couple in my class. They both got in.

 

[199778]

my boyfriend is in his 2nd year at pharm school. he encouraged me to apply to his school, but i don't have the right status to enroll. maybe by some fluke, i will get accepted. let's hope.

because i can't imagine being out-of-state without him, i am not sure how our long distance relationship will go.... but i assume if we're right for each other, we will make it through anything.

So, be strong and pursue your goal. Whatever happens, happens for a reason.

 

[UES Girl]

It makes you wonder if those are really his dreams? Maybe he's not applying b/c he isn't sure he wants to spend his time on the degree.

This is straight to the point too. I've considered that, perhaps, his decision also has to do with the fact that he may feel lost about his future and unsure of his career choice. Maybe he is just doing soul searching like I was last year.