sumozmom said:
hello ...i am singmom with 9 yr old twins. life has been tuff.🙂 but better than when i was married. The only down fall is that i have to work while taking my pre-recs. UGH
whats ur story...why md school? how old r ya....whats ur field of interest?
Sorry to hear that your relationship is crumbling
🙁 - sometimes there's just nothing that can be done about that (other than part ways). I am a single mom and have been since 1995. My children were 9, 8 and 6. My son went to live with my ex and my youngest stayed with me and the middle child was in an SNF (that's a whole different story...). The son is now 20 and the youngest is 17 (just got her license...Insurance has increased significantly...$$$). The middle child died when she was 10.
It's been rough, but I'm glad I did it (got divorced, etc). I can only say that it's a blessing you have a supportive family. If your soon-to-be ex can remain mature about the situation, your kids stand a good chance of weathering the breakup well. Don't be afraid to allow the children to express themselves and don't be afraid to have the children see a counselor if needed.
I'm a respiratory therapist and was working different shifts to make $$$ and tried to parent my kids when I could. Thank God for my mom and others who helped me along the way (my boss even kept my daughter a few times during my 32 hour weekend shifts). I eventually went back to school to obtain my undergrad degree and took the kids (the son when stayed when he could) along with me. We moved to the campus for two years and I got it done!
Now, they are older and they haven't turned out too bad. It's been a struggle, but, again, worth it. I hope you and your ex can have an amicable separation for the sake of the children. If he's a jerk, it'll make things a little more difficult. But, with your support system in place, the children will be just fine.
I'm continuing to move forward with my goal of becoming a physician. I put things off for a few years until the kids got a little older. Now I won't feel so guilty about going to med school ("Mommy Guilt" is real; make sure you have someone to talk to about it!). I'm now 42 and plan to start classes in a post-bacc program in the fall.
It can be done and you (and yours) will be fine! Just keep moving along. The kids will adjust.
I've filled you with alot of touchy-feely stuff above - but one thing you need to make sure of is that you have a butt-kickin' lawyer so you're not stuck (like I was) not having enough $$$ for the kids. My child support was a good $25 per week for my daughter. I still don't like that lawyer I had
😡. They all stick together - so be careful!
