Apologies to the community

[Ceke2002]

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I'm sure it hasn't gone unnoticed, but I feel much of my recent posting hasn't been up to the usual standard I try and hold myself to as a guest on this forum. I've been rather glib of late, joking around too much, posting without first properly reading up on the information I'm relaying, not always properly clarifying responses I've given, and so on. I'd like to extend my apologies to the community for this.

As some of you may already know (I posted about it in the Lounge, and mentioned it in passing on here the other day as well) my Father in Law is in the final stages of terminal bowel cancer, and was placed under palliative sedation last Friday just gone. My husband and myself, along with other family members, have been taking turns to try and hold vigil as much as we've been able to, and of course the hospice staff have all been wonderful, but as I'm sure you can imagine it's still a difficult and draining time for all involved right now -- hence the "brain dumb, bad post" thing I've kind of had going on recently. On top of that, owing to the current state of internships required to complete medical studies in Australia, I'm also at a pretty significant cross roads with my decision to try and eventually return to post grad medical studies, and whether I go ahead with things or not. When I can string a more coherent thought process together I'll probably post something in the non trad student forum and see if I can get some advice, plus of course I'll be contacting the Universities I'm planning to apply to for pre-course counselling as well, but at the moment it's just another thing on top of this other big thing that's happening and I think my brain has pretty much just packed up and gone on vacation.

So apologies all round, and I'll try and lift my game going forward. 👍

Sorry guys.

 

[Shikima]

 

[Ceke2002]

One of my all time favourites, always guaranteed to bring a chuckle. Just what I needed.

(edited to add: My apology still stands though, even if I am still currently mid snorfle with that video 😉)

 

[Therapist4Chnge]

Love that clip.

 

[DD214_DOC]

Seems like you need a cold beer and a friend.

 

[Ceke2002]

Seems like you need a cold beer and a friend.

Well the BBQ and shared bottle of wine helped the other day. That and catching up on some decent sleep. 😎

 

[Shikima]

Ah sleep, the great equalizer.

 

[Ceke2002]

Ah sleep, the great equalizer.

To sleep, perchance to dream...or in my case, to sleep, perchance to fall in a heap from exhaustion and wake up 20 hours later going 'Yeah, okay, I needed that'.

 

[Shikima]

You know, it amazes me - I give a simple directive, "Go to bed" and I'm looked at cross-eyed as if I were speaking Swahili.

 

[Ceke2002]

You know, it amazes me - I give a simple directive, "Go to bed" and I'm looked at cross-eyed as if I were speaking Swahili.

Yeah it is kinda amazing sometimes how little consideration is given to the necessity of proper sleep -- at least until a sleep fairy the size of Mike Tyson comes along and knocks you out, and then eventually you wake up thinking, "Hey, that 'go to bed and get some decent sleep for FFS' thing was a great idea after all".

After discussions were had at a recent family get together, unless things change dramatically in the meantime, I think we're all planning to take a few days off from trying to hold vigil. My father in law is being really well looked after, the Doctors and Nurses in charge of his care are constantly monitoring his condition, he's being kept comfortable under sedation, and there's really not that much more any of us can do as it is so general consensus right now seems to be that a break is in order. 😎

 

[sunlioness]

Take care of yourself.


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[Ceke2002]

Take care of yourself.


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Thanks, I'm certainly trying to. 🙂

 

[Ceke2002]

Thank you all for the good wishes, and much needed humourous distractions. My father in law passed last night at 11.50 pm.

 

[sunlioness]

I'm sorry.


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[OldPsychDoc]

Peace to you all.

 

[Amygdarya]

Sorry to hear about your father in law Ceke. There was no need to apologize at all but, for what it's worth, I always enjoy reading your posts.

 

[gotname]

You know, it amazes me - I give a simple directive, "Go to bed" and I'm looked at cross-eyed as if I were speaking Swahili.

Easy things are seemingly hard to do. Maybe they'll listen if you actually say it in Kiswahili "Enda ukalale" 😴

Thank you all for the good wishes, and much needed humourous distractions. My father in law passed last night at 11.50 pm.

May time ease the pain of his passing for you and your family.

 

[Ceke2002]

Thanks everyone, much appreciated. My husband and my sisters in law are meeting with the funeral home today to go through all the arrangements, I've stayed behind to keep working on the slideshow and music presentation for the service. Apart from that we're just working through the legal side of things, like the will and so on. I'm a lot closer to my in laws than I am to my own family, so right now I'm just trying to do whatever I can to make things easier for all involved. My husband has a really great therapist as well (Psychologist) so she's offered to fit him in for extra appointments if he feels he needs them under the circumstances as well. Thanks again for the good thoughts.