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I am just trying to get an idea of how long those of you who delayed did wait until having kids. Thanks for everyone’s input!
I am just trying to get an idea of how long those of you who delayed did wait until having kids. Thanks for everyone’s input!
Don't delay having kids. If you want them, have them.
Only gets harder the older you get. Especially for women. Risk of miscarriage, fertility issues, pregnancy issues only goes up with age.
There will never be a perfect time. Only less worse times.
You just need to say cis man married to a cis woman … the genotype is implied there if you want to get that information across in detail. But the cis can be implied if you just say male married to a female.I am a biological XY (i did karyotyping) cis-gendered male who is heterosexual and have a biological XX (she did karyotyping) cis-gendered female wife who is not a medical professional.
(I am not really into all that pronoun stuff but I do not know who is so I figure I better just play along... besides the hospitals in NYC make sure I get all the pronouns correct anyway)
We have 3 kids now. First kid born during final year of fellowship so cruised into attending life.
I would say it would not have been easy to raise a child during residency or fellowship due to the on call hours and all the demands of research, networking, clinical duties, long hours, etc...
I tuck my kids in every night and read them books
some where I work have made a big deal about the biological sex and assigned gender both being fluid.You just need to say cis man married to a cis woman … the genotype is implied there if you want to get that information across in detail. But the cis can be implied if you just say male married to a female.
some where I work have made a big deal about the biological sex and assigned gender both being fluid.
While the latter is reasonable as gender is "a societal assigned norm," one cannot argue with the chromosomes. I won't start a semantics firestorm about "biological sex being fluid or not" as that is not relevant to me.
But saying "my karyotype is XY or XX" (or in other situations the turner's syndrome or klinefelters or etc) is a statement of chromosomes and is not something that can be disputed. This is why I do not use the term "biological male or biological female" as those terms are in dispute. I'd rather avoid the firestoem and just say my karyotype test says I have 46 XY. dont know how that can be disputed. follow the science everyone.
anyway, as I have done karyotyping, I just wanted to put it out there.
edit: in NYC, this social stuff is emphasized quite heavily as litigation due to hurt feelings is a very common thing. I do not get too involved in the "culture wars" but I will play along because the key is to make all of our patients feel welcome and cared for. But in order to avoid "traps" set by narcissistic and histrionic individuals (most people who are not the traditional male / female binary are pretty decent folk and are not nuts), I just refer to every patient by the first name and last name at all times.
yeah there's no winning if said individual (or individuals if they/them) is/are (a) narcissistic and histrionic individual(s) (of which fortunately the only ones that exist in real life are on social media only or in Hollywood)What if they have a preferred name….?
Had a couple the appearing biological male identified as female. The opposite is true. We don’t see that often in my part of the country…. Thought they make a great couple.
Disagree. Twins was way worse than residency. Imagine q1 call for 2 years...also for anyone who has done q4 on call with 24 hour calls before in residency or fellowship... kids are no big deal after you have had that work experience.
Okay fair enough I meant single infant at a timeDisagree. Twins was way worse than residency. Imagine q1 call for 2 years...
Honestly, after the first 3 months it wasn't the twins aspect of it. By that time. One of my kids was sleeping through the night with no trouble.Okay fair enough I meant single infant at a time
Honestly, after the first 3 months it wasn't the twins aspect of it. By that time. One of my kids was sleeping through the night with no trouble.
It was the other one who would never sleep more than about 3 hours at a time...
I understand your pain...It was the other one who would never sleep more than about 3 hours at a time...
If I had spent more time that year paying attention to my son he may not have been diagnosed with autism.