Being followed??

[KEC]

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Has anyone had the experience of fellow students following them everywhere? Two people in my class will not leave me alone! If I go to the bathroom on break, they go to the bathroom. If I go to check my mail, they go to check their mail. If I say that I'm going to skip class, they skip class!! They actually get pissed if I don't sit with them in class and sit in a different part of the room. They will also get up and move to where I am. Then they get upset if they have to sit by eachother because they don't like eachother. Ok- we are in med school- do we really have time for this crap? I get so agitated and I don't want to have to say something to them because they are very nice, just so damn annoying!! They are also two of the younger people in my class and that may have something to do with it.

 

[Blake]

Is it part of a game ? In 2 weeks, our whole class will start a game called '' gotcha ''. It's supposed to be teams of 8 students, having to eliminate other classmates with water guns. The rules are quite complicated, but it seems like fun. I digress... Have you tried talking to them ? Tell them it bothers you. Unless they're idiots, they will leave you alone more often.

 

[TTSD]

The sad truth is, once people get to medical school they get some weird mentality that they're supposed to act foolish again. Maybe it's pride and ego, thinking they're big shots and thinking they can get away with juvenile behavior. Or fear that this is indeed the last time they can act like children.

But anyways, talk to them.

 

[John Deere Gree]

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[AlexRusso]

Is it part of a game ? In 2 weeks, our whole class will start a game called '' gotcha ''. It's supposed to be teams of 8 students, having to eliminate other classmates with water guns. The rules are quite complicated, but it seems like fun. I digress... Have you tried talking to them ? Tell them it bothers you. Unless they're idiots, they will leave you alone more often.

We played something like this in High School. It was called Killer.You got a card with a person's name on it and that person was you prey. If you shot them with a water gun you took their card and started going after their prey. If you found out who your predator was (who's after you) and shot them, you froze them for the rest of the day, meaning they couldnt attack you till the next day. The game got very crazy, with lots of conspiracies, people disguising themseves in school, waiting by each others houses in the morning, lots of missed classes, lots of classes disrupted by suicide attacks, etc. Administration got involved, it wasn't pretty.

 

[carol ann]

yeah, kids aren't really allowed to play "Killer" in high school anymore...

 

[AlexRusso]

yeah, kids aren't really allowed to play "Killer" in high school anymore...

Especially in those rural ones in the middle of nowhere.

 

[iamhot2]

if it is only one person that is following u, that might sound like stalking.

now two people who are following you all the time, r u sure that it is not that is imaging things?

Has anyone had the experience of fellow students following them everywhere? Two people in my class will not leave me alone! younger people in my class and that may have something to do with it.

 

[Paws]

Well, I have noticed that yes, the younger (usually female) members of the class will tend to cling together and follow each other everywhere. I'm female too, but I must have been man in another life, or maybe I just love being around men, because I tend to hang with the guys.

So, maybe they like you, see you as someone 'safe' to hang with and they are nervous and feeling insecure. I definitely think it's an adolescent kind of thing that most people tend to outgrow. I might say something simple like: hey! I am feeling a little crushed, can you guys give me some space? Or whatever works best in your style.

They need to figure it out sometime.

 

[ellehcim]

Has anyone had the experience of fellow students following them everywhere? Two people in my class will not leave me alone! If I go to the bathroom on break, they go to the bathroom. If I go to check my mail, they go to check their mail. If I say that I'm going to skip class, they skip class!! They actually get pissed if I don't sit with them in class and sit in a different part of the room. They will also get up and move to where I am. Then they get upset if they have to sit by eachother because they don't like eachother. Ok- we are in med school- do we really have time for this crap? I get so agitated and I don't want to have to say something to them because they are very nice, just so damn annoying!! They are also two of the younger people in my class and that may have something to do with it.

Try jumping off a bridge and see if they follow......

 

[lowbudget]

Sounds like you've got people who are just trying to make friends in a new environment, seeking security in packs, stuff like that.

 

[SaltySqueegee]

It's been said before. Med school is at the high school social level...

 

[DrBuzzLightYear]

as for the original post... my gut reaction is that you're suffering from paranoid persecutory delusions. seek help ASAP (no offense intended)

 

[Stinger86]

Sounds like you've got people who are just trying to make friends in a new environment, seeking security in packs, stuff like that.

This sounds the most reasonable. I know someone who seemed to follow me around everywhere when I actually attended school first and second year, but once I started skipping, the bothersome behavior started to die off. I understand what you're going through-- it's really friggin' obnoxious.

 

[Fermata]

Tell them to leave you alone.

Problem solved.

 

[UseUrHeadFred]

I know an Infectious Disease program director who had the same problem.

Oh, wait. Maybe he was just being fellowed.

 

[KEC]

Paws, I think you're right. I talked to another classmate (who finds it hilarious to watch the two of them follow me around!!) about it and we decided that these two are just trying to find "their place." I just wish that in such a big class, they could branch out and find some other friends. There are so many really nice people in our class and if they would just talk to somebody else they would make tons of friends. They won't talk to anybody else unless I am talking to that other person. I'm not really looking forward to having to tell them to go away, but it's going to have to happen here soon- I can't breathe!!

 

[TTSD]

I want girls to follow me around 🙁

 

[ice_23]

I'm female too, but I must have been man in another life, or maybe I just love being around men, because I tend to hang with the guys.

Most females that I talk to always say that they hang out with guys more than with girls; I've always wondered why that is?

-Ice

 

[hypersting]

Most females that I talk to always say that they hang out with guys more than with girls; I've always wondered why that is?

-Ice

Most girls like having or think they have tons of guy friends. They are the emotional backups for when their real boyfriends don't work out. It also makes them feel like they are getting attention. They also get called when moving time comes 🙂 Of course, not all girls are like this, but many are.

 

[TTSD]

Most girls like having or think they have tons of guy friends. They are the emotional backups for when their real boyfriends don't work out. It also makes them feel like they are getting attention. They also get called when moving time comes 🙂 Of course, not all girls are like this, but many are.

That and a gaggle of girls is just bound to have too much "drama." Back-stabbing, gossiping, exchanging tampons..

 

[Paws]

For this girl, I have found that sometimes groups of females will become bullies, and that's a huge drag. I don't ever feel that stuff from guys. If a guy doesn't like hanging out with you, you know pretty darn quick. Guys will just come right out and say something.

Girls on the other hand, tend to not like you but then want to keep you around to torment and make the 'dumb' one in the group - or whatever. This is so weird to me, and yet it is so common. Also, with school, guys are all about the facts and getting stuff done, whereas women will futz around, talk way too much and then say, 'what can you do, we're so behind ...' or something equally limp. 🙄

Maybe it's a competition thing, too because women classmates will tend to say things like: 'did you find that test hard, really? oh I am so sorry you're having such a hard time, are you sure you can handle the work load , etc ... ' which is yucky. Whereas the guys will be more honest and say 'dang, that was a really hard test.'

There are very definitely gender styles for relating to other people. Not all men, or all women fall into these characteristics, but in general, this is what I have found. And there can be differences between a group or guys/girls and then one individually. And it does seem to be an age thing, and most people will grow out of these traits with time.

Just my $0.02.

 

[TTSD]

For this girl, I have found that sometimes groups of females will become bullies, and that's a huge drag. I don't ever feel that stuff from guys. If a guy doesn't like hanging out with you, you know pretty darn quick. Guys will just come right out and say something.

Girls on the other hand, tend to not like you but then want to keep you around to torment and make the 'dumb' one in the group - or whatever. This is so weird to me, and yet it is so common. Also, with school, guys are all about the facts and getting stuff done, whereas women will futz around, talk way too much and then say, 'what can you do, we're so behind ...' or something equally limp. 🙄

Maybe it's a competition thing, too because women classmates will tend to say things like: 'did you find that test hard, really? oh I am so sorry you're having such a hard time, are you sure you can handle the work load , etc ... ' which is yucky. Whereas the guys will be more honest and say 'dang, that was a really hard test.'

There are very definitely gender styles for relating to other people. Not all men, or all women fall into these characteristics, but in general, this is what I have found. And there can be differences between a group or guys/girls and then one individually. And it does seem to be an age thing, and most people will grow out of these traits with time.

Just my $0.02.

Good little insights, I agree for the most part. Girls are definitely more insiduous than guys (though some girls just don't get the hint you find them repulsive, fat, stupid and ugly and should stop bothering you). But asides from that..

I think it's all been doing downhill since we let girls start wearing pants.

 

[toofache32]

I think it's all been doing downhill since we let girls start wearing pants.

...and vote.

 

[OTheHorror]

haha

 

[TTSD]

...and vote.

That's a good thing actually. Women should be allowed to vote. Let them be democrats.. and when it comes to practicality, the men will vote Republican =)

 

[RAwe]

Most females that I talk to always say that they hang out with guys more than with girls; I've always wondered why that is?

-Ice

Ever watch the apprentice? Typical microcosm of how girls can be catty, you just gotta find the right friends is all.

 

[ajnak182]

As a digression... Exactly how nerdy are medical students? Are we talking folks who spend time on the weekend snuggling their textbooks completely devoid of social skills, dorky yet friendly, slightly akward but fun folks or primarily outgoing individuals with strong social skills and outgoing personalities, the kind of personality that a morally-bound salesperson (if such a thing exists) would have? I realize that the entire spectrum is represented, but how would you describe the average medical student at your schools? Just curious

AJ