Hi everyone,
Sorry for the late replies. I have been preoccupied with some other stuff this week
🙁 But I wont get into that - I think Ive made you guys endure enough of my personal trials and tribulations
🙄 . So
back to business
😳 .
konverse said:
monette
as the last time that i'll be posting a reply to this thread.
Awww, now I'm starting to lose friends on SDN - this is crossing into a new realm of pathetic. Hopefully after reminiscing about the Oh Canada! thread, you'll recall that (although I've always been somewhat of a drama queen
😀 ) I haven't always been such a downer and you'll change your mind and well still be friends
🙂
konverse said:
i must say that this herein lies your problem.
you're seeking advice for a major life decision on an anonymous, public forum. does this make sense? esp the thread on pre-allopathic... that thing is 5 pages long! what i don't understand is why the opinions of people that aren't in med school yet (or at least 75% of them) matter so much to you.
a huge change of mindset comes upon gaining an acceptance to medical school.
You know, I talked to family and a friend who will be matriculating at this same school and they all vehemently discouraged the idea of deferring. The other pre-meds I know are off to the Caribbean or did not get in at all, so you can imagine that I wasnt going to discuss *this* issue with them. I talked to one other person about this issue which I ended up regretting because I felt like I was whining and complaining while they were graciously listening. So I figured at least on a public forum, people volunteer to answer or chide - its not forced. I guess I had no one else to turn to, so I came here. And its not so much that these peoples opinions will dictate the course of action I take, but (since this is such an important decision, relatively speaking), I felt like I needed feedback from people who were familiar with the process, at least more so than my family and my non pre-med friends, who I should add also think Im a nut case.
🙄
konverse said:
my advice to you is this:
if you're still having troubles with this decision, seek out your mentor, a practicing physician or current medical student that you are close with. ask them what the deal is. ask them what really matters. and consider their responses with a lot of weight -- they've been there done that -- that's the reality!
The reason I havent talked to my mentor about this is because he is a foreign medical graduate. He will not sympathize. I know most people wont but he doesnt really know the process, you know. Maybe Im not being objective by filtering out the people whose advice will preclude an encouragement towards a deferral. Maybe that should tell me where my heart really is. But right when I start drafting a letter requesting one, I go through the ten thousand reasons a rational human being would have against doing it. Maybe I should post in the allo forum. If I keep this up, omniscient SDN gods err mods are going to ban me by virtue of my being more annoying than the Spice Girls and their Grrrl Powah AND the Macarena combined.
konverse said:
but all in all, it is what u decide.
as one last point, i can say that having done my undergrad at mcgill, i've had some exposure to the different medical schools in and around montreal. and i can understand that each have their own strengths and weaknesses. with this is mind, i believe the responsibility is solely on the student to tap into those strengths and maximize them. if u want a research position with a top clinician at the montreal general, then by all means go for it. <just an example of course>. your school ain't gonna come in the way of that. approach your education with the mindset of learning the most and doing the best and i'm pretty sure you'll be fine.
I know this is such sound advice. You know, I am a level-headed girl with a good head on her shoulders (or at least I like to flatter myself and think so
😛 ) although you wouldnt gather as much after reading this and the pre-allo threads
😎 . This dilemma has reduced me to an indecisive emotional mess. I hate it, I hate what it has done to me and I hate what I have made others endure because of it
🙁 . I really do know you are giving me sage advice and yet
Yes, yes
There is still a yet.
konverse said:
Why thank you! You too! After trashing those Levis of course
😀 . Just kidding. Oh and just out of curiosity, did the Canadian school come through for you?